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<p>My 18mo is an avid nurser, and I don't mind it.  We cosleep and he wakes maybe 5 or 6 times and unfortunately he cries out quite loudly every time he wakes and my dh isn't doing well with the night-wakings.  It is fine for me, I just nurse him, and we both fall back to sleep. DH usually goes to sleep in the guest bedroom, but pretty soon he won't have that option, because his mother is coming to stay for a while.  So, my husband wants me to night-wean in hopes that ds will stop waking.</p>
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<p>Here are my questions:</p>
<ul><li>For me, it instinctively it doesn't feel right to ever refuse to nurse ds. What do y'all think about that?</li>
<li>What if he is crying out in pain (teething, or stomach pain) and my milk is soothing to the pain?</li>
<li>If I do decide to follow Doc. Gordon's night-weaning plan (as dh wants), mightn't it break some level of trust between ds and me?</li>
<li>Another concern I have is that ds is small (less than 5th percentile) and really isn't too interested in solid foods.  What if he is actually hungry and needs the nighttime nursing?</li>
<li>One more question about Doc. Gordon's night-weaning plan:  For those who have done it, is it confusing to your baby when they can nurse at certain times but not at others?</li>
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<p>Thanks for any thoughts and advice!</p>
 

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<p>I haven't done Doc. Gordons, and didn't nightwean while cosleeping, DD just pretty much stopped night-waking when she moved to her own room. I do want to say that from everything I've heard using Doc Gordon's takes longer than he says for most people, and there's a lot of crying involved for most kids. also, it won't stop night-waking if it's because of pain, hunger, or (what was happening for us) because someone else in bed rolled over. in your situation, I might look at why he's crying so loud when he wakes, because most toddlers I know wake up and just help themself and only start crying if they can't get to milk quickly enough, or if they wake and aren't touching mom. but to some extent it is governed by personality. also, does he squirm a lot while nursing? for us, that was the reason dad wasn't sleeping well, DD would try to shove her feet under him while nursing back down. </p>
 

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<p>I agree, I'm also very concerned about why he is crying out so loudly when he wakes...he didn't used to do that.  To me it sounds like he is in pain, to dh, he thinks ds is trying to wake me up to nurse.  At any rate, ds has milk intolerance and both he and I have to avoid it completely.  Perhaps there is also something else involved.</p>
 

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<p>Moving out to Breastfeeding Beyond Infancy, as this is not explicitly a child-led weaning issue.</p>
 
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