[Grumpy72_ga]

(MIL rant)
So we made it pretty obvious that I'm aiming for a VBAC after 2 c-sections (my first baby having been born vaginally.) MIL being a former ENT (Ear Nose and Throat Dr.) who hasn't practiced in almost 40 yrs - feels her knowledge today is as crisp as it was back then... ya, our kids have taught her a thing or two! (this same woman doesn't believe my children have dairy Allergies inspite of the fact that they vomit on oral contact! Ya! for the record - so do I!)

Anyway, she found a little clipping about my OB which she sent in a package with gifts for the girls - and it plays a two faced coin... On one side, the "mom" who wrote it expresses her happiness and gratitude to my doc at having VBAC in a medical community that is currently almost hostile to a natural event.... (so good I think.) And then I read on to which an MD, snidely replies ot the fact that the mom sidestepped the issues that if the outcome of her birth had not been so favourable, there would have been the need for malpractice lawyers etc.

WTH?

I hate subversive people, and she is driving me insane. My mum thinks I'm crazy but supports me knowing I've done my research, its what I do, and what I have always done. DH supports me. Is it too much to ask to have her at least respect my desire to have this last child the normal way?

 

[thorn]

I'm sorry she is not being supportive, that sucks!

where was the snippet from? I'd love to read it

 

[Grumpy72_ga]

Don't know she clipped all identifying markers... but I'll scan it and email it and send it.

 

[thorn]

thanks!!

 

[GenomicsGirl]

Sorry

Hopefully everything will go well and she will be proven wrong in this case!

 

[thepoet]

Quote:

Originally Posted by GenomicsGirl Sorry Hopefully everything will go well and she will be proven wrong in this case!

My thoughts exactly!!!!

Here's to your successful VBAC

 

[adoremybabe]

I am sorry that she had to do such a thing. I would toss the article. I wouldn't want anything negative around me.

 

[Jilian]

That would annoy me too. And she was an ENT, not an OB. I can see how being a former doctor would make her a little worried (because doctors often practice based on fear and liability) but she's going about expressing her concern in the wrong way. Ignore it and surround yourself with positive stories. VBACs are often successfull and your VBAC WILL be successfull!

 

[spiritedmama]

to play the other side here, she loves you and doesn't want anything bad to happen. It sounds like what Jilian said she operates from fear as doctors do. My mom couldn't say anything nice about our decision to use a midwife w/ DD1 so I just told her, this is our decision and i need you to support me, if you can't please keep your negative comments to yourself. Granted, this was my mom and most people probably wouldn't be so confrontational. I do would do what other mamas said. Throw it away, ignore it, and surround yourself with positive things. Sorry she is acting this way.