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I really need all of your opinions. I feel REALLY bad. I am almost completely non-functional. I am nauseous, dizzy, lightheaded, and extremely weak. I know that the nausea and some weakness is normal, but this seems extreme to me. I just called my midwife and she doesn't seem concerned. She said that all my bloodwork came back normal and that it's probably just because I'm nursing a toddler and early pregnancy is hitting me really hard. She told me to really try to get rest, and I told her that I have been doing nothing but rest. My dh has rearranged his schedule so that he's home during the day. He takes care of everything: dd, the house, meals, shopping, etc. I feel so bad that I'm not able to drive, go shopping, take care of my dd, nothing. It's even hard for me to sit here and type this. Please reassure me. Could it really be normal to feel this bad during early pregnancy? Dizzy/lightheaded all the time with no break? Extreme weakness to the point that I can't grocery shop? This has been going on for 2 weeks now. And on top of that I always feel like I need to puke. I had an ultrasound, and the baby's fine and my bloodwork's fine, so what in the heck is going on?
 

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Are you eating and drinking enough? With preg. and nursing both you need to be drinking a TON of water and eating a HUGE amount of highly nutritious foods. Mild dehydration and/or low blood sugar can cause all of the problems you mention- and the feeling like needing to puke can cause you to not eat/drink enough. I'd double check your blood pressure isn't an issue too though, just to be sure.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I hope you are feeling much better soon.
 

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No advice, but <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">, mama. Hang in there!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Are you eating and drinking enough? With preg. and nursing both you need to be drinking a TON of water and eating a HUGE amount of highly nutritious foods. Mild dehydration and/or low blood sugar can cause all of the problems you mention- and the feeling like needing to puke can cause you to not eat/drink enough. I'd double check your blood pressure isn't an issue too though, just to be sure.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I hope you are feeling much better soon.</div>
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No, unfortunately the nausea is preventing me from eating and drinking enough. And the things that I'm able to keep down the easiest are certainly NOT highly nutritious. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Thanks so much for responding. I'll have my blood pressure checked too to see if it's low.
 

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I'm sorry to say that you sound just like me... It really is dehydration, etc, as pp said. Water/fluid is so important for our bodies!<br><br>
I have hyperemesis again and feel pretty much as you describe. In the 3 days a week that dh is home, he does everything, and I mean everything while I spend most of the time in bed or in the bathroom. On the days when he is out of town, I lie in bed until I absolutely have to get up to take dd1 somewhere, etc, and then get back into it until our pt nanny arrives in the evenings. Correction, I don't get out of bed when she comes unless I have to...she rescues the girls and takes them to the park, feeds them, etc.<br><br>
I do have some good days where I can function normally for a few hours...they are infrequent.<br><br>
It sucks. BIG TIME. I've been like this for at least the first half of all of my pregnancies and it's one of the fundamental reasons that we thought we were "done" after #2. It's just too hard for all of us.<br><br>
I hope that it is very temporary for you!!!<br><br>
This time around, I'm surrendering and not fighting it so much and things feel a bit easier for all of us... For example, even though I know I'm going to throw up (or feel like it) I still eat as much as I can anyway. Even having something in my stomach for a few minutes is helping with my energy. My goal each time is to hold it in for 30 min. Sorry for the TMI. With dd2 I just couldn't bear it and thought it wasn't worth it to eat or drink at all. After about 3 days I would end up in the hospital again, etc.<br><br>
This time, I'm taking it one day at a time and I know that we will get through this and be okay.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm sorry to say that you sound just like me... It really is dehydration, etc, as pp said. Water/fluid is so important for our bodies!<br><br>
I have hyperemesis again and feel pretty much as you describe. In the 3 days a week that dh is home, he does everything, and I mean everything while I spend most of the time in bed or in the bathroom. On the days when he is out of town, I lie in bed until I absolutely have to get up to take dd1 somewhere, etc, and then get back into it until our pt nanny arrives in the evenings. Correction, I don't get out of bed when she comes unless I have to...she rescues the girls and takes them to the park, feeds them, etc.<br><br>
I do have some good days where I can function normally for a few hours...they are infrequent.<br><br>
It sucks. BIG TIME. I've been like this for at least the first half of all of my pregnancies and it's one of the fundamental reasons that we thought we were "done" after #2. It's just too hard for all of us.<br><br>
I hope that it is very temporary for you!!!<br><br>
This time around, I'm surrendering and not fighting it so much and things feel a bit easier for all of us... For example, even though I know I'm going to throw up (or feel like it) I still eat as much as I can anyway. Even having something in my stomach for a few minutes is helping with my energy. My goal each time is to hold it in for 30 min. Sorry for the TMI. With dd2 I just couldn't bear it and thought it wasn't worth it to eat or drink at all. After about 3 days I would end up in the hospital again, etc.<br><br>
This time, I'm taking it one day at a time and I know that we will get through this and be okay.</div>
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I'm sorry you feel so bad too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Do you also have dizzyness/lightheadedness and weakness in addition to the nausea?
 

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A few thoughts on the dehydration:<br>
Try drinking gatoraid or other drinks with electrolights - sometimes these stay down better and give you things you need. Vitamin water is also good. I also liked cup of soup- the salt seemed to help the nausea- Water was harder for me to drink than these other things.<br><br>
Take a warm bath- you can actually absorb some water through your skin, it may help for at least a short period.
 

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I feel ya mama! I was the EXACT SAME WAY with my 2 1/2 yr old! I was so dizzy I could barely walk, I couldn't drive esp. turning right or left or going around a curve made it so much worse and I was running off the road. I never vomited but felt nausea so severely I could barely eat. What I found out from my doc was it was a dominoe effect from not eating due to the nausea. If you don't eat and drink enough it makes you run down and very dizzy. I lost 15lbs in 2 weeks with my 2yr old ds. I was put on Zofran and it was a lifesaver! I felt better after I got pass the 8-10 weeks point, then I no longer needed the meds. You can either get Zofran or force yourself to eat and drink (which will be very hard when you feel rotten).<br><br>
Good Luck!!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">:
 

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Mama_b,<br>
Yes, I'm really weak and often get lightheaded. I haven't noticed much dizzyness though...unless I get up too fast. Today, I went to church and then we went for a quick lunch afterwards. We were back home at 2pm and I had to take a nap and have been in bed ever since (it's after 9 now). I still feel like it zapped everything I had. Really frustrating and humbling...<br><br>
I'm able to keep down coca-cola and these natural fruit juice and sea salt recharge drinks...and some days actual fruit. In my last pregnancy, my midwives said it was all about the calories and we would worry about nutrition later. Whatever I felt like I could eat, I had a green light.<br><br>
This time, I'm more limited because dd2 is still nursing and is allergic to dairy and soy. But, whatever gets past those restrictions is fair game! Oh, please don't tell me that coca-cola has soy in it! I didn't even think to check! Ack.<br><br>
Seriously though, see if you can manage to eat or drink anyway and just go with the vomiting instead of trying to avoid it. It seems to be helping me slow down the cycle a bit. Just chew your food up really, really well so it doesn't hurt so much and keep baking soda in the bathroom to rinse your mouth with. It helps with the acid. Sheesh, I sound like a bulimic!!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Keep bugging your hcp, though. My first pregnancy they kept telling me it had to be the stomach flu (lost 16 lbs) and in the second they told me we wouldn't know it was hyperemesis until after the first trimester. That's not true at all. I lost 20 lbs by 14 weeks. If you're seriously dehydrated and losing weight, intervention is important. Can you monitor your ketones and weight at home?<br><br>
OTMamma,<br>
That's funny what you said about the bath water. Makes sense and I always feel better during and after baths.
 

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My midwife definitely thinks it's from pregnancy. She's not dismissing my symptoms, and she is concerned about my weight loss, but she seems to think that it will get better after the first trimester and as of right now is not overly worried. It could possibly be hyperemesis, but I don't think that I'm vomiting enough for it to be that.
 

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i'm feeling really similar to you and it is so hard <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Hi Mama_b... I wasn't nursing a toddler during my early pregnancy, and I can really see how that could complicate things.<br><br>
But when I was laying in bed for almost three months straight, I often tried to imagine how I could possibly be caring for another child at the same time. I know I was eating and drinking enough... and I only puked when I had the flu.<br><br>
I was so, so sleepy and weak. (Yes, my iron levels were fine, even high.) And I had incredible motion sickness (no, not morning sickness- MOTION sickness). I couldn't read books, or sit at the computer, or ride in the car, or use the staircase- without becoming terribly disoriented, dizzy, and queasy.<br><br>
The <span style="text-decoration:underline;">only</span> thing that worked for me was to eat what I was hungry for, and lay in bed with my eyes closed. I wore motion sickness bands continually.<br><br>
But it passed. It started going away at 12 weeks, and was gone by 16 weeks. Taking the whole scenario into account, I'm not sure I want to make another baby unless I have full time extra help- I was seriously not competent to take care of things.<br><br>
I hope it gets better soon for you mama...<br>
Lisa
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hi Mama_b... I wasn't nursing a toddler during my early pregnancy, and I can really see how that could complicate things.<br><br>
But when I was laying in bed for almost three months straight, I often tried to imagine how I could possibly be caring for another child at the same time. I know I was eating and drinking enough... and I only puked when I had the flu.<br><br>
I was so, so sleepy and weak. (Yes, my iron levels were fine, even high.) And I had incredible motion sickness (no, not morning sickness- MOTION sickness). I couldn't read books, or sit at the computer, or ride in the car, or use the staircase- without becoming terribly disoriented, dizzy, and queasy.<br><br>
The <span style="text-decoration:underline;">only</span> thing that worked for me was to eat what I was hungry for, and lay in bed with my eyes closed. I wore motion sickness bands continually.<br><br>
But it passed. It started going away at 12 weeks, and was gone by 16 weeks. Taking the whole scenario into account, I'm not sure I want to make another baby unless I have full time extra help- I was seriously not competent to take care of things.<br><br>
I hope it gets better soon for you mama...<br>
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Thank you! That is EXACTLY how I feel! It's like bad motion sickness, or how you feel when you have a really bad hangover. I'm glad to hear that it started clearing up around 12 weeks. And I know what you mean about having another. I originally wanted at least 4 kids. But after this pregnancy I don't think I can go through this again, and I DO have almost full time help.
 

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I was that way, too, with this pregnancy!! It was absolutely horrible. Around week ten, after feeling so rotten for at least five weeks, I had an insight to play with my prenatal vitamins, which I've been on for over three years (since the pregnancy and through now, with nursing my 2.5 yo ds). I realized they were the culprit!! I experimented- had been taking them in morning for all those years, and then with this pregnancy I waited until later, or in the evening, or on a stomach that had anything at all in it, and found that it didn't matter when I took them or what was in me- they caused me to throw up every time for the rest of the 24 hour period.<br>
So, perhaps you want to experiement and see if perhaps that's the issuse.<br>
I still have not returned to taking them and I'm 17 weeks. Granted, not taking them didn't cure everything, but it was certainly the cause of the severity of my symptoms.<br>
Best of luck.
 

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You're 8 weeks pg? What you're describing sounds JUST like me at 8 weeks with this pregnancy. This one has been miserable, I had several weeks during which I was essentially non-functional but still *had* to function to take care of my two sons (4 y/o and 22 mos) and my nephew (7 mos), whom I babysit. Not fun. I'm also nursing my toddler. Pregnancy when you have small children to take care of is a whole different animal from the first pregnancy, when you think you have it hard, but really have plenty of free time and reserve energy!<br><br>
Oh, and grocery shopping? Pshaw, I had several weeks during which I didn't set foot in a store (exhaustion + hypersensitive sense of smell = grocery stores are EVIL!), didn't cook, barely cleaned at all. My amazing DH, who is already a very active domestic partner, stepped up above and beyond his usual helpfulness and did all the shopping, got takeout or cooked, and has taken over some of the household chores that I used to do. He sees it as his role - I grow the baby, he takes on more of the other work. I'm glad to hear that you have a DH who does this, too!<br><br>
It will get better soon, really! Last week (10 weeks pg) I started feeling much better. Not 100% my usual self, but compared to the puddle of mom I was before that, this new slightly-less-tired, slightly-less-nauseated me is a vast improvement. This week (I'll be 11 weeks pg tomorrow) I'm feeling much more able to handle my normal routine. I know from my history that I probably won't be fully out of the first trimester yuck until about 14 weeks.<br><br><br>
(((hugs))) I hope the next few weeks pass QUICKLY for you!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thank you! That is EXACTLY how I feel! It's like bad motion sickness, or how you feel when you have a really bad hangover. I'm glad to hear that it started clearing up around 12 weeks. And I know what you mean about having another. I originally wanted at least 4 kids. But after this pregnancy I don't think I can go through this again, and I DO have almost full time help.</div>
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Yes this was me this pregnancy. Oh how awful it was. I just wanted to curl up under my desk and sleep. Around 12 weeks it improved drastically but I didn't feel "normal" until about 18 weeks. Just eat what you can keep down and drink what you can. For some weird reason the only time I could deal with water was if it was ice cold. Normally I drink it right from the tap. I couldn't stomach things like cucumbers but I ate cream of broccoli soup, from Quiznos, every day for two weeks.
 

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FWIW, although I know my case was kind of a fluke, but you never know ...<br><br>
From my positive HPT to about 7 weeks I felt fantastic. Great appetite, energy, glow, happy, etc. At about 7 weeks it all started to go downhill. Started feeling nauseous and tired. Then, started vomiting and fatigue set in. By week 9 I was wiped out most of the time, and lactose intolerance set in. By week 11 I had diarrhea. Week 12 I still had diarrhea, even though I had tried my no-fail diarrhea cure 3 times to no avail.<br><br>
My OB was thrilled saying that it sounded like a healthy pregnancy. I told him over and over again, that I do *not* get pregnancy-related nausea/vomiting. I just don't. I breeze through pregnancy. Still, he found nothing wrong with me.<br><br>
When the diarrhea just wouldn't go away and I was worried about my nutrition and hydration, and the baby's health of course. He finally said I should go for a stool analysis. Came back that I had giardia lamblia (a very common stomach parasite). I told him again that I *knew* it was not from the pregnancy.<br><br>
After the first two pills of my 15-pill course of antibiotics I was instantly restored to my energetic, glowing, hungry pregnant self.<br><br>
So, personally, I don't automatically buy into the "it's the pregnancy" argument. I would look into it further. In my case, the vomiting, fatigue, nausea, lactose intolerance, etc. all were present at least two weeks *before* the diarrhea. So, nobody thought to check me for a parasite, even though every single one of those symptoms was being caused by the giardia. And I was totally wiped out. I would get DD ready for school, send her off on the bus, and climb onto the sofa and stay there until she got home at 1:00.<br><br>
The most likely way I got the parasite was that it was already in my gut in the larval or "cyst" stage. Normal stomach acidity can prevent the cysts from developing into a full blown parasite. Pregnancy changes the acidity of your gut and gives the cyst just the opportunity it needs to develop.<br><br>
I probably had the cyst in my gut all along. And, giardia lamblia apparently is the most common stomach parasite in the U.S. You can get it from swimming in contaminated pools.<br><br>
Hope you feel better soon!
 

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I am sorry to say that's how I was. It was miserable. The best improvements for the morning sickness were Coca-Cola (8 sips first thing in the morning, per my midwife) and SeaBands bracelets. But I was basically disabled. It ended, that's the best part. I have no idea how I would have coped with a toddler and that. Basically I was starving myself, but the baby was fine, used my fat reserves...the worst diet I have ever been on! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> In retrospect, I wish I had never wavered in believing it would end, I had set up an in-bed entertainment system for myself earlier (think laptop and DVDs), and I had called for reinforcements before my DH got maxed out and resentful. My MW gave me permission to just worry about getting calories in and not worry about whether they were healthful, that made me feel better...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> (because I was eating mostly carbs anyway).
 
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