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Cause I swear mine does. Gemma usually falls asleep (and I do mean fall -- the kid does not give up her hold on wakefulness without a serious fight) between 8 and 9 p.m. After I get her settled, I get up and spend time working, doing housework, unwinding from my frenetic day, etc. Often, I'm up until midnight or later. And Gemma usually sleeps straight through until I go to bed. And then our problems start.<br><br>
At 16 months, Gemma is still a frequent nurser, and she has boobie radar! I swear, the minute I am in the room, she wakes up and wants to nurse. And then she wants to continue to nurse, or at least be latched on AND playing with the other nipple, all night long. And then she wants me to roll her over to the other side. And then she sits up and cries for awhile and I wrestle her back down to the bed and off to semi-sleep again. Then she nurses some more, again with me in a pretzel position so that she can also use the other nipple as a lovey. I AM ABOUT TO GO INSANE!!!!<br><br>
So why is it that she sleeps really well when I'm not in bed with her, and then is up and down and all around after I "go to sleep" (and I do use that phrase very lightly, because I am sure as hell not "going to sleep"!!!)?<br><br>
HELP ME!!!!! Please?!?
 

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BIG, BIG, BIG <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">'s mama. i don't have advice as my dd still has 3 months to go before she is considered a toddler... but.. my dd has boobie radar too, and my "sleep" (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">) is exactly like yours all night, so i really feel for you!!! i can totally see myself losing the plot in the near future.. i can *never* turn in our bed. i'm always in light sleep and get woken several times because i can't sleep while she is latched on.<br><br>
i hope someone has a solution for you..
 

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For her own sake (and yours) why don't you let her sleep in her own bed? She is telling you (by her actions) what is best for her right now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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sometimes I think the same thing springmama. I feel like when I wake up and need to get in a more comfy position that I wake ds up while I am moving around. I think, oh if I had just stayed put he would still be asleep right now. But, I get sore ya know? Sometimes my shoulders are so painful in the morning after sleeping with my arms up all night. My suggestion to you would be to go to sleep in a different bed and see what happens. If she is peacefully sleeping before you get there, maybe she would just continue to do that all night. Do you have another space where you could sleep? It is worth a shot.
 

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I could have written your post, only my ds is going to be 2 in June and still waking frequently to nurse. I've found myself packing up me and the baby in the middle of the night and sleeping on the couch because, at 2 months old, she wakes less frequently than the toddler. He's slept a couple of times with his older siblings and slept beautifully but it's not something that he's ready to do full time yet, so until he is ready, Aine and I will be snoozing on the couch.
 

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Same thing here. We've decided to try her in her own bed. We're just going to take the crib mattress (barely gets used anyway) and put it on the floor near our bed, also on the floor. And just nurse her to sleep there and see how it goes. But I can definitely feel where you're coming from.
 

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Well, I would, but she won't sleep in her own bed. She'll sleep in my bed. See the difference?<br><br>
I've tried everything to get her to sleep in her bed. I brought her sheets into bed with us for a couple of nights so that they'd smell like "us". I have introduced a lovey that she is gradually coming to snuggle and "love on" and I put that in her bed with her. We got her a toddler bed like her brother's bed (with half rails) because she seems to like his bed, and can get in and out of it by herself, which she likes. (The girl has a very wide independent streak already!!!) I've tried nursing her to bed in her bed, nursing her to bed in our bed and then moving her, moving her in the middle of the night. I've spent several nights attempting to night wean DD ... which means I've spent several nights in the playroom listening to her scream for hours on end, even while I held her, and tear at my clothes because she wanted to nurse. Nothing works.<br><br>
So do I just give up my bed? I like my bed. It's a new bed, with the best mattress I've ever had in my life. And more, DH likes his bed and would not be willing to give it over to DD entirely. Not that I think I would, either, actually.<br><br>
So this is my problem. I feel stuck. And DH is staring to get pretty p*ssed off about the whole thing, especially as he has been spending a lot of nights sleeping on the sofa in the basement so that he could get enough "good" sleep to go to work the next day. He is starting to say things like "I'm not so sure about this AP thing anymore" and "I think co-sleeping was a mistake". <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
For reference, DS slept in his own bed (or at least a co-sleeper, which was a separate space) after six weeks. Yes, six weeks. Because he wanted to sleep by himself. He has never been a cuddly, snuggly baby and he slept very poorly when he was in bed with us, and was having waking issues because of it. The minute we put him into his own space, he turned into a different kid ... a happy kid. So this is the first time we've really had to deal with the co-sleeping issue with a toddler. Just FYI for those who are wondering what I did the first time around.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">sometimes I think the same thing springmama. I feel like when I wake up and need to get in a more comfy position that I wake ds up while I am moving around. I think, oh if I had just stayed put he would still be asleep right now. But, I get sore ya know? Sometimes my shoulders are so painful in the morning after sleeping with my arms up all night</div>
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Me too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> If I make the SLIGHTEST move, ds is awak and wants to be held. Neither one of us got NO sleep last night until DH came to bed (2am). I had to be by 6am this morning to get to work. I. AM. Exhausted.<br><br>
DS definetly sleeps longer stretches when he is in bed (in our bed) alone before we come to join him.<br><br>
Good thread.
 

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do u have room to bring over her crib mattress to ur side of the bed. u could nurse her at the edge of ur bed with her on her mattress so when she rolls over she is on her mattress. if that doesnt work can u afford to buy a twin or full mattress the same brand as yours? and still try room sharing before moving her out.<br><br>
my dd is 2.75 years old and is the opposite of urs. if i move away from the bed she wakes up far more frequently.
 
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