Hi all. I was on these boards way back when DD Aubrey was still a bun in the oven, but dropped off. Now she is 4 and I am back, mostly to get support and ideas for homeschooling.
We have always been inclined to homeschool, even before we knew we were going to have children. I expected that we would encounter a lot of resistance when she got to be 5 and it would be time to enroll in PS. I NEVER expected to get all the pressure when she was 3! It comes not just from family, but from some of our friends, and most often from strangers that we meet who ask, "How old are you, little girl?" Then she says "4." and they reply, "What school do you go to?" I am just floored by this.
When the majority of the children in our circle of friends reached the age of 3, they started pre-school. I understand that the parents wanted their kids to be excited about this (possibly intimidating) new step, but they just hyped it up sooooo much in our presence, that Aubrey started to feel left out. It reached a head when a good friend was talking excitedly about their DD, 6 months younger than ours, going to pre-school soon. Aubrey hung her head, kicked the dirt, and said "I'm not old enough to go to pre-school." (Aubrey KNOWS that she is older than this other littel girl.) It just broke my heart!
So, we started talking about homeschooling with Aubrey. An acquaintance who also homeschools refers to "non-homeschoooling" as "away school". I really like this phrase, as opposed to "school", "pre-school", or worst, "real school". So now that we have given Aubrey something to say in response to those ever-present questions, she happily says, "We are homeschooling."
All that being said, I really started to doubt myself in the last few months and have been thinking about some sort of pre-school for her. I don't think I really have any good reasons, other than wanting her to be more comfortable in groups of children. Deep down, I know it is just a crisis of confidence. So, I went to the library and got Teach Your Own by John Holt, and after reading a few chapters, as well as these boards this morning, I am feeling better. Not to mention, the $3000 that we might have spent on Montessori can go a long way toward some great learning materials, field trips, musical instruments, etc.
OK, this post was longer than I intended!
Thanks for the great community here.