Dunno about the rest of your schedule/lifestyle, but frankly, my kids go around snotty,tangled, un-tooth-brushed and generally disheveled from time to time.
I have been traumatized by people not respecting my body-boundaries kind of a lot in my past, and whether I'm erring too much in the other direction is probably up for question, but when they say stop, I stop. If it means putting a diaper back on over a bottom with some poo smears still on it, well, they get sore, and eventually ask for help.
It also helps when I ask them not to touch *me* and *my* things that they are sued to me respscting *their* wishes.
Obviously, there are times... kid standing in traffic doesn't want to move or be picked up, then they're just gonna have to be unhappy. Though I will try to explain and apologize later. And things don't always go smoothly. Right now they both want to go to the playground, but don't want to wear clothes. Naked at the playground is not an option for health and safety reasons as well as pervert-next-door reasons. I've explained and I've asked them to help me figure out what to do and all I get is "wanna go playground. Don't wanna put on clothes"
So here we sit.
But I'm not forcing the clothing on their bodies... yet <LOL!> If I go nuts enough sitting in the hot apartment with them I may break ;-p
I have been traumatized by people not respecting my body-boundaries kind of a lot in my past, and whether I'm erring too much in the other direction is probably up for question, but when they say stop, I stop. If it means putting a diaper back on over a bottom with some poo smears still on it, well, they get sore, and eventually ask for help.
It also helps when I ask them not to touch *me* and *my* things that they are sued to me respscting *their* wishes.
Obviously, there are times... kid standing in traffic doesn't want to move or be picked up, then they're just gonna have to be unhappy. Though I will try to explain and apologize later. And things don't always go smoothly. Right now they both want to go to the playground, but don't want to wear clothes. Naked at the playground is not an option for health and safety reasons as well as pervert-next-door reasons. I've explained and I've asked them to help me figure out what to do and all I get is "wanna go playground. Don't wanna put on clothes"
So here we sit.
But I'm not forcing the clothing on their bodies... yet <LOL!> If I go nuts enough sitting in the hot apartment with them I may break ;-p
