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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: Okay, I begged my doctor for an induction and told him why. After I explained my situation, he agreed and I am being induced this Friday the 10th. I will be 38 weeks 1 day. I know how some feel about inductions and completely understand. Normally, I wouldnt just ask for an induction or even want one unless it was absolutely needed. I was induced with my 2 yr old when an U/S was showing dangerously low amniotic fluid, so that was different. So now let me explain why I asked for an induction this time.<br><br>
I went into PTL at 30 weeks and was given steriod shots and bed rest. I went into labor again at 35 weeks and was given Brethane (3 shots) before the cx would stop. The baby was already head down for some time and was low, but he dropped even more a week or so ago. Since he keeps lowering his head, I honestly find it almost unbearable to walk. My hips hurt so badly I can barely sleep and with his head so deep in the pelvis it tends to rub either both or one side of my pelvis which hits nerves or something that sends like these electrical shocks down my legs and buttocks so badly and so painful that I feel as though my legs are giving underneath me. Like they just will fall out from beneath me. It is soooo hard to keep up with my 2 yr old that he is totally taking advantage of my disability. It's like he "acts up" because he knows I can't move like I once did to disipline him. I cant pick him up, none the less even walk around the yard with him. All I do is sit and sit and sit. It's bad when I can't even get up to get him breakfast, juice, a book, lunch or anything else that I need to do that involves walking. WHICH IS EVERYTHING!! This includes driving, which I have to do everyday to pick my other kids up from school. Thank goodness they are only 4 miles down the road. The indigestion is soooo horrible that I keep a sore throat and I have lost some weight due to not wanting to eat. I tried changing my diet but nothing has helped. Meds dont help either. It is absolutely horrible at night and I can not for the life of me sleep sitting up. With all of this combined, leading to sleepness nights, I am absolutely exhausted beyond words! I have been so tired here lately that I am forgetting things like crazy. Things I should remember to do, which is no different that just putting on a seat belt when getting into a car. That is something that is a habit right? Well, I lose track of time, pick the kids up late from school, fall asleep on the couch with 2 yr old running around the house, doz off while driving, ran through a red light the other day. My mind is elsewhere but with me.<br><br>
So do you see why I begged for the induction? With all that is going on, I and my family are much safer in the long run for me to get this baby out of me so I can get my mind on my family and our safety.<br><br>
What made me think about asking for an induction, is when my 2yr old climbed onto the counter, went into the cabinets and brought me a can of Vienna Sausage to open for him for breakfast. The poor guy was so dang hungry and I kept asking him to wait one more second. It broke my heart, I got up and managed to get him dry cereal and some juice until my mom was able to come over. I have cried so much in the past few weeks...I felt like such a rotten, no good, infit mama!
 

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hi, i'm peeking in (saw your post from the New Posts thread tool thingy here)... i had my daughter this past July (7/23!) and wanted to share some input.<br><br>
when i was about that far along (around 38 weeks) i started having very sharp shooting pains... see, my daughter was head-down and with her head resting on my cervix from 36 weeks on. so, i know how you're feeling.<br><br>
but, i knew that she wasn't ready to come out. so, i let her sit and stew awhile. let her cook, yk? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> i forced myself to walk a mile to a mile and a half every morning. YES it was extraordinarily painful, and it brought on unbearable contractions (i had prodomal labor for a month before i actually delivered). but the contractions would die down and the pain would ease up after awhile.<br><br>
she was born at 41 weeks, 6 days, exactly when she was meant to come -- a happy, healthy, 8 lb baby girl... after 2 hours of labor and just a few pushes.<br><br>
i guess what i'm trying to say is... babies will come when they are ready. i know you feel awful right now, but smile through it, and know that it won't last forever. babies are never as safe as they are inside their mamas.<br><br>
and if the baby isn't ready to come out yet, or isn't in the right position (which, from your description, it sounds like), then an induction will only make things worse.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s
 

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I just wanted to say I understand your pain, and exhaustion, truley!! But I have to agree with the previous poster...I think induction has the potential to cause so many other problems...not to mention it is so much more painful than going naturally. I can not do our laundry anymore because the stairs kill me, any walking or exercise makes it 100 times worse, laying down then getting up is exruciating, I can't even roll over in bed without help. This is my fourth baby and it has gotten progressively worse with every pregnancy. Last night I couldn't get to sleep until after midnight, woke up at least twice, and had to finally get up at 5 am because I couldn't sleep because of the hip/sciatica/pelvic pain. I say try to hang in there...take it one day at a time, sleep with your toddler when he naps, rest, and don't stress about not getting things done, ask hubby for lots of extra help. I know it is hard, and it hurts so much, but you would feel so bad if something happened as a result of the induction...<br>
oh, and my older kids have watched so much tv lately...I feel guilty, but I am doing what I can and trying really hard to not beat myself up about it.<br>
I hope you feel better mama...<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Debi
 

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(Poking in from March05 group <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> )<br><br>
Just some <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> for you, mama .. It's not an easy decision to make, but with chronic lyme, it may be a good one for you. I live day to day with Lupus, and all the problems associated with it .. I know how it feels to have your legs collapse from under you because the baby's so low that a wrong nerve gets hit .. and I SO know what it's like to be in pain chasing around little ones (or trying to!) - ours are 7, 5, 5, 3 and 17mo <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
No other real words .. just a big <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> for you.
 

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Thanks for understanding mamas. I guess the other part of it as Weebitty2 mentioned is having chronic lyme. I had a PICC line for intravenous antibiotics when I found out I was preggers, so the PICC was removed and I have continued on oral antibiotics hoping not to pass this disease to the baby. I also have Fibromyalgia, Asthma, Chronic migraines and Narcolepsy. So this "unplanned" pregnancy has taken it's toll on me. But, nevertheless, we will love this boy, our son, just as much as the other kids. We feel as though God will not give us any more than he thinks we can handle, although overwhelming.<br><br>
Mamamoo, I nap every chance I can get! LOL<br><br>
And Weebitty2, HUGS to you too! You need it as much as I do. Lupus is a horrible disease.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am so sorry mama...I didn't realize the other medical challenges you are facing too. Only *you* can know what is the right choice for you and your family. I am thinking of you and hope whatever path you do choose is a smooth one. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Debi
 

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Have you got help for after the birth? It might take a few days to get your brain back and you'll have the newborn to care for too. If you could get that person/persons to start helping early, say on the 7th, you can be better rested for the induction and smoothly transisition into the newborn time with some help for your toddler. Just my 2 cents.<br><br>
Any of course you have my support!
 

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(not in your group, hope you'll forgive the intrusion!)<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> First off it sounds like you're having a tough time. Try to take care of yourself.<br><br>
Two thoughts I'd add (you've probably thought of them...) 1. How well will you be able to recover from a c-section? Induction greatly increases your chance of ending up with a section. How well will you be able to cope with the kiddos if that's what ends up happening? 2. Be aware that the "earlier" babies are, the more generally high-needs they tend to be. (more trouble breastfeeding, need to be awakened to eat, etc)<br>
Just things to keep in mind.<br><br>
That said, it sounds like you're in a difficult bind. Only you can make the right decision for you. I think I'd be considering the same thing in your shoes.<br><br>
take care<br><br>
-Angela
 

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My husband is taking off from this Thursday until after the 1st of the year. So about 3 weeks I will have him home to help with whatever I need. Thank goodness he saved so much vacation time up. My mom was able to come over today and stay with my toddler while I went to the doctor. I am now 4cm! Less to go on Friday. My mom then stay around for a few hours while I napped and low and behold she cooked for us a wonderful meal. I was soooo happy! She then came over tonight to visit as well. Both my parents have health problems of their own, but they do try to help when they can. It's amazing what parents will do for their kids, even when they are grown and have kids of their own and they feel rotten too.<br><br>
I didn't realize that induction raised the risk for C-section. That's scary. I had my tubes tied in 1992 and reversed in 1998 and was cut like a section and that was painful to get over. Couldn't imagine how ladies take of babies at a section.<br><br>
BTW, my doc estimated today that the baby weighs about 7lbs. So we shall see. I had a feeling this was gonna be a bigger baby than I am used to having. I am all belly! I had one at 6lbs 15oz and two other as 5.12 so a 7 pounder is a big baby to me. But fortunately, with all three of mine, 3 pushes and I was done. Short labors and all!<br><br>
Thanks for the hugs...now I feel better!
 

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*BIG HUGS* mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I'll be thinking of you Friday! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Hey mama~How you doing? Do you know what time you are going in on Friday? I would love to light a candle for you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Debi
 

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Its sounds like you are in a good place for an induction. I am jealous of all the time you will have with hubby- then again mine would start to drive me crazy!<br><br>
I'll be praying for you on Friday!
 

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I always say that a person needs to do what's best for them and their family, even if it's a hard decision to make or something they wouldn't normally do...
 
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