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Hey I wanted to let you know that I sent you a PM with my #. I never got yours because my inbox was full apparently. Sorry about that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> I deleted a bunch so you can resend it if youd like!<br><br>
Anyways, congrats on the interview working out well!
 

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Hello everyone,<br><br>
I've been a doula for six years, and have completed all of the certification requirements for DONA and CAPPA, but decided not to go with either of them. I am waiting on the distance program through La Matrona:<br><br><a href="http://www.thematrona.com" target="_blank">http://www.thematrona.com</a><br><br>
Their program is holistically based, covers birth and postpartum issues, touches on homeopathy, herbs, moxa and other wise woman traditions for birth, including blessingways, and overall is much more in tune with my philosophy of birth than either of the other organizations. They will have their program up and running via distance by the end of this year or early next. I truly believe this program is worth waiting for. If you check their website, it has the curriculum up, and it's very thorough. Most other organizations require only a weekend of training - this one is four weekends.<br><br>
I just wanted to let everyone know there was another fantastic option, and that it's holistically based. I can't wait until the distance program is running.<br><br>
Sincerely,<br><br>
Jacquie.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thank you Jacquie for the link. Very nice site.<br><br>
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I am also considering training as a Doula this December. The course I will take is through the Seattle School of Midwifery. It is a 4 day class costing $480.00. I don't have a lot of information on different organizations so would like to get more info. I have heard of DONA and a lot of people suggest that certification so that is where I am leaning. I also plan on working with teen moms (have connections already) I have a lot of information already on birth and pregnancy as I am certified in pediatrics and pre-natal chiropractic care and have some training in cranial-sacral work. I also have some concerns because I have never had a child of my own. Only one m/c. But heck, if men can be OBGYN's then I can certainly be a great doula!<br><br>
Look forward to this exciting new step in my life! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Cheryl<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hippie.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hippie">
 

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Hi ladies!! My name is Noelia and I'm a 26 year old SAHM for now. I am going through DONA and taking my doula workshop in December. I am very excited about it. I am very obsessed with childbirth and breastfeeding. I am also going to take a CLE workshop with CAPPA and become a CLE. I really feel like this is my calling in life and I can't wait to get started! It's nice seeing all you ladies that are trying to achieve the same goal as I am.
 

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Hello to all! I just finished my doula training through DONA, but I haven't done CBE or attended any births yet. I eventually want to become a midwife. It's funny, I was a school guidance counselor for 5 years--until I had my daughter (unnecessary c-sec under general anesthetic) and now my goal is to help educate as many women I can about their choices in birth (and their right to say NO to a doctor). I'm a little nervous about attending births though, since I have never attended one while being awake. Any helpful hints for me?
 

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Welcome treemom2!!!<br><br>
My advice would be to follow your heart and truly listen to your client.<br><br>
I attended my first birth in August and I was VERY nervous. I haven't even been pregnant yet so I didn't know if anyone would take me seriously but it was WONDERFUL. Once we got into our rhythm it just flowed....and was so comfortable.<br><br>
I can't wait to do it again!!!!<br><br>
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Yep, me too. It seems like such an eternity to have to wait. I could never focus on a birth with my baby there. I would feel so torn and distracted from the birth or my baby. It would be hard. The only solution I could see is maybe to arrange someone to come with you and care for your child while you assisted the birth. That person could keep your child in another room most of the time, then bring the child to you to nurse, then back to the other room. But the child would also have to be willing.<br><br>
One of my friends who is to attend the birth of my baby in Feb. will have a 12 month old at that time. She has made arrangements with her dh to drive the baby to the birth every few hours to nurse, then drive her home again. Even that is going to be hard because the baby is used to nursing whenever she feels like it. They are hoping she'll be on some solids by that time. My other friend wants to come but will have a 4 month old, so will probably not be able to attend.<br><br>
So far with the 3 births I've attended my dh has been able to watch dd. She's not nursing so it's easy. When I am a doula I'm planning to try to network with other doulas with younger kids, to see if we can share a practice. One of us can watch the kids at her home while the other one attends the birth.<br><br>
This would also have the added benefit that if the birth goes on too long (like 20 hours or something) that we can switch out to get some rest. It's not like I can take a 15 min. break every 4 hours like with a regular job, so after a 12 hour difficult labor over the weekend I was really, really tired and spent the next day comatose in bed while dh watched dd for me again. I'm also pg, that was probably part of it.<br><br>
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Hey Mamas and Doulas,<br>
I am so in....I have been reading this post every so often. I can't fight this feeling anymore. I am bursting at the seams to help mamas and babies! I am beginning my training "officially" this weekend. I am attending a DONA training.<br><br>
I assisted in a birth in January and it was as though the sky opened up and said..."See, this is what you are here to do. Help Mamas." It felt so incredibly right. I have struggled greatly with my vocation. Never felt a passion for anything...TA DA.<br><br>
I am 25, a single mama to sam. After planning a lovely natural child birth with my partner, a CNM and a doula, my birth turned out to be a huge suprise. At 35 weeks, I was rushed to the hospital for an emergency c-section because I was diagnosed with HELLP syndrome. Unfortunately, I had NO signs of any difficulties (no high blood pressure, nothing) just this intense pain right beneath my rib cage which I later learned was my liver. And in no way felt like I was "severly mal-nourished." Anyway, I managed (with the help of my doula) to fend the c-section off for a week til Sam was 36w, I tried to load up on protein in hopes that my liver would catch up. Finally after induction attempts and refusing to take pain medication for a day or two and not being able to feel any contractions because my liver pain was too intense, I tried some medication to ease the pain in an effort to calm me to continue with "the induction." Nope, no luck. Ended up havin a C-section and feeling like a million dollars the second Sam was delivered. The post opp disasters were just beginning, but I don't want to get into that. (oops...didn't mean to go into such detail about all this, it just kinda happened). My doula, though didn't get to do very much "labor support," was a true hero through the entire situation. She was inspirational to me and my *disapproving of non-agreement with the medical field* family.<br><br>
Anyway, I have decided I can no longer fight this urge to learn and help. So I am starting my training. I have one birth to attend in February. She and I have learned so much together. I get such a rush from the compliments she provides me with. She has assured me that her birth is already going to be 150% different just having me involved in her pregnancy. She said she never would have questioned many of the things she is now if we never would have crossed paths. That is the rush... Knowing that you can help a person become educated and help with options they didn't know existed. I have never felt this kind of joy and I haven't even helped her deliver.<br><br>
I am so tickled to be in this with all of you. I am excited to learn and can't wait to hear about all of your experiences.<br><br>
Thanks for checkin this out and lettin me ramble. Peace!
 

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smilingmamacarly, I know just what you mean!<br><br>
Can you tell me a little more about this HELLP syndrome that you were diagnosed with. This is the second time I have heard of this in the last few months.<br><br>
Thanks,<br>
Barbara
 

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Thanks for inquiring.<br><br>
Here is a sorta Ok link to a site I found that explains it fairly well. There are some alternative ideas to being able to "fend" off or avoid this toxemia. Some include increased anti-oxidents and some recommend loads and loads of protein intake.<br><br><a href="http://hometown.aol.com/hellp1995/hellpmedicalfacts.html" target="_blank">http://hometown.aol.com/hellp1995/he...icalfacts.html</a><br><br>
The funny thing with me is, I had very few symptoms: blood pressure was a little high, but never a concern. The only thing I experienced was the upper gastric pain which was my liver becoming severly enflamed. It was a crazy experience considering I thought I ate some bad chicken or something...minutes later I was being told I needed emergency surgery.<br><br>
It was difficult for me to accept that I was that sick. I have been struggling with the idea that my birth experience was taken from me by the medical community. THe more I learn, the more I am realizing that I am grateful to be alive and to have had the experience that I did with a healthy outcome! Interesting. I spend so much time telling people that the med community is taking over and we have to claim our bodies back. Now I know, there is a time and a place for everything. I am grateful to be healthy and happy and learning valuable lessons about never saying NEVER!<br><br>
If you have any specific questions for me regarding this illness and how it affected me, I would love to share with you. The more I learn and share, the better I feel about my experience.<br><br>
I wish you happy and healthy days.
 

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Thank you that link was very informative. I can imagine that this was very turmatic and frightening for you. How are you and your baby doing now? Were you able to get breastfeeding established with all the trauma in the begining? The other mother I talked to recently, how had a premature delivery due to HELLP, is having trouble getting her baby to the breast, because of nipple confusion in the begining.
 

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It was difficult to establish bf. I was so persistent in the hospital to pump and adament that no one feed Sam with a bottle. I worked with lactation consultants on tube feeding him with a syring and tube. He got a little formula til my milk came in then I would pump and feed him what I pumped with the tube/syringe. And kept trying and trying. It was slightly nightmarish and I often wonder how I kept going. In my mind, I was so upset that I had my birth "taken away from me" that I was determined at all costs to get bf to work. We had sooo many issues. He was premature, I had flat nipples and had to use a nipple shield. I got thrush cuz of the antibiotics I was taking. So he had a purple face for great lengths of time cuz of the Gentian Violet.<br><br>
It was difficult for a long time (I can't even give you a good estimate at how many months, but I would guess around 2-3 before I felt comfortable enough to know I had a good grasp of things. I feel fortunate.<br><br>
Has this mother had good support in helping her digest the trauma of the birth she experienced?
 

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I'm sorry to hear that you had such a hard time establishing your nursing relationship. How wonderful that you persisted! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> This other mom is having the same difficulties that you discribe. She has been pumping from the begining and giving him her milk in a bottle. He is very tiny. She is in the process now of weaning him from the bottle to her own nipple without a shield. From the sounds of it, she has had a lot of love and support in this and in dealing with the trauma of the birth she experienced.<br><br>
Hugs to you smilingmamacarly
 

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Thought i'd drop by on this thread <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I'm Kelly, sahm to 2 kids. My 18 mo old is still nursing, and my dh is in the army, goes to school 2 evenings, and works a second job on saturdays, so this COULD prove to be a bit challenging LOL. I'm not sure yet how I'll work out attending births and child care, but I've got a little time to figure that out. I'm about to start my training, as soon as my materials get here. I've also just taken on a job keeping 2 kids in my home <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> LOL. So I'll be busy busy busy! I've had one horrendous hospital birth. Okay, not horrendous, but compared to number 2 it was. It was your typical 'water broke at home, pit started 3 hrs later for no good reason, stuck in bed all day, nurse pushing on my belly to shove ds past my tailbone, dr threatening to operate, finally pushed him out after 15 hrs of labor and 2 1/2 hrs of pushing with the "help" of forceps and episiotomy" birth. Okay, maybe horrendous was the right word LOL. My dd was born at home attended by a lay midwife and I plan to eventually be a lay midwife myself. Thats about it!
 

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Hey everyone! So nice to "meet" other people who don't look at me cross-eyed when I say I want to be a doula/midwife. I'm Amy, and I'm very into pregnancy/birthing/parenting, even though I haven't been through it myself yet. I've had seven friends have babies in the past year or so, three of them at home, and am so amazed at the entire process. My sister just had a baby, and I was there for the whole thing, from the time she went into labor until Brady arrived, and it was amazing to watch as she was pushing surrounded by her mom, sisters, aunt and step-mom giving her the love and support she needed to get through it, but I'm also amazed (in a bad way) at how little information she was given by her hcp. I told her more about the process than her midwife(CNM) did. But all in all, it was a good experience, because it really cemented for me that this is what I want to do. I loved being able to hold her hand, and help her ride her contractions and finally bring that baby into the world. So yeah, that's my novel. I'm hoping to start my doula training sometime in the next year, although I'm not really sure where yet. Any tips/suggestions for what to look for? I'm so excited to get to know other people who want to be doulas... yay! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Hi Everyone,<br>
I just wanted to add a BIG Congrats to Erin (our sister doula-in-training) on her new pregnancy. I hope your journey is peaceful and joyous!<br><br>
I have a client who is due in the next 2 weeks...this will be my first birth for certification, and I am sooooo excited (and a little nervous, too). How is everyone else here coming along? I have read 4 out of my 13 required books. And I am auditing LLL meetings. What's everyone else up to?<br><br>
Take care and blessings to all!<br>
Leigh-ann
 

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Cheryl,<br>
Definately go to Seattle Midwifery! They are awesome!! Thats where I trained too.<br><br>
I also went through DONA. I did the 3 births (well 5 actually) but now just cant seem to take any clients on (dont want to leave my son!). How do you all manage time for the births? My son is 12.5 months and breastfed. Maybe when he is older. I had a few 30+ hour births and I cant imagine being away from him that long.
 

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Hi everyone, this seems to be a great time to be jumping in.<br><br>
I'm going to a DONA training in DC in November for PPdoula - I have a 6 month nursling, so I don't want the stress of being "on-call" as a birth doula... yet!<br><br>
It's funny, when I was pregnant, I wanted to make a career/lifestyle change, do something less stressful/more flexible so I could actually SEE my babe grow up. I was thinking about some kind of social service thing.<br><br>
Then I had the <ahem> "not what we'd planned" birth experience, and a really stressful post-partum period: problems w/breastfeeding, recovery from a c-section, etc... got so stressed I got shingles on my r. breast, wow that was fun.<br><br>
So when I could think again, I re-examined my thoughts about doing a post-partum service, and had a resounding "YES" thunder thru my head... I don't want to be self-centered, but I didn't want Any Mom having to go thru something like that. If it wasn't for my partner & my long-distance doula, I would've lost it. Completely.<br><br>
Others of you had epiphanies when attending births, of finding your calling. Has anyone else come at this from a dual practical (need some cash) and self-experience place???<br><br>
I guess I'm going to try to do some inner work, make sure this is really my calling - I'm a little self-conscious about putting myself out there as a service/business owner...<br><br>
Thanks for starting this thread, it's been great to lurk on!<br><br>
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I feel this way too, Nif. Anyone got some advice on how we can get past this?
 
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