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I've really got two questions: One is simply asking if anyone knows what the rates of wet nursing are these days and the other is as follows.<br><br>
My 53-yo aunt, who is a bf'ing goddess -- bf'd all three of her kids in the late seventies/early eighties until they were three, wet nursed her friend's baby, and told her daughter she would re-lactate for her when she has kids if she needed it, and loves to talk about all of these things as much as possible -- is also the aunt to my cousin who has asked me to care for her 8-week old when she goes back to work. My cousin is somewhat mainstream, but it's more "by default" as she is a very open-minded person. She is someone who I thought would never bf, but has jumped into it like a pro. The only thing is she has to return to work after eight weeks and she has a very demanding job, a 1.5 hour commute each way, and really does not feel it is realistic for to pump. So, I am wondering if it would be totally crazy for me to offer to wet nurse her baby. My bf'd DD is currently 5 months old.<br><br>
I mentioned the whole thing about our mutual aunt because if feel if there was ever anyone I could approach it would be my cousin because she has heard all my aunt's bf'ing stories over the years and she is probably the one person who would not freak out on me if she didn't like the idea. Still, it's definitely considered out there to a lot of people. I am just really in a mothering place right now and have this strong "instinct" to give that child a good a start in life as my DD is getting. Not to mention, I dread mixing up formula! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
I would love to hear other peoples' thoughts on this. Thanks for reading!
 

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I personally think it's a fabulous, generous, beautiful offer!!<br><br>
I think there should be more of this between family and friends. Providing you trust the person, which you would if they were watching your child anyhow, why not?! I have friends now who are currently in similar jams, but I don't feel like I know them well enough to offer without them thinking I am a freak.<br>
I would love someone to make a similar offer to me. I wonder why this fell out of practice?<br><br>
Others may feel differently, but I say - Good for you!
 

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You should really encourage her to pump, because the best thing for a baby is it's mother's own milk, which is specially formulated for that baby at that age. She also needs to stimulate her supply. If you are unable to convince her of the importance of pumping, however, then wetnursing would definitely be tons better for the baby than formula!
 

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If your cousin agrees, wet nurse away!! Some friends & I decided that in the right situation (babysitting & mom's not here and baby wants to eat) it'd be ok.
 

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I think it's fantastic! I do it regularly... amounst my friends we have the common mind that it's a pretty normal thing. Several of us are lactating so when there's a need, we fill it! I was just recently able to wet nurse my best friends 11 mo while she had to have surgery for cancer.<br><br>
So I say DO talk with her, what do you have to lose? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I guess that's the real issue. I guess I am just cautious about it because we are finalizing the plans for me to care for her DD come February and I don't want to freak her out so much that she no longer wants me to watch her daughter at all. Being a nanny for her is what is going to allow me to stay at home with my DD and that's important too.
 

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I was afraid I would freak out my mainstream SIL and I almost didn't make the offer, but she surprised me by being totally cool with it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Gosh, if I ever had a child in similar age to my best friend (I'm currently childless, she's bfing her 3 year old dd), I would totally make the offer. I think what a great bonding experience that would be, for you to the child, and also to you and your friend.
 

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I was going to ask my best friend, who I nanny for, the same question but she brought it up first!! She pumps while at work but was concerned that her supply might be affected and was ADAMENT that she didnt' want her DS getting formula. I am her "back up" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> And honestly, if he wasn't dairy sensitive, I would have pursued it with her because he is a big comfort nurser and bottles/paci's just don't cut it! However, I eat dairy and he can't tolerate it. I say ask, but you could always do it in a "Hey, I was on MDC the other night and it got me thinking that if you wanted..." So it's a little less "threatening" if you are worried that she would percieve it that way. Best of luck, what an amazing gift you would be offering!
 

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I used to work for a girl who was a wet nurse. I can't remember what she got paid but she was nursing 2 babies other than her own and loved it. I say go ahead and ask, just make sure she knows that you aren't going to do it w/o her permission!
 
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