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By way of background, DH and I co-sleep with our 21-m.o. DS. DS goes to bed between 7-7:30, wakes 2-3 times a night to nurse, and wakes for good around 5:30-6.<br><br>
During the past few weeks, DS has been waking sometime between 10:30 p.m. and 1 a.m. in a strange state and staying "awake" for up to an hour and a half. The weird thing is that he doesn't seem like he's truly awake. When he first wakes up, he starts to make nonverbal whimpering/whining/fussing sounds. I generally draw him close to nurse. Sometimes he will nurse quietly, but sometimes he will fight me off, saying "away! away!" like he has no idea who it is, or else he will nurse for a time and then throw himself across the bed and start thrashing wildly or trying to push DH out of bed. A few nights ago he did so many flips he almost flipped himself right out of bed. Even if he nurses quietly for a while, he won't go back to sleep. He will voluntarily unlatch, but then will thrash and whine for what seems like an endless period of time. DH and I have tried quietly talking to him and asking him whether he is hot? cold? hungry? thirsty? hurting? etc., but he is almost completely nonresponsive (although he can answer those questions quite readily when he is fully awake). Last night, after nursing, trying to push DH out of bed, and whining for a time, he started saying random words, some of which we understood, some we didn't (like "birds," "dogs," "do-dos" [roosters]). After more than an hour of thrashing and whining, he finally fell asleep, by himself, lying on top of me.<br><br>
He seems to be in some strange not-quite-awake but not-quite-asleep state while all this is happening. It's odd, and makes me anxious when he seems not to recognize us or even to be slightly afraid.<br><br>
In this same time period, he has started to show fear for the first time. He thinks there is a "scary do-do (rooster)" in the bathroom (???), jumped and cried yesterday when the buzzer for the dryer went off, and scared himself silly yesterday evening when he went into a room in the house where the lights weren't on yet.<br><br>
We were on vacation last week, which was stressful for him, but this started before vacation.<br><br>
Has anyone experienced anything like this before? Any suggestions on how to handle it? Is is possible that this is some form of night terror? If so, why is he in this fugue-like state for so long?<br><br>
Thanks in advance for any thoughts or advice.
 

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My DD started doing something very similar at about 15 months. She was in her own room by then, but when she's start making noises, I'd go in to comfort her and find that she was still asleep. I finally decided it was probably dreaming, and started giving her a few minutes to settle herself before going in to her. It's still tough to wait those few minutes (only three or four), but nearly inevitably, she quiets without ever actually waking.<br><br>
Just last night, she slept between DH and I, and did the same stirring-yet-sleeping thing. After trying repeatedly to comfort her, I just moved her over to her cosleeper next to my bed. That did the trick - having DH and I there was *keeping* her from re-settling herself.<br><br>
Maybe something there you can try?<br><br>
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Hmm, I did try the wait-and-see approach last night, but he didn't resettle. Instead, he became increasingly upset and restless.<br><br>
I have been wondering whether the time to move him to his own bed is coming soon.
 

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My DD(now 3) went through a time when she did this sort of thing regularly at some point which I don't remember <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> She then stopped and only did it occasionally until recently, she has started doing it again and it is quite disturbing, especially on the nights when she starts yelling that she wants her mommy and can't find her anywhere when I am sitting next to her and trying to comfort her. I have become convinced that in her case it is stress related. I'm certain its happening recently because of the addition of a new baby to our family. For us a separate bed has not been the answer. I have had good luck using the homeopathic "Calms Forte" for kids. If she wakes several nights in a row I will give it to her for one or two nights and it typically interrupts the cycle.<br>
I too would love to hear if others have been through this, what they've done.
 

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It sounds like it could be night terrors. You might check out a resource like <a href="http://www.nightterrors.org/" target="_blank">http://www.nightterrors.org/</a> to learn more.<br><br>
I know night terrors run in my family so it's something I've researched a bit. They happen in the same state as sleep walking or sleep talking and the person is sort of caught between being awake and being asleep (their eyes will be open, they might talk or cry, but they're not really awake). Some people outgrow them, others have night terrors their whole life, and some outgrow night terrors but then sleep walk or sleep talk later on.<br><br>
Anyway, it may not be night terrors, but it would be worth checking out! Hope you're all getting better sleep soon....
 
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