[earthgirl]

I'm hoping this is just a case of me reading/ comparing what other babies are doing, but I'm not sure. DD will be 4 months on Friday and I keep reading that she should be pretty social by now. She may or may not smile at a stranger, it's completely inconsistent. Mostly she just gives them a good stare down. She smiles at me and DH all the time, though. Is this cause for concern or are some babies just not that friendly?

 

[jchizever]

I don't know about "normal" but it is exactly what my dd does also! She will be 4 months on Sunday.

 

[Miasmamma]

My DD didn't smile at strangers till she was closer to 6 months and now at 9 months, still won't smile at everyone. Always smiles for DH and I, but won't for my IL's at all.

 

[becoming]

My 16-month-old is talking in phrases/sentences but still doesn't smile at strangers 80% of the time. She didn't start being "social" while out in public until probably 10-11 months old. I wouldn't be worried.

 

[Romana]

My dd has always been pretty friendly, but it depends on the stranger. The stranger has to approach her the right way (no touching, not in-her-face, etc.) and kind of "flirt" with her first from a distance. She likes it if the stranger is REALLY happy to see her - genuinely big smiles and coos at her from 5 feet away or so. Then she gives a return smile, and the stranger can come closer.

But if someone doesn't respect those boundaries, or talks to ME instead of dd - i.e., "Oh, what a cute baby," and then touches dd or leans their face in - no smile! Occasionally she even starts crying. Also, it's like she can sense someone who feels awkward around babies - she doesn't like anyone like that. She gives them the "wary stare."

Dd also loves all babies/children and always wants to touch/talk to/smile at other kids.

Julia
dd 11 mos

(I'll be one year old tomorrow!

: )

 

[Peony]

DD1 would never smile at anyone but family, still doesn't and she is 4.

DD2 will smile at anyone who will look at her. It's normal, every baby is different.