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My girl has had problems gaining weight...and the home health nurse that's been weighing her insisted we see this new dr. (she doesn't like ours because he's ok with us exclussively bf) so to avoid problems we went.....oh man.<br>
This guy made me leave crying and feeling like a bad parent because I was breastfeeding and she's so small. He actually threatened that if she doesn't gain well that he'll be forced to take agressive actions...implying social services.<br>
But she's gaining! that's what this guy seemed to fail to realize. Our dr told us that as long as she is gaining then we don't need to be worried<br><br>
Help I don't know how to battle this man...he's not even my daughters dr.<br>
Oh and the home health nurse, I'm afraid to tell her to stop coming because she's walking over us and telling us one thing and doing another...is there a way to get her to back off with out the threat of social services dangling over our heads?
 

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That sounds awful. Can you get your usual dr. to write a letter saying that you're under his care and following his directions? I would tell the home health nurse that you have a dr and will not be needing her anymore.<br><br>
good luck<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I completely agree with Angela. Do not go back to that doctor. Go back to your original doctor. He seems to know his stuff. Can you ask for a different home nurse? Perhaps your doctor could recommend one.
 

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I would start a detailed journal in case anyone goes through on their threats. I like the idea of the note from the other doctor.<br><br>
And I would see a board certified lactation consultant (IBCLC) if at all possible, and document that in your journal.<br><br>
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Who "assigned" you a home health nurse in the first place? If it's your original pro-bf dr, you might want to tell him what's up with her.
 

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I agree, get your "good" doctor to write the home health nurse a letter saying the baby is perfectly healthy and gaining weight. Maybe even have his office call and cancel the nurse visits if you don't feel you can do it.
 

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this morning I called our home health nurse and asked for a new one...that felt good <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br>
My original dr. is out of town right now...I can't wait for him to come back...he's great guy and very very pro-breastfeeding<br><b>...you think he'll be able to stop the involvement of the other dr? they work at the same clinic...</b><br>
I guess I'm running in ciricles afraid of them reporting us to social services for whatever reason they might see fit<br><br>
Thanks for all your advice! I'm calling my LC today, she's board certified, and I am going to keep a journal, I think I'm also going to request the dr's office send me all the notes on my babe, just so I know what exactly they are all saying about her...
 

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Which weight chart are the doctors using? I bet it's the formula chart. I brought the CDC 2001 Breastfed Baby weight chart with me. Many Breastfed babies run very small on the formula charts. My one year old went from concern to 50% when they found the right chart. The doc went to find it online before he'd see me.<br><br>
I hear this all the time. Chart says..., look at the baby, good color, good milestones, not too skinny,, mom has no concerns, well, that chart must be wrong.<br><br>
Have your good doctor give that sharlatan a call.<br><br>
Please be assured that those weight charts cause trouble. You are the keeper of your child's health care. No one (except baby's daddy) has any right to choose, but you. You are a good mom. Sorry that bozo upset you. You are not alone, many other moms have been mislead/chatised because the doctors are ignorant of Breastfeeding and just spout formula fed nonsense. After all, the breast companies don't visit and give free samples and other information.
 

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Your doing great and as long as your doctor is ok with the baby it is no concern of the nurse. She is a nurse, not a doctor and has no authority to diagnose(sp). I am glad you are finding a new nurse and I wouldn't worry to much about social services. You are doing what is best for your family and your doc agrees.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"> Good job!<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I bet he will, he'll probably be ticked that some other doc is interfering with his patients. Just tell him exactly what's going on, I bet he'll take care of business.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I bet he will, he'll probably be ticked that some other doc is interfering with his patients. Just tell him exactly what's going on, I bet he'll take care of business.</div>
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