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I have a 3 week old son (my first child) who loves to be held. We are still trying to figure out the best daytime sleeping situation for him. He is in a co-sleeper at night, right off of our bed. He doesn't like the Moby wrap, and I am still trying to figure out a good sling/pouch for him. Today, after what seemed like 4 hours of nonstop breastfeeding, he finally fell asleep. I desperately needed a nap, too. I tried him in the crib (he woke up after 20 minutes, crying), the bouncy seat (immediate crying) but he then fell asleep in my arms. So I got on the couch, leaned back, and positioned him on my abdomen with a Boppy pillow. We both slept peacefully. But now I'm feeling guilty that I am putting him at risk for SIDS. He was sort of on his stomach, but his face was turned to the side. There were no blankets or other pillows in the way.<br><br>
I guess my question is - does anyone else do this to help their baby sleep? Sorry, I'm a new neurotic mom!
 

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All the time!<br><br>
I was worried about increasing my DD's risk for SIDS too. Sleeping on the tummy and co-sleeping on the couch are both risk factors and both really weighed on me. But when your babe is on YOUR tummy, feeling you breathe, hearing your heart beat, and wrapped up in your arms, I couldn't really think of anything that *feels* safer. Like you, it was just about the only place we could both get some rest. So I just tried to be careful, made sure she didn't get between me and the couch and couldn't roll off the other side, and enjoyed my nap. I never really resolved the worry except to tell myself that I couldn't make all my decisions based on statistics. Playing it safe that way doesn't guarantee anything and I'd probably just wind up with an ulcer.<br><br>
I hope you find some reassurance!
 

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I did this all the time when my son was younger. In the mornings he'd always fall asleep for a little while longer if I held him on my chest and patted his back. I don't do it anymore because I know he'd roll off. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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First two months of my DD's life, she slept on me while I slept in our leather chair. It was the only way I could get any sleep, we tried everything. Now we co-sleep in bed.
 

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Oh man... I did this a ton until Asia was about 2 months old... I'm a very light sleeper so id she moved even the slightest I would wake up.
 

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I did this for naps when DS was that small too. It was wonderful. I figured since we weren't fully reclined it was okay.
 

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I do this all the time. In the beginning this was the ONLY place that my Lo would nap! So since I was tired as well a nap for both of us it was. As long as you feel confident that you'll wake up if the baby wakes no problem.
 

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Done it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
One time DD rolled over so she was facing the couch, and I woke up instantly! Trust your mommy instincts and let yourself get some rest!<br><br>
That said, if you are feeling so tired you're not going to be alert enough or medicated so you won't be alert, I may look for another solution.
 

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DD used to do this all the time! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> But now she's like a starfish. Enjoy it while you can!
 

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i have a 2wk old. this is the only way either of us get any sleep. sids scares me too, but i think this is a very natural way to sleep. i try to trust my intuition and my baby. your not alone
 

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Babe and I used to sleep chest to chest (I think that was similar to what you were describing?)--at night it was the only way she would sleep for the first few weeks. I really think it is a natural way to sleep with your baby, especially when they are that small/young.<br><br>
I would lie slightly elevated with a couple of pillows behind my back, and then I would prop a small pillow under each arm (so my arms wouldn't slip off the babe). She stopped "needing" to sleep that way about the same time she was heavy enough to be a bit of a burden on my chest (probably around 10lbs or so).
 

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we have a recliner in the nursery and some nights it's the only way we get any sleep. we do cosleep, but I often get up to change a diaper and nurse in the nursery.
 

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My DD slept on my tummy for the first 6 weeks of her life through every night. Just turned her head to the side and slept with my hands folded over her lower back. When she even slightly started to wake up, I was awake. I didn't worry about SIDS at all...in fact, I was MORE worried about it when she wasn't sleeping on me.
 

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i did it with both of mine for weeks.. maybe months with my last one. she slept so much better on her tummy and i was paranoid about leaving her that way so it was what worked for us. it didn't cause any harm.
 

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For the first 3 months of DS' life he slept on me all night and at naps. I would prop myself up with pillows and he would be snuggled into me. I was really glad when I learned to nurse side lying and when he could finally feel secure enough to sleep beside me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br><br>
Now he is 21 mons old and sleeps very well alone for naps and beside me in his side cared crib at night. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 
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