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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> i have already decided to hire a MW and have our birth in a birthing center, but i went to my last MD appt. today to check how my blood glucose tests went and to discuss with him the pain i have been feeling (which i have seen a chiro for per recommendation of the MW and some people here). i can tell you i was not shocked when the MD didn't even recommend a chiro (i didnt tell him i was seeing one...i wanted to see what he would say), but i was shocked when he suggested that this pain was another valid reason for having a scheduled c/s and also reason to HAVE AN EARLIER C/S. My mind went crazy and it was hard for me to bite my tongue but i did.<br>
the entire appt. was aggravating b/c he had an intern shadowing him for the day and never even asked my permission for her to join in. And, she actually participated in the external examination. i probably would have agreed to allow her to be present if asked, but thats not the point.<br>
today definiitely helped cement my decision to switch health care providers but felt the need to vent!<br>
Rach
 

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I've had students/interns/whatever present at several of my doctor's appointments over the years, and there was one at dd's c/s. My doctors have never once failed to ask me first if I'm okay with it! After I say yes, they even check with me about each thing the intern will be doing (ie. measuring my belly, etc.).<br><br>
I don't object, because I know that up-and-coming doctors need to learn their stuff. But, I'd be furious if nobody checked with me!
 

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i agree with you stormbride. i would have definitel been fine with the intern if i had been asked, but she just walked in and sat down and the introduction by the dr. was like an afterthought.<br>
i really liked this dr. until i decided i didnt want to schedule a c/s, so this is just another thing that affected me.<br>
also, he recommended an MRI for my pain, and i dont think that was necessitated. granted, he didnt push it too much once i began asking about the technology and affects on the baby, but the idea that he would recommend it bothered me. That, and not even considering recommending a chiro which has given me a lot of relief for my breathing, although not much for the pelvic pain.<br>
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I'm glad you're leaving him.<br><br>
Happy peaceful birthing.<br><br>
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Wow... the dr. needs to learn more about pain mgmt during pg and what is appropriate for various problems.<br><br>
I agree with the others about the intern... drs. have *always* asked in the past if having the intern there would be okay. I tend to get more and more emotional as my pg wears on... there's a point past which I would *NOT* want any stranger there, regardless of the reason.
 

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I would have waited until the end of the visit and then suggested that the dr. ask other patients in the future for permission and that other patients might not be as tolerant or understanding as I am.<br>
Good for you about going with a midwife!<br>
I will be having my baby in a birth center 2 hours away with midwives. I am quite happy with my decision. My OB will do vbacs and attended me in my last vbac however the hospital has changed its policys So Im outta there!<br><br>
Good luck mama!
 

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OMG!! my dr. office called me today b/c i missed an appt. w/ them. i had spoken to my MW earlier and they told me they had already faxed over a request for my records!!!!<br>
i was sooo trying to be a chicken about what to say to the dr's. office and now i had to confront them. i simply said "i really dont want to have a c-section".<br>
why oh why do we feel this way about drs????<br>
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Rach, for me, it was hard getting past the "Doctors are always right" thing that we were raised to believe. Yeh, we begin to realize this isn't true, but it takes a little while to not feel so insecure about it.<br><br>
Good for you for wanting to go with a mw. I don't understand how pelvic pain = c/s??? I had pelvic pain with my last, and while he was empathetic, the dr just told me that sometimes, the baby isn't positioned just right for our comfort, so it can be painful at times. Have you tried pelvic tilts? This did help a little, and as the months went on, baby eventually moved a little, and that helped my pain.<br><br>
Good luck!!!
 

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I don't even understand his logic- you're having pain so you should schedual an early c/s?<br><br>
Um, does this mean that if you have a runny nose or your bra gets too tight he'll want to schedual the c/s even earlier?
 

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On the off-chance you encounter this again, they are supposed to ask. If they don't, and you don't want the intern there, say so. In fact, I'd add that I was offended that they didn't ask.<br><br>
Actually, thinking about this more... when I've been asked, I've had no problems with an intern being there (of course who knows how pregnancy hormones'd affect my tolerance?). However if I was not asked, I would tell them that the intern could not be present just because of the lack of consideration.
 

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I completely understand it... c/sections cure all childbirth issues, so why not pelvic pain too. Oh yea.. that's it. Doctors, WTF will they think of next??!
 
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