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<p>I'm hoping to get some opinions on having a doula at my next birth. DS1 was born in November 2008 at AAMC with a doctor from Annapolis OB/Gyn. I had Cheryl Gilman as my doula and it was a great experience. I did end up having a vacuum extraction but was able to avoid any other interventions/medications.</p>
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<p>I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant with our second son. I'm in the process of transferring my care to Bay Area Midwifery with the goal of delivering in the birth center. We had planned on having Cheryl present again but unfortunately she has moved out of state. Now I'm not sure how I want to handle the doula situation and was hoping to get feedback from second time moms as well as those who have birthed at Bay Area.</p>
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<p>Thoughts on why we want one:</p>
<p>1. My husband is not good at dealing with me being in pain/uncomfortable. It would be much better to have someone specifically focused on helping me manage the pain.</p>
<p>2. Depending on when I go into labor and how fast labor progresses, we could possibly have DS1 with us for most/all of the birth which means my husband's attention would be focused on keeping him occupied/distracted.</p>
<p>3. I want to make sure I have every measure in place to make this birth as easy and med-free as possible.</p>
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<p>Thoughts on why I might not want/need one:</p>
<p>1. I've done this before so I have some idea of what to expect already</p>
<p>2. I'll be at a birth center with midwives instead of a hospital with bothersome nurses</p>
<p>3. Since it's my second I'm anticipating the labor to be faster</p>
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<p>All that being said, any moms out there who had a doula with your first and not your second? Did you regret that decision?</p>
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<p>Or did you birth at Bay Area and wish you did/did not have a doula?</p>
 

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<p>I don't fit your criteria at all, but I did not have a doula for my first, which made me want a doula for my 2nd.  I had planned on having a doula for my 2nd at Bay Area, then my husband decided he wasn't comfortable with the doula we had interviewed and my daughter arrived before we settled on a new doula.  Turns out the doula was pretty unnecessary for me as my daughter was breech and we ended up with a c-section, but I was planning on one for my 2nd baby to be delivered at Bay Area.  I'm planning on one for my 3rd baby who will be delivered at Upper Chesapeake unless some major changes happen to the home birth community in the next few weeks.  <img alt="winky.gif" id="user_yui_3_4_1_2_1327953730222_163" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/winky.gif"></p>
 

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<p>I am wondering the same thing myself.  I had a doula at my first birth (hospital) but not sure if I really need one at the birth center (Special Beginnings) for pretty much the same reasons OP mentioned.  I'll be watching to see what others have to say about birthing at a birth center with or without a doula.</p>
 

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<p>Expecting baby #2 any day and planning on having doula friends present at the birth just for added support and a positive, supporting presence. I'm planning home a birth with a midwife and birth assistant, but if I had to be in a hospital setting for any reason, I would definitely want a doula there with my husband and I for an extra set of eyes & ears and just the emotional support that an experienced doula offers having likely gone through labor herself.</p>
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<p>Just my two cents. :)</p>
 
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