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DD has been really crabby lately, partly due to illness, but also due to weird sleeping habits. She's more consistently taking a later morning nap, and her afternoon nap ends later and later, usually somewhere between 3 and 4:30. She's a wreck by 6, and we try to put her to bed early, but she usually won't go down until at least 7. Then she often wakes again and won't sleep until 10. It's driving me crazy since she's so unhappy while awake.<br><br>
We have a bedtime routine--bath, stories, swaddle, and nurse.<br><br>
I usually lay down with her to nap and she nurses. Nurse-naps are 1-2 hours. I know I should be happy she naps, period (since I have friends whose babes don't), but when she doesn't take the naps she needs it's hard. Plus she's really squirmy when I do try to get her to sleep, talking on the breast (yes, with her mouth full), and thrashing her legs. I thought they didn't drop the third nap until 1 yr. Any help is soooo appreciated.
 

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I can't totally tell from your post what her current routine is... Does she take two naps now, or three?<br><br>
All babies are different, obviously, but I think it's pretty typical for most babies to drop their third nap sometime between 5 and 9 months old. DD stopped taking a third nap at about 6 or 7 months old. It just got shorter and shorter, and became clear she no longer needed it.<br>
One rule of thumb that I found pretty helpful as a rough guide was the 2-3-4 rule. She's usually ready for a morning nap about 2 hours after she wakes up in the morning. She's ready for an afternoon nap about three hours after she gets up from that one. And she's ready to go to bed for the night about 4 hours after she gets up from the afternoon nap (in DD's case, she's not a super lengthy napper, so it's often more like a 2.5-3.5-4.5 rule - I just base it on when she starts seeming sleepy, but not overtired, though I do try to keep us to a somewhat similar routine each day, since it seems to help her a lot).
 

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Apologies for the confusion (I'm a little tired <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">). She's taking 2 real naps, late morning and mid-afternoon, but then instead of going to sleep early evening, she often wakes up again, so in essence she's taking a 3rd nap at 7pm.<br><br>
That rule is helpful. Maybe I should try to get her to sleep sooner in the morning, though it's been difficult (verbal protesting and thrashing ensues).
 

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My DS (a few days shy of 10 months), takes 2 naps about 3 days out of the week. The other 4, he takes 1. Just depends on the day & our activities & his level of tiredness & willingness to wind down.<br><br>
My DD dropped her second nap around 12/13 months.<br><br>
Previous to that, I don't really even remember the "third nap" or more... they were either sleeping, or not sleeping, but I never had my kids on any kind of schedule, so I don't know...
 

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My DD is 6.5 mths and also struggles with the evening nap. She often doesn't wake from her second nap unitl 3:00-3:30, so doesn't want another nap until around 7:00-7:30 when it's too close to bedtime. I usually just try to put her to bed early (around 7:30-8:00) when she misses her evening nap. She will also usually wake after a couple of hours, but will go back to sleep with a paci, or nursing, or worst case scenario I just turn into bed with her at that time whether I'm ready or not.
 

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My little guy stopped taking 3 naps pretty early on. On days when he only took 2 naps, he would often seem to need a third nap but would never go down for one. I started taking him for a walk in the stroller in the late afternoon/evening. Sometimes he would nap, sometimes he wouldn't - but just having some down time seemed to help, even if he didn't sleep.<br><br>
Now (almost a year), he only takes 2 naps - but sometimes we still do the stroller down-time in the evening if he's having a cranky afternoon for whatever reason.<br><br>
So 2 naps, plus an outing in the stroller - it's worked well for us for months now!
 

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We dropped the third nap at about 8 months. They typically took a 10:30, 3:00 and 7:00 nap and then bed at 10 or 10:30. DH goes to bed around 9 and I stay up for a few hours, so that schedule worked fine for us. Last month we started skipping the 7:00 nap, they just seemed ready, and putting them to bed earlier. It's been working great, but I do tend to go to bed earlier as well, when they wake up to nurse.
 

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It helps to know there are babies that go to bed late. It's just hard because evening is the time I have to work on schoolwork (I teach a college course) and my writing (defending my dissertation in a couple weeks), when DH comes home from work.<br><br>
DD went to bed about 10 last night and slept until 8:45am, and I just got her down for nap 1 at 10:30am. We'll see how it goes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Third nap?!? That was an option?!? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
My dd was doing the routine you describe, except her second nap was from 5-6 and then she was staying awake until 1am. I've "fixed" it--temporarily, at least, by making two rules. 1. No sleeping after 5. Period. DH sometimes takes her out to distract her, b/c I hate to watch her be so tired and not sleep. 2. Wake up time at 7:30am, no matter what.<br><br>
It's really helped! Now she goes down at 8:30, wakes at about 12, 2, and 5, and is up at 7ish. I didn't mess with her sleep at all until she was 9mo, but by then I'd had it with the late bedtime. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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