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I don't know why this bothers me, but it does. My dd is a quick learner in a lot of ways (has known her letters for a LONG time, can distinguish them, not just say them in order, counts to 20, understands some basics of another language, etc) but for some reason she does not SING yet, and I don't know if that is "normal" or not. She has lots of songs that she loves AND knows the words to, but when she hears the song playing instead of singing the actual words, she just goes "la da da" or something like that...<br><br>
So I am curious, does your toddler sing?
 

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ALL THE TIME! Literally. She knows the words to about a dozen songs and is constantly making new ones up, but we do have a very musical family.
 

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see that's the thing...i know she "knows" all the words too, and I will hear her TELL her babies or her little imaginary friend about them, but if i suggest that she sing the words, she just goes "la la la" and dances around....she makes up stories, she SPEAKS songs, but doesn't sing them...
 

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My 2 1/2 yo DS sings all the time. In our Music Together class, our instructor actually stresses that it is not important if your child sings the actual words to a song. It is more important that they hear the tune. In fact, a lot of the songs on the Music Together CDs are a lot of "noises" and "la la la".
 

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Dd sings all the time too, but she often won't sing to a recording, I think because she has difficulty matching the pitch and rhythm accurately. She can definitely get close enough that when she is singing by herself it is often obvious what song she is singing, but she just doesn't enjoy it when there is a recording playing.<br><br>
She also goes through phases, a month ago she knew the alphabet song almost in entirety, but then she didn't sing it for weeks. Today she did it again and forgot some of it, but I'm sure it'll come back.
 

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All the time. It's the way he entertains himself in the car or wherever. He sings songs he knows and makes stuff up. I sing a lot too though, and always make silly songs up and so on.<br><br>
It doesn't strike me as strange that a toddler wouldn't sing along to recorded music. I certainly wouldn't have thought it had anything to do with being a 'quick learner' or not.
 

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Allllll the time! She picks up a lot of songs from school and story time. She'll just randomly start singing them! It's so cute! I don't know when the *normal* time is though.
 

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It sounds to me like she's getting ready. I'd be curious to see what would happen if you tried singing songs more slowly, or in a higher pitch. Singing with words requires quite a bit of coordination. Am I right that she's singing the tune somewhat, just not with words? If so, she's already ahead of the curve. I think singing a song with words is usually around 3, and lots of children start later than that.<br><br>
For the record, my 2.5 yo does sing, but I'm a voice teacher, so he was hearing arpeggios in utero.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My gal does both.She has been singing with words for about a year but she also la di das sometimes.Actually just last night she was humming "the Wheels on the Bus"
 

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Mine does, she sings alot, according to the actual lyrics, or made-up words, or "la la la" or "ya ya ya" or even "ta ta ta" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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What does she do if you sing a song with her? Like, the two of you are alone, no music on, playing, and you say "the itsy bitsy spider went up the water spout..." and make a game of it? or ask her to help you sing? What does she do then?
 

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My dd sings all.the.time, and has sung with words since she was very very young (like 20 months!). But I feel her singing is extraordinary -- dh's family is quite musical, and dd has always been very tuned into music.<br><br>
On the other hand, our nearly 6 year old did not sing as a toddler. Or a preschooler. He still won't sing in group settings. The only song he will reliably sing is "Happy Birthday". Occasionally we'll get a round of "I've been working on the railroad..." but other than that, nothing. He knows the words, because he'll catch me if I do it wrong!<br><br>
I would sing short, highly repetitive songs with her. And the advice to pitch things higher is a good one -- dh's aunt is a school music teacher and she says that most adults don't pitch songs high enough for kids, so the kids have trouble following along.<br><br>
But really, I wouldn't worry about it. If she's got the tune, and the words, she'll match the two very soon.
 

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Gifted children develop differently (I'm guessing yours is from your description). My dd talks really well, but she didn't start talking early. Once she started talking, she took off talking and learning words in a flury. She's slightly interested in letters and numbers, but not overly so. She's learning those slowly on her own. She sings - alot - all the time. She has been singing since she was 1 year old when she learned to sing the "now I know my" part of the ABC song. She knows tunes. She notices that twinkle, twinkle, and ABC are the same tune. I can sing a song one time, and she has it down.<br><br>
Singing is probably just not your child's thing right now, and I wouldn't worry about it.
 

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I'm surprised to see so many posts and nobody saying what I'm about to! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> My two-year-old "sings" songs by reciting the words with a sort of singing-like inflection, but he is not particularly following the tune! He sings in a monotone with occasional slight change in pitch--basically, all songs sound like "ABC". <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I thought that was typical because the tapes of me "singing" at 19 months and 3 years old sound just like that! But maybe some kids catch on to the idea of lyrics before melody, and some are the opposite.
 

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Maybe that's just your dd's <i>style</i>. Prenna does remixes, blending all her faves and some memorized prayers and meditations into montages, half-sung, half spoken-word... we think she's gearing up to be a slam poet.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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DS1 sings all the time and when he was a baby he would kind of hum along if you did a lullaby. He sings words to music and sometimes gets pitch but not always. He also will pat/bang the rhythm on something and do a chant (that is the only way I can explain it) with nonsense words or sounds. It is funny because I have no idea where he got it from! The interesting part is he is VERY good at keeping a rhythm (sp?).<br><br>
We also go to music together classes and the PP is right, there are a lot of songs with just ba ba ba or other sounds. The book we received with the class explains how at the young ages hearing the pitch and rhythm is more important. Most toddlers are still working on speaking clearly and when they have to concentrate on the words it is hard for some to sing and to get pitch/rhythm.<br><br>
I wouldn't worry about it, as we all know, all kids are different! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
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