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I have a 5.5 year old ds. I'm not RU by any means, but I've approached homeschooling in an unschooling way because, honestly, it's more *my* style to be hands-off and let kids do what they will and because he's only 5. I figure he should mostly be playing and exploring and doing 5 year old things, you know?<br><br>
He wanted to go to kindergarden, but I basically said no, and that he could go to 1st grade next year when I could enroll him in a small community charter-type school made up of mostly Amish kids (they don't have kindergarden). This was also because I thought I was going to be starting nursing school next year and would need to put him in school. Now the situation is changed and I won't be doing nursing school and would rather keep him out of school for longer but he's just not happy.<br><br>
He's not good at being self-directed .. he likes being read to and playing games with me. But I have an almost 3 year old too who's pretty high-maintenance, plus I'm expecting a baby in January. I'm just not able to engage him in activities constantly and lead him through his day like he seems to be asking for. He really loves being with other kids. He's shy and introverted, but paradoxically being around other kids seems to bring him out of his shell .. it's like he needs someone to follow. We live in a small rural area with very few like-minded homeschoolers, so there are just not many opportunities for group events\\<br><br>
He's always asking to "do school". He'll proudly tell people who ask that though he's not in school now, he will be next year. So part of it is that I need to organize some structured homeschooling for him, but that won't change the lack of other kids to learn with. Plus the fact that with two younger siblings, I'm just not going to be able to do a ton of direct stuff with him.<br><br>
I don't want him in school, but maybe it would be better for him? I keep thinking that I'll put him in school and he'll realize that it's not all he thought it would be and I'll pull him out and he'll be more satisfied with being homeschooled. But what if he loves it?, lol.<br><br>
I need some advice, I've rambled long enough, lol.
 

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I also have a 5yo boy (and a 21mo old) who wanted to go to school until I told him that it was not just playing with the other kids all day...you had to sit in a desk and listen to what the teacher said. He sure changed his mind then! He is extroverted and has lots of energy. I did feel like you dofor a time...that he would be better off in school.<br><br>
Now the situation is better since I found more for him to do. We set up a rope swing in the front yard and he loves it. He goes out there with his dog and talks to everyone who walks by. I also set up more for him like--playdough set, blocks, internet games (starfall and pbskids), parkdays, he goes with grandma at least once a week, set up coloring/painting stuff, workbooks, nature walks and collecting stuff...ect. I had to be more proactive to find stuff for him to do because he could not think of it on his own. Can him and his 3yo sibling play together?<br><br>
I hope this can help and that you find a situation that works out for you all. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s
 

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My daughter asked to go to school a few months ago, she is 4.5. I am new to homeschooling, I'm an "unschooler" and believe in child led learning, and I too struggled with this decision. I really didn't want her to go, in the end I didn't send her.<br><br>
I thought that she was too young to know what school really entails, not really knowing what she was asking for, but just asking perhaps because her cousins went to school or she watched programs which had school in them.<br><br>
I felt I was making the best decision for my duaghter as she is too young to make that decision herself. If she was 14 rather than 4, I would have a hard time saying no.<br><br>
I saught advice from some other homeschoolers who suggested that maybe she was just craving something. Example more stucture, stimulation, or more socializatioin time with new people. Perahps find out the reason he would like to go to school and try to meet those desires at home.<br><br>
There is another thread you might want to read about the same topic...<br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=1158919" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1158919</a>
 
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