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x-posted in toddlers...<br>
ds is 26 months old, he's been using the potty for about 2 months. About 10 days ago he refuses to take a break to try and pee. When he pees he'll yell "pee, potty!" and run to the potty but it's too late. We've been offering and reminding him but he says no, if I take him into the bathroom he'll start crying, arching his back, refusing to sit down. A couple of times he's peed right next to the potty b/c he won't sit down. dh and I are really frustrated and I don't know how to address the situation. Is this a discipline issue ? he's capable of using potty but just refusing... I don't want to imply to him that an accident is wrong/bad. Do you have any suggestions? Thanks
 

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sorry, I don't have advice...I'll just be lurking.<br>
my dd is 30m and she was doing fantastic with peeing on potty (we still hadn't made it over the poop hump) she was even waking up dry after nap and in the morning...but for the past week, she has been resisting using the potty...unless it's in some way novel...like we're at a store or someone's house, and she just wants to try theirs out<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br>
she is definitely having more "accidents" (they're not really accidents per se...she announces when it will happen) than she is making it to the potty.<br>
I have a friend who had a dd a little older than mine who went through the same thing and came through it...maybe it's a phase?<br>
good luck...I know how frustrating it can be!
 

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We practice elimination communication with our son, and we have experienced the same thing. I think it's part of them figuring out that they have control, first over their bodies and elimination muscles, and then control over when and if they potty. A very wise ECer explained this refusal and then immediate peeing as the child's way of testing -- he knows he can hold it, but he doesn't know how long, and he will say 'no' because, consciously or not, he is testing how long he can hold his bladder. He has to hold it too long, have some potty misses, and then he learns when he's 'really gotta go.' Then, once he knows, if you ask him or offer the potty when he thinks he can hold it longer, he tells you 'no' again because he actually doesn't want/need to go and wants control over deciding when to use the toilet. Your guy might be in the first stage of testing his holding limits. Does that make sense?<br><br>
Just keep offering when you think he needs to go or based on timing (before bedtime/when you're all leaving the house/first thing in the a.m./etc.), honor his communication if he refuses, and let him know you're there to help if he needs it.
 
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