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I nursed my DD until around 19 mos. I did wean her, but very gently. She was down to 1 nursing a day and I was freaking out doing it. (I know, excuses excuses) I wanted to make it to 2 years but mentally it was making me crazy. Anyway, I am very pro breastfeeding and ALMOST very much like everyone here except I don't really love nursing. I don't hate it. I am just very neutral about the actual feedings. It's just something that gets done. Feed the baby and of course baby gets breastmilk.<br>
Anyone else just not warm and fuzzy about nursing?<br><br><br>
PS...I am very warm and fuzzy about my son. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I think I know what you mean. I'm kinda getting to the point where it feels like a chore. I'm not planning on stopping anytime soon (worked to hard to get here) But I do find myself day dreaming about the future, where bras don't have access holes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Eh, I don't love it. I love that SHE loves it, but I don't love it. But I'm a martyr at heart <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> she WILL get to nurse as long as she wants come hell or high water.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
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I don't love it either. I like it when she smiles while on the breast or falls asleep with a peaceful expression on her face. But having to sit in a chair for 6-8 hours a day is not my cup of tea.<br><br>
Maybe I'd feel differently if I wasn't having such problems.
 

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I guess I'm the odd one. I LOVE <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> it.
 

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There's times when I don't love it, and there's times when I do. The first year, the hormone rush that came with letdown... loved that. Holding the little bundle and knowing we are still linked, each needing the other not just emotionally but still physically depending on each other too. The feeling of relief when it's time to nurse, you are so full of milk, then dc latches on and the pressure subsides.. aaahhhh that's like a long cold drink on a hot day. Yeah, I really love that!<br><br>
There were times we had troubles and that part, nope, can't say as I miss those days! But the actual act of nursing... I love being able to do that. It's like a lot of things though.. sometimes the actual doing is really great, feels awesome, sometimes it's so "just there" that I hardly would notice I was even doing it. It's different depending on age of child, time of day, whether we are nursing for comfort, sleep, or hunger, whether we are nursing at home or out...<br><br>
But the overall impression is very positive that it can be a most pleasant experience when all is well - with the understanding that yes, it really is <i>also</i> a parenting task that just has to get done. It actually bugs me when people paint a picture of nursing sessions as if the mom sits around in a frilly nightie with soft music playing, blissed out and oblivious to everything but her baby. That's maybe 10% as far as my experience goes, and mostly during the first year. Nursing for us is much more casual, it involves sitting on the couch nursing in a t-shirt hiked up, playing some silly game and laughing both our fool heads off, nursing with ds in arms strolling down store aisles because hey, it's portable and we have stuff to do, nursing at lunch and eating with my left hand awkwardly...<br><br>
and I really love that too!<br><br>
So even when you <i>really</i> love it, it doesn't necessarily mean it's always this wonderful romanticized event. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I don't love it either. It can be painful, annoying, irritatiting, ect.<br><br>
At best it is not. Not on the good side just not much of anything.<br><br>
On the other hand I think it is so important for my kids who have weaned at a little more then 5 and still going at 4 1/2.<br><br>
I also keep telling my self that those needs have to be met somehow (and especially for a person who hates to cook <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> ) nursing was as easy as anything else.
 

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I find that my feelings about breastfeeding my kids are more extreme with a younger baby than with an older child. With an infant, the good things *and* the annoyances are both much bigger. It is more cuddly and more rewarding for me at that age, but also more uncomfortable (engorgement, mastitis with DS1, thrush with DS2) and inconvenient (due to frequency of feedings). With a toddler, there is less inconvenience for me and it's also a little less warm and fuzzy.<br><br>
Of course, there was one really wonderful time just before DS1 weaned. The poor guy had bitten his lip while brushing teeth at bedtime and just totally melted down and the only thing that calmed him down was nursing. We hadn't nursed at bedtime in months, but it worked for him that night, and he nursed to sleep, another thing he hadn't done in months. It was wonderful and cozy and recaptured the nursing bliss of his infancy. He stopped nursing a week or two later. I don't remember the last time he nursed (I didn't know it was the last at the time), instead that time he nursed to sleep is what I remember. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
With DS2, we're in a phase now where the early awkwardness is gone and he doesn't have to eat constantly. Most of the time it's just really nice and snuggly when he nurses, very enjoyable. I wonder what he will be like as a toddler when he nurses...
 

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I LOVE the convenience. I love knowing that I'm giving my babies what they are meant to have and not an imitation. I miss nursing Ben at times. I planned to wean around 18 months, and weaned at 17.5 months. Ben was down to one nursing every 2 days or so. Sometimes I can't wait to nurse Bunkie, sometimes I can't believe I'm going to have to nurse Bunkie.<br><br>
I felt very ambivalent about nursing Ben after about 10 months. He was not a pleasant nurser. We were homeless from 7-11 months of age, and then we were all alone in a strange place. I was literally at my wit's end (I was considering placing him with CPS because I felt I was unfit and perhaps dangerous, and DH attempted suicide). I just couldn't handle the pinching, yanking, squirming, etc. Then when I started getting myself back together (14 months), I went on Depo, and it was VERY painful.<br><br>
Excuses, excuses, i know, but even with all of that, I still made it to my nursing goal. I'm proud of that. I won't be having those problems this time around, and Bunkie is already less squirmy than Ben was at this stage, so I'm hoping that works in my favor. I'd even consider nursing to 2 and beyond, but Dh would rather I not, so we'll have to reach a compromise between the 3 of us when the time comes.<br><br>
But loving it? No. No romantic notions here. It is what it is. A feeding method. The <i>best</i> feeding method, but nothing more.
 

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No, I don't love it all the time. Evan still nurses at least 18x a day at 10.5 mos so sometimes I downright hate it and wish he'd take a bottle (which sometimes he does) or at least cut back on nursings. I definitely didn't love it w/ my first, it was hard. I had supply issues and cried at every feeding from the pain till he was 9 wks old and then I had to give a bottle on top of nursing. I guess bfing is just tiring at my house!
 

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If both of my boys weaned tomorrow I would be thrilled. We never got all our problems sorted out, and it has always been uncomfortable. However, they still like it, and youngest ds really seems to need it, so nurse on we do.
 

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I'm another one that doesn't like it. We got off to a rough start, things have not totally improved and I'm fighting low milk supply which just drains me. I'm very disappointed because I expected to love it.
 

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Sometimes I love it, sometimes I really don't even like it.<br>
When she is squirming and arching, or upset and not latching on, or scratching my breast, I can't wait for it to be over. When she is contentedly sucking, or looking up at me, or nursing to sleep, it is so sweet. I guess I like it as long as it doesn't hurt <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> I'm glad I can nurse her though, I'd be so sad to miss out on it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">There's times when I don't love it, and there's times when I do. The first year, the hormone rush that came with letdown... loved that. Holding the little bundle and knowing we are still linked, each needing the other not just emotionally but still physically depending on each other too. The feeling of relief when it's time to nurse, you are so full of milk, then dc latches on and the pressure subsides.. aaahhhh that's like a long cold drink on a hot day. Yeah, I really love that!<br><br>
There were times we had troubles and that part, nope, can't say as I miss those days! But the actual act of nursing... I love being able to do that. It's like a lot of things though.. sometimes the actual doing is really great, feels awesome, sometimes it's so "just there" that I hardly would notice I was even doing it. It's different depending on age of child, time of day, whether we are nursing for comfort, sleep, or hunger, whether we are nursing at home or out...<br><br>
But the overall impression is very positive that it can be a most pleasant experience when all is well - with the understanding that yes, it really is <i>also</i> a parenting task that just has to get done. It actually bugs me when people paint a picture of nursing sessions as if the mom sits around in a frilly nightie with soft music playing, blissed out and oblivious to everything but her baby. That's maybe 10% as far as my experience goes, and mostly during the first year. Nursing for us is much more casual, it involves sitting on the couch nursing in a t-shirt hiked up, playing some silly game and laughing both our fool heads off, nursing with ds in arms strolling down store aisles because hey, it's portable and we have stuff to do, nursing at lunch and eating with my left hand awkwardly...<br><br>
and I really love that too!<br><br>
So even when you <i>really</i> love it, it doesn't necessarily mean it's always this wonderful romanticized event. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: It doesn't have to be this frilly shirt lovey dovey thing (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">).
 

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I really love nursing my dd who is now almost three and nurses only twice a day, once in the morning and once at night, but I have gone through periods where I didn't love it much at all but kept doing it because it was still so important to dd and still is. Usually these periods coincided with stress and with me not sleeping as much as I needed to and I got through them by taking time for me and sleeping whenever I could. I also realized that she was nursing a lot out of boredom and now we go to the park or for a walk daily and I play a lot of toys and do art with her so she doesn't think that she only gets attention from nursing. This cut her nursing time in half within a few days and set her on the road to weaning herself which has happened fairly quickly since I realized that she needed more one on one time and stimulation.
 

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I really liked bf'ing my daughter after she was 12 weeks old (we got off to a rough stat) and she self weaned (don't ask don't offer) at 17 months. I am now bf'ing my twin sons and it is a lot harder and I am not enjoying it as much! I am always naked! LOL. But really, if I feed them one at a time it is OK but I nurse both at once at night and its overstimulation, but I need the sleep so I put up with it. Getting 2 squirmy 9 weeks old latched on at 4 am means *owie* for me!<br>
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I'm with everyone. Sometimes i love it, some times i don't. I like the bonding and knowing she's gettign the best and not having to fix bottles and how easy it can be. But when she's nursing and I'm trying to fix some food for myself, or when she wakes up 7 times at night and wants to nurse back to sleep, or when my nipples get sore from her nursing at such odd angles through the night, or when i wish i could just go to the gym and leave DH to put her to sleep...i have to remind myself why we're doing so. That, and i think whether i'd rather get up and fix a bottle, and that ans. is always no. It's like everything in life, there's good, there's some 'bad', but there's a reason for it all.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Sometimes I love it, sometimes I really don't even like it.<br>
When she is squirming and arching, or upset and not latching on, or scratching my breast, I can't wait for it to be over. When she is contentedly sucking, or looking up at me, or nursing to sleep, it is so sweet. I guess I like it as long as it doesn't hurt <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> I'm glad I can nurse her though, I'd be so sad to miss out on it.</div>
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Me too!! DD just turned 2 and is still nursing a lot, especially at night. It was hard to get started (and painful) and then I went through a long period of really loving it most of the time. These days, I am really tired of the touching, scratching, waking up at night (even though we co-sleep and I don't wake up all the time), being trapped in a chair, etc.<br><br>
I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling this way, and I also wouldn't trade nursing for not nursing, but I'm starting to think I'll appreciate it when we're done!
 

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I completely adore nursing my little man. Even when I had thrush, it was just so rewarding to have this special relationship with him--just the two of us. I can't imagine this changing in the future. I don't want to take it for granted, 'cause I know it will all be over one day.
 
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