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My husband is deployed and I am so overwhelmed. The house is a disaster. I can never get caught up on laundry and dishes, so a good friend suggested that I hire a mother's helper to watch/play with my girls ( 3 yo & 5 mo) while I get some things done around the house.<br><br>
My good friend got the name of a high school student who is wanting to earn money before she leaves for college is August.<br><br>
Does anyone have a mother's helper? How much do you pay them? How many hours do they help you a week? What do you have them do?<br><br>
Sorry I can't edit the title, it should read mother's helper.
 

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I think this is a fabulous idea..I'm going through some serious burn out right now...I'm thinking of getting a babysitter for an hour every other night so I can run.<br><br>
I too wonder how much to pay a m/h
 

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I occasionally hire my 11.5 yo or my just about 13yo as a mother's helper and I pay them $5/hr to look after their 28 month old brother and 2.5 month old sister.
 

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Everyone I've known that does this seems to pay $5-$10 an hour. I'll probably hire one for a bit when I have my baby in January.
 

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Where do you find mother's helpers? Are they basically just a babysitter?<br><br>
I am getting close to or beyond burned out. I don't think I've had a real break in over 3 months. It's been a long time, and even then it was only a few hours.<br><br>
I need someone to babysit for a few hours so I can get some things done. So, I hear you!
 

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I think mother's helpers are a great idea. Have you considered having your mother's helper do the stuff around the house, like laundry or whatever? Then you could use that time to have fun with your kids? I mean, if you need a break from the little ones then maybe that's not what you're looking for. But in the city I used to live in I think a lot of mother's helpers were hired to do chores so mom didn't miss out on time with the kids. I guess it depends on your needs/what you're looking for.
 

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Not now, but I used to. She was a middle school student who was looking forward to being a real babysitter one day, but was starting out as a MH. She charged $3/hour. I think nowadays that $5/hour would be reasonable. She played with the kids downstairs while I wrote. It was terrific and gave me the break I needed and her the experience she needed. She came twice a week for two hours each time.<br><br>
I would never hire a MH to do housework. That would make her a maid, and I can't afford fair wages for a maid. Paying a MH less than a regular babysitter is fair, imo, since I'm in the house the whole time, just a step away, and the MH does not take on full responsibility for the kids. But housework is housework. My being there doesn't make it any less work.<br><br>
Besides, for me the whole point of a MH is to get a break from the kids!<br><br>
eta: if you don't know any students, you could always try to guidance office of your local middle/high school.
 

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When my hubby was deployed last I had a 4 year old and 1 year old twins. I hired a maid service to come in once a week to clean. I think it cost around $65 each time, after an initial not-so-cheap deep cleaning. It was probably about the same price as having a mother's helper, just a different kind of help. The only catch was I had to pick up the crap first, which, looking back, was not such a bad thing. Usually I would focus more on clutter pick-up and not cleaning, but with the maids coming in, I had a neat AND clean home (at least for a minute!).<br><br>
That's what I did, but these days (and another baby later), I too am looking into hiring a helper (AND probably a maid service again when hubby deploys next). I say the money is worth it if it keeps you out of the loony bin! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I was a mother's helper for a year when I was in college--our families had known each other forever, so when they moved to the town where I went to school, called me and asked if I could do it. Three kids: 13, 10, and 1. With this particular situation the mother was at home with a terminal illness, and the father's mom also came several times a week to help cook and clean. During that time the mom was able to do a good bit around the house with the baby, but couldn't drive at all and also needed a lot of rest in the afternoons. I mainly did errands, picked kids up from school, took them to lessons and church, LOTS of grocery shopping, got the older ones started on homework, and took care of the baby if mom was asleep. I went 4 days a week for 3-4 hrs/day and they paid $100/week, although it was a 30 min drive each way for me, plus the constant use of my car really ate up alot of the income. (O/T, but I would have done it for free--would not trade that experience for anything. The only reason I did not continue longer was that the grandmother moved in full-time as the illness worsened and they couldn't really use me anymore.) Anyway thought I would share my experience... Potentially a MH could be not only extra hands but a wonderful relationship also. Best of luck.
 

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I have heard that looking for homeschooled mother's helpers works well in terms of scheduling, since they don't have school during the day.<br><br>
I want a mother's helper!!
 

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If it is a girl younger than high school age I would go with minimum wage, if it is someone you plan to leave alone with your child or higschool age I would go with $10 per hour.<br><br>
btw - I would never pay anyone (regardless of their age) less than min. wage it gives them the wrong message.
 

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I think part time chld care runs maybe $30 a day in these parts, so I think thaht would be acceptable for a session of 2-4 hours. My cousin just did this and loved it. The girl came in (with recommendations) and just played with the baby in the living room for a few hours while my cousin ran around the house and caught up everything she needed to. She was in and out so keeping an eye on things in case baby needed to nurse or whatever. It seems like a really good idea.
 

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When my DH was deployed the neighbor girl came over about 3-4x a week for a few hours to play with DS. She was 12 or 13 and I paid her $5 an hour. Half the time she wouldn't take the money because she just enjoyed it so much and thought it was silly to get paid to play <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">! I used the time to clean and do work in the yard. You might want to check out your local YMCA. Ours has a "Safe Sitter" class for 10-15 year olds that teaches all about playing with children in a developmentally appropriate way, some basic first aid, etc. One of our neighbors has an 11 yo DD who just finished the class and I'm thinking of hiring her to play with my kids for a few hours so I can vacuum (my 2 yo bursts in shrieking fear whenever I take that thing out of the closet, so my floors are in desperate need <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">!)
 

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I have two:<br><br>
- a 15 year old girl who comes over and plays with the kids, makes cookies with ds1 and dd, goes with us on field trips etc. I pay her $6.25 an hour at present.<br><br>
- a 10 year old boy. He comes over and cleans the house, I mean really scrubs it. He is awesome. He sweeps, vacuums, mops, scrubs the tub, cleans the bathroom, puts toys away. He even brings his own "green" cleaning supplies with him! I pay him $8 an hour and will slowly be increasing it to $10.<br><br>
I met both of them through a local homeschooling yahoogroup.
 

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$5/hr. for high school student, more for college student.<br>
I've had them do everything from entertain kids to dishes and laundry, run errands for me if they drive, or wait in the car with my kids while I run an errand or two.<br>
Any amount of hours, whatever works for you and the MH.<br>
Well worth the sanity!
 

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It's a thought. But now my older 3 kids are in camp, and by the time fall rolls around, they'll be in school/preschool. And really, after spending years of trying to get things done with so many little kids around, having just one is pretty easy.<br><br>
But, in retrospect, I should have had one for the last year or two!
 

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I think price depends on age/experience and your location. I've hired MH for $5 an hour in the past, for 2 kids. I did this so I could do some part time WAH, and it worked out really well. The MH we chose happened to be friends of the family, and the kids really enjoyed having them come over to play.<br><br>
The only drawback I found was having to drive to pick up the MH to come over... it's much nicer if it's a neighbor kid who can just walk over!
 

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I just hired one for the summer so I can work(I WAH). I pay her 6.50 p/h, I plan to get a next one when the summer is up, hopefully someone in walking distance (my MH for now gets dropped off and then she catches the bus back) and someone a little more active/talkative hopefully. I wouldn't hire her again.<br><br>
I do believe it is a good idea to have one. In the 'older days' there use to be family around to help (at least in my parents and so on times) and it is good to take a break.
 
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