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When I got up this morning (to go to work) I checked on DH and 8wk DS. DH was feeding him. I said "how did it go last night?" He said "I did not get any sleep, he kept me up all night" I said "was he fussy and crying?" DH said "yes, I think he was just really irritable" DS has peak moments of the day when gets fussy. Yesterday, he was fussy around 12noon and finally fell asleep, and then he gets fussy in the wee hours of the morning.<br><br><br>
I worry about DH and then I don't worry. I worry because DH takes care of him Monday-Thursday from like all day until 6:30pm (until I come home from work and go to bed)-maybe 12:30 (if I can stay up that long) sometimes I am too tired. I felt so bad for him this morning because he looked so sleepy as he was feeding DS. Now, the good thing about DS is he is a good sleeper during the day, I asked DH if could nap with him during the day to catch up on sleep lost during the night. He said he would. I worry because I don't want him to get burned out. I keep asking DH if he is okay, he keep saying he is fine and will let me know if he feels that way.<br><br>
Then again, I take care of DS from Friday night, all day Saturday, with maybe a 2hour break, nighttime feedings, all day Sunday until it is time to go to bed. Basically the whole weekend. I try to tell DH this is the time he should be resting. But since DH is self employed, he says he needs that time to work to make money. My stepdaughter (who is 11) came over this weekend, and she has been feeling a little jealous of the baby so to make it up to her he took her to the movies (another nice break for him). So all in all, he has a had an almost baby free weekend.<br><br>
So this why I am trying not to feel too sorry for him. But then, the nighttime feedings are hard when they won't go back to sleep until 2 or 3 hours later like 7am and then it is time to go to work. Anyone else suffers thru this?
 

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How old is your baby? Is he on cow milk formula as well as your milk? Could he have a dairy sensitivity? This can make babies very fussy and not sleep well.<br><br>
If he is on breastmilk only, you would need to cut all dairy out of your diet, and give it time, up to 4 weeks, for it to leave your system and your ds.'<br><br>
It sounds like you and your dh are doing a good job, co-operatively parenting!
 

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Hi NewMommy, I have a 4 month old and he still occasionally wakes up and stays up for 2 - 3 hours at a time. He did this ALL the time when he was a newborn! I know I keep mentioning this but the co-sleeping did make a difference. Every night he would wake up and stay up and I was completely insane from sleep deprivation. Once he was next to me in bed, he had less of these wakings where he would cry for hours on end. Also, I cut out dairy from my diet and other foods that seem to create gas. You are using formula - maybe a switch would help?<br><br>
I think these wakings are normal. Babies aren't really wired to sleep properly especially for the first 3 months! Your frustrations are normal. I am around the clock caregiver for my ds - my dh works nights and weekends and I let him sleep uninterrupted since he has a long drive to work. Most times I can hack it but my husband has bruise marks in his arms where I grabbed in one night. I had been up for 4 hours straight and 2 days with hardly any sleep. I woke my husband up and said, "Do something"; I grabbed his arms so tight,I left marks! Not on purpose. He said I looked desperate. I'm being honest - sleep deprivation is not a good thing! I think wearing the baby and holding the baby as much as possible during the times you are together is a good thing. Also, just be patient. Once you hit the 3 month mark, you will see a marked improvement!<br>
Take care!
 

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I was really LMAS!! Your post was so funny, thank you I really needed a good laugh. My DS is a little over 2 months. The hardest times for me regarding him is when he gets fussy and I don't know what is wrong with him especially after I have tried everything else. It ALWAYS help me to hear other stories of new mommies going thru the same thing!
 

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I'm sorry, this is off topic, but I have to jump in because I've been reading NewMommy's posts and just can't believe that a mother with an 8 week old babe has already had to go back to work! It just floors me! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"><br><br>
I can't understand why the U.S. is so behind the times with regards to parental leave. In Canada we now get 1 year leave with govt paid support, plus many companies chip in extra money for the first 3 - 6 months. A mother is guaranteed her job back after the one year period. Most European coutries have the same or better benefits than Canada.<br><br>
I just feel so sorry for all the moms who, for financial reasons, have to go back to work so soon.
 
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