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For those of you here that work, go to school or do anything that requires your ds go to daycare, what do you do when they are sick? Do you have back-up? I have no family around where we live, we have friends but they all work or have kids so watching a sick kid wouldn't work. Plus I would never leave ds when he is this sick.<br><br>
Its so hard, ds is sick right now, I just started a new job last Monday, this is my second week. He is really sick, started last night, he has a fever and has not kept anything down since then. We were pretty much awake most of the night, with 15 minute bits of sleep between vomiting. I took him to the doctor this morning because he is so lethargic and he has never been sick like this. I know what to do with vomiting but I was and still am very concerned. Anyway, I had to stay home from work today and I will be with him tomorrow too, even if he starts getting better tonight. He is not showing signs of severe dehydration but the doctor wants me to take him to the ER if he hasn't started keeping stuff down by this evening.<br><br>
Luckily my boss is excellent and I really believe her when she says stay and take care of ds and do not worry about it. Not that it would matter, I would never leave ds when he is like this, even with a family member if they were around.<br><br>
Its such a hard balancing act, how do you guys manage? Sorry this turned into a little bit of a crying vent.
 

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Ds and I just moved, about 3-4 months ago, about 6 hours south of my family, so we also have no family and very few friends in the area.<br><br>
This is one of the reasons why I chose to be a teacher...very family friendly/understanding. Additionally, that is also why I was so thankful to get my school...even more family friendly/understanding.<br><br>
You do what you have to do...there really isn't anything to balance, is there? For me there isn't. Sick child...mommy has to be home.<br><br>
I suppose the BEST choice to help find any kind of balance would be to make sure you find a job/career that is family friendly/understanding.<br><br>
IT IS <span style="font-size:x-large;">VERY</span> HARD, in addition to ridiculous stressful!!!! My heart goes out to you, I completely understand the dilemma.<br><br>
Hope your baby is feeling well soon. You are very fortunate, and wise, to find an understanding boss.
 

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While single I was blessed with my mom...IF Ds was sick, I had no choice but to work (paycheck to paycheck, no paid sick leave as a social worker). Thankfully, she'd go so far as to nurse my son (*literally) thru an illness. Since then, I've made it a point to repay the favor to a close friend whose a single mom with no fmaily close by. IF her DD is not horrifically ill, I keep her b/c her mom works in jy old workplace. But its a fine line to walk as a mommy and my heart goes out to you!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Just wanted to send emphathy and a <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">.<br>
My DS is sick right now with a puking/diarrhea virus too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. Although it doesn't sounds like he's quite as bad as your DS.<br>
I struggle with this as well. I am self employed and see patients. So every time I stay home with DS, I have to cancel a handful of patients, try to reschedule them (which is pretty near impossible) and lose all that money. It is SO hard to decide when to stay. I'm very blessed to have my mom to help, but DS hasn't been keeping much food down either and doesn't take bm well from a cup or bottle. I'm having the same dilemma about whether I should stay home with him tomorrow or not!<br>
So... not much help!<br>
But I do have to say, things seem to have a way of working out. When I've cancelled patients because DS was really sick and I thought there was no way I'd make ends meet and the patients would all be aggravated... somehow the ends got met and the rest worked out. It sounds like your boss gets it... is she a mom?<br>
I hope your DS feels a lot better very soon. It's awful and scary to have them feeling so terrible, isn't it? Who even wants to think or worry about work when our babies need us?<br>
Good luck.<br>
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Thanks for all the support! DS is still sick today but much better than the first 36 hours. Still has a fever but he hasn't vomited since last night! He is talking and moving around more, he still has a low fever but I am so happy my baby is getting better. I cannot believe how sick he was, it was scary. So I am home with him today and all is well with work.<br><br>
My boss does not have children but the organization is very pro-women and all about feminism and empowerment for women in all of their roles, so it is very family friendly.<br><br>
Things do all seem to work out for us too. Thanks again for all the hugs and support.
 

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I am totally stressing out. I thought ds was getting better, and he has as far as the vomiting and extreme lethargy, but he is still running a fever and still not back to normal. I cannot take him to preschool tomorrow and I have no "sick child" back-up. He isn't feeling awful so if I had someone that he and I were comfortable with I would be ok leaving him. This will be day #4 in a row that I am missing work at a new job! They have been understanding, genuinely so, but how long can they stay that way? This is more of just a vent...he has never been sick for this long, and he has never been this sick. I called his Dr. on-call nurse and they said I should bring him in tomorrow, Monday. Do viruses last this long? He has been sick since Tuesday. I am worried about him and feel terrible that he is sick and at the same time I am so stressed about work. I called my boss on her cell and left a message tonight and I will email as well. We have a board meeting tomorrow night that I do have a sitter for so at least I can go to that, but still....ugh, its impossible at times.
 

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I am sorry to hear that your ds is still not feeling better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I can understand about your work. It is hard and always a huge concern, especially when you are still the newbie in the organization.<br><br>
I hope everything goes well with your boss. I hope she'll understand. Your ability to go to that board meeting will definitely be to your benefit.<br><br>
Good luck and I hope your boy is feeling better really soon!
 

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My 3.5yo ds just spent a week+ with the vomit/diarreah virus <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> He is still not himself. Lethargic, tired, cranky, etc. Our ped said it (the barfy part) could last up to 8 days. This is the first time he has ever really been sick (YAY! for a typically strong immune system) DS has a well child/WIC refferal appt in 1.5 weeks, if he is not totaly himself by then I will ask for some blood work. For now I am trying to bolster his immune system and energy reserves with Kefir, acidolphilus caps, multi vites and lots of green foods/drinks. I figure since he was sick so long it may take him a bit to fully be himself.<br>
I would guess that your lo's fever will be gone in the morning. (one's temp tends to be up in the evening anyhow) Could you maybe work a 1/2 day tomorrow, so that your lo does not over do it and get worn out at preschool?
 
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