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I just gave up my dream job.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> And I'm having very mixed feelings about it. I quit a job I loved 5 years ago to stay home with my kids. I have never looked back and feel like I made the right decision. I kept my foot in the door by working very part-time and doing lots of volunteer work (it was for a public library). I was planning on going back to work someday as a small branch librarian and it was all worked out that I would be taking over when the current librarian retired in about 4 years. Well there is major budget problems and the county is trying to get people to retire early and the librarian is planning on taking the golden handshake. They asked me if I want to take the position when she left. I turned it down, so someone else will be taking the job. She plans on working for at least 10 more years so I will have to wait at least that long until the position comes up again. I have 4 kids ages 1, 3, 7 and 9. I know I made the right decision. My kids need me, life would be to stressful with both dh and I working full time, I don't have daycare....ect. But this has been the job I wanted since I was 17 years old and the extra money would be soooooo nice, I could save for retirement and not have to worry so much. Some days when the kids have been extra hard I just dream about working at my lovely little library. I'm so scared that in 10 years something will happen and it wont work out for me and I will have missed my chance.
 

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Can I be the voice of reason?? Things happen for a reason. Since there are budget cuts etc and sending people out the door, would it still be a "dream job"? Or would it be beauricratic BS and dealing with this type of stuff esp since the most of the people you worked with will be gone anyhow? The good thing about libraries, they are recession proof and will still be there down the road to manage. Even though someone else took the dream job, when a door closes another opens. There might be another library who has different needs etc which is not a dream job but fit what your life needs later on. HTH!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s, AngieB<br><br>
I can imagine myself in a similar spot in a few years... (I'm currently working PT, with the hope and expectation that my "dream job" will become available just about the time I'm done with school and DS2 starts 1st grade).<br><br>
If it was offered to me tomorrow, I would have some MAJOR soul searching to do & I have a feeling I'd turn it down, too. It just isn't the right time.<br><br>
I have to agree with Amys1st.... "dream job" isn't just about the position. It has a lot to do with timing. If this created MORE stress and obligation in your life, it wouldn't be the dreamy job you thought it would be. You might even resent the entire situation because of all the sacrifices you made to be there, yk? I know it's cliche' to pull out the "everything happens for a reason" line, but I have a feeling it's probably true in this case.<br><br>
Maybe in 5 years, when all your kids are in school, a great school librarian job will open up and you can all walk to "work" together... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 

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when you said dream job I scratched my head thinking what about the other jobs just to get to that job...1, 3, 7 and 9...well in ten years 11, 13, 17 and 19 would be better <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br>
I got exhausted just thinking about you getting ready to get out the door <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br>
Mine are 14,6,3 and one due this summer...I was so frazzled this morning getting everyone ready I thought I wore yesterdays underwear until I found my son's sock STUCK with static cling to the outside of it going swimming...
 
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