I need to wean my almost 5 year old. I know this is the child-led weaning before and I have tried really hard and I just cannot do it anymore. I was sexually abused as a child and nursing her at this age - I just can't do it. She only nurses for 30 seconds or so at bedtime but she is still really attached to that nursing. I know 30 seconds isn't long and I SHOULD be able to just grin and bear it for her sake but I can't. I can't post this on any other board because not many people will have tips for gently weaning a 5 year old. She will be 5 in November and I think I can stick it out until then. Maybe not, we'll have to see. So what can I do to encourage her? I don't want to do a party because no one knows I am still nursing her. Maybe her and I going out to dinner and a movie or going to get our hair and nails done or something. Something that will signify that she is growing up. Any other tips are appreciated and thank you in advance for being understanding of this situation.