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I wanted to post and tell you all how much I appreciate the encouragement & advice I've gotten here. It's been a huge learnig experience & a journey of self discovery. Unfortunately, I'm out. I just had a last minute meeting with both a midwife I was thinking of using (and had decided against) and my OB from my last pregnancy. She lives next door to his office & decided to go chat about me. (I had given permission for that.) While there they called me over. FWIW, my OB no longer has hospital privelages & is striclty attending homebirths. He was a wonderful MD & I respect his opinion. Sadly, I can't say that about any other OB I had, but I digress...ANYHOW...they called me over to talk. I went. He had all my records out & we had a long talk. In the intrest of not typing for an hour the concensus was that this is a dangerous idea & after the explanation given, I tend to agree. Firstly, he said that if it were anyone else trying after 4 sections he absolutly thinks it is possible. He then went on to explain just how messed up my uterus is. Scar tissue on both the outside and inside and apparently when he was in there the bowel was almost etirely encased in scar tissue. It doesn't take a genius to see where any pushing would wind up. I can choose to believe that he is right or I can go with it & my gut which tells me I am ok. They way I see it...there's no choice. The risks are far higher than a normal vbacing woman, even a vbamcing woman. The odds are too high. Maybe it would have worked but I'm not going to attempt to find out. A live baby wins, every time. I can't, in good faith, risk someone else's life to have this...as much as I want it. It was a hard one to swallow, I'd really put so much into this, you have no idea. But, bottom line, I love my baby. Not worth the risk. So I'm out. It's really alot to take in, it likely means no more pregnancies as well. I suppose sometimes we can't have what we want & have to learn to be satisfied with what we do have. So that's my new test. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> It's also hard to know that it's because of stupid choices *I* made that this is the place I'm at. None of these sections were needed...but, unfortunatly, this one is. But hey...like my idol Dr. Phil says..."You choose the behavior, you choose the consequences." I did & I am. *sigh* I will not choose reckless behavior this time as I couldn't accept the consequences. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Good luck to all the UCing mamas though! And thanks for all the encouragement. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
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Remember that you don't need to accept any other interventions or tests during the pg just because you need a c/s in the end.
 

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Oh, I do know that! And I will most definately be excercising that right. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Good luck, I'm sure you will have the most thought-out C/S birth plan they've ever seen, LOL!<br>
I have heard that sometimes, in a subsequent section, they can actually "clean out" scar tissue and actually make the situation BETTER rather than worse.....is there any chance that might be an option for you, if you wanted to try and preserve the possibility of future children? Perhaps something you could ask your doctor about? Only if that is something you would want, of course.<br>
Have you decided whether or not you will try to labor a while first, in order to be able to give the baby those benefits, or if the risk is just too great and you will be scheduling the section prior to labor?<br>
Good luck!
 

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I think you have the right attitude about this and a making a very good decision. I'm sorry that you won't get exactly the birth you wanted, but I am sure it will be a joyful experience. I am wishing you a beautiful Cesarean birth. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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is there any way you could deliver the baby yourself? (through the csection- i understand youre saying you cant uc) or at least have them clean out as much scarring as possble?<br>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> what a hard decision to make. it definitely sounds like the right one.<br><br>
a cool article about c/s<br><a href="http://www.theage.com.au/articles/2007/04/14/1175971419538.html" target="_blank">http://www.theage.com.au/articles/20...971419538.html</a>
 

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We all do what we have to do. I hope you're still able to have a really good birth.
 

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Thanks all. I really appreciate all this. I'm really disappointed, but better to know at 23 weeks so I can prepare myself. Thinking c-section is weird, even though I've had 4, I had myself convinced I wouldn't have one. Alas, can only make the best of it. It will still be an amazing day, regardless.<br>
Thanks again!
 

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Ok...so now you get to plan the best csec possible, right? There are places where women are not having that stupid drape between them and their belly, and are getting to help lift the baby out and up to their breasts.... You are making the best decision with csec; now make all the best csec decisions. The heart of UC is, after all, being in charge of events as much as possible. Give yourself a little time to grieve and adjust to this new idea, then get going on your blissful birth plan!<br><br>
many many hugs to you and that lucky, wise baby who has you for a mom.
 

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May your birth be beautiful and your soul at peace.
 

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I know that all of your preparation and passion have created the foundation for an amazing, empowering birth <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/dust.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dust">
 

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girl, that is some hard core news from the doctor.<br><br>
i think with that much scar tissue, it makes total sense to go through the operative route. I assume it's going to be another c-section? it's absolutely what is best for you and your babe, in light of the evidence.<br><br>
and, as PPs have mentioned, there's no way that all of your work is for nothing. YOu're going into this with a lot of self-knowledge, and that carries over.
 
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