oh how I can relate!!! ds HATED the car until about 13 months and he still "times-out" when we spend too much time in the car
I used to hate the "he'll fall asleep in the car" comments, especially near bedtime b/c he never would...like your dc, he'd cry for an entire hour or more and get to the point that he'd choke and have a tick in his neck! it broke my heart and stopping was only a VERY temporary fix...he'd wake up and freak out when I tried to put him back in the car seat. It usually took a while for him to calm down once we got home, too...I remember once he cried in his sleep in my arms for over an hour (after crying for an hour in the car)...I vowed to only drive when necessary and that's pretty much what we did.
I know a lot of the problem is/was that he HATES being restrained...he never did like swaddling for arms or legs...we've always given him such physical freedom (except in sling, but that's against mommy
I didn't want to feed him in the car OR feed him as a distraction/reward/etc., BUT I resorted to Oatios (organic Cherrios), raisins, and Wasa crackers to distract him from the ride. The Wasas take a while to eat (a good thing in the car
), but all of them made me nervous as chocking hazards so I relied heavily on the mirror and listening to him.
I hope some of this helps!!
PS I also stocked the front set with toys and handed them one after another as he dropped or threw what he had, but really once he got mad and started throwing it was no help
gotta go for now, but you can pm me if you want