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Does anyone else have experience here? DS is going to be in kindergarten in the fall and really wants to go to school. I think it is just for the social part of it. I really want to hs him. I have wanted to hs him since he was 2yo. I don't want to smoother him though or make him resentful of me. Should I just send him to school? This has been the hardest decision for me. I keep going back and forth on what to do with him. It is really pulling at my heart strings.
 

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Maybe you could look for something that has a part-time program? There is a school near us where you can go three days a week from age 5-7.<br><br>
I would not personally send my five year old to full time school, regardless of how much they wanted to go. There are too many reasons for me not to let them and I don't think that they can make an informed decision about it.<br><br>
Also, I've seen people recommend here before to find out what it is about school that he wants to do. Ride the bus? Hang out with kids? Buy a backpack? Many things about school, you can do for him yourself.
 

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I would try to talk to him more and find out what it is about school that he is looking forward to/excited about. Is it playing with the kids, getting a new back pack, riding the bus, having a lunch bag, etc. I think when kids say this, especially such young kids, its because they have this mental picture of what school likes like and it is usually something not directly related to actual school. So, if it is the other kids, are there homeschool play groups, PE classes, etc. that would meet that need? Can he pick out a backpack full of supplies? Can he have a lunch bag and a packed lunch of his own for regular outings, etc. In other words, how you meet the expectations he has about school?
 

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I will do that. I looked into the the local zoo programs (ds loves animals) and their might be something their. We have a local coop and hs building near us. I just need to figure out what he wants!
 

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The best cure for my son wanting to go to school was to go to school. He got over it pretty quick after that and was ready to be home again. But they're all different.
 

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sorrry but i look at it this way homeschooling is what my family does and that is that. every child wants to do what someone else is doing what they see. we are the only hsing ones around me and all the other kids voice how they dont want to be in school and want to be hs'ed. i think if you talk to him about how things are different and this is how your family does things. i just made it known from my dd's birth that she was homechooled and that was that no schools for her. so she understands that this is our family and we do hsing not shcools <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Thanks everyone...lots of food for thought. I really am torn.
 

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my dd went through the exact same thing, and like you i knew i wanted to homeschool from the time she was a baby. she has never been to school in any shape or form, but i think she was interested in going because her cousins go to public school. i was almost willing to cave in and let her go to kindergarten but my dh stepped in and said "no way". i'm so glad he did!!! we love homeschooling so much! his point was that we cannot judge what we have never officially even tried. homeschooling had been our plan for years and we needed to stick with it and and least <i>try it</i> before giving up on our desire. anyway, it was a great decision for our family and i'm glad i followed my husband's leading <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> hth!!<br><br><br>
btw - we approached it with my dd by saying we would commit to homeschooling for 1 year only and then re-assess our situation as a family. she LOVES homeschooling and plans to do it through college -lol. she's 6.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My son would like to go to school. When he's old enough that I feel he is able to evaluate the options and make a choice for himself, he'll have a say in it. For now, we decide for him. We have reasons for homeschooling and they are important to us, so we homeschool. He's now going into 1st grade will be homeschooled again.<br><br>
He regularly told me that he wanted to go to school and I finally was able to figure out why he kept telling me that - he didn't want to go the real school...he wanted to go to his old daycare (which we had always refered to as 'school') and play all day. Not what public school is, and I explained that. He's fine with it and knows that he can help us decide when he's older, so it has become less of a big deal.<br><br>
That's my experience <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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for those moms out there who hs middle/high school age kids, how is it going??<br><br>
is it much harder than when they were little?<br>
is the material harder for you to teach?<br>
do they still REALLY enjoy it?<br>
do they complain more about wanting to go to ps??<br>
what do you do to keep them social?<br><br>
we here so much about hsing little ones I want to know more about the long term<br>
thanks!!<br><br>
***SORRY I ment this as a new thread not a response!!!
 

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Dd told me she was excited to go to school because that's what she had seen on TV-- preschool kids grow and eventually go to kindergarten.<br><br>
So I asked what about Kindergarten made her most excited and she said playing with other kids. I told her that if she went to local school, she could play with kids, but it would be for a short amount of time and that most of her time would be spent learning. (Kinder in my city is part time, but there is pre-K prep and I feel that soon they will move to all day kinder.)<br><br>
Then I told her how we'd like to keep her home so she could be schooled here and how when she wanted to go out and play, that she could play as much as she wanted. At school, she could play, but then she'd have to work and she might get to play again before her day was done.<br><br>
To me, the preschooler/ kinder level of schooling should equate to play. However, in my state, that's not the case. So we have found other outlets (like Y swimming or library story time) where she could meet kids to just play and not worry about state standards. This has been more influential to her learning.
 

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My youngest ds wanted to go to school. It was for social reasons. So I started taking him to library time every week, homeschool park days, and church. Cured! Now he loves being a homeschooler. He wants a lunch box like school kids and I said we will get one. So maybe if you meet his social needs he will be more inclined to stay at home.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">for those moms out there who hs middle/high school age kids, how is it going??<br><br>
is it much harder than when they were little?<br>
is the material harder for you to teach?<br>
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do they complain more about wanting to go to ps??<br>
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My son is 13 and it's easier to H/S as he gets older. The only tough part is actually motivating him. I "have" to use a weekly schedule. I put each day of the week on each weekly schedule and what I want him to accomplish on that particular day. He prefers doing school work in the a.m .hours so it works out pretty good as long as he has that schedule.<br><br>
The material isn't harder (yet) but I plan to help him get in to a community college at the age of 15 in a couple of years.<br><br>
My son enjoys being H/S still but he is slow at getting stuff done sometimes and lost his lust for reading <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> (private school did it to him) and so we are working on getting back in to the groove.<br><br>
My son doesn't want to go to school outside the home ever again or so he says.<br><br>
We are part of a H/S co-op group and we also go to classes for homeschooler's at the local YMCA and museums, art and music classes.<br><br>
My son gets plenty of socialization at homeschool activities, going to run errands with me or my DH, he gets it WITH me and my DH <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> as we do talk to him and communicate with him and do fun things with him and his siblings. He also gets it with grandparents and other adults we know.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">homeschooling is what my family does and that is that...made it known from my dd's birth that she was homechooled and that was that no schools for her. so she understands that this is our family and we do hsing not shcools <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"></div>
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This is kind of how our family works too. I will not let my 5 year old decide a major decision like this, because she doesn't really know what's best for her. She doesn't understand the ramifications of her going to our local school. We homeschool, it's what our family does. There was never any talk of school and there was never any asking if she wanted to go to school. It's definitely an advantage of us making this decision very early on.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Does anyone else have experience here? DS is going to be in kindergarten in the fall and really wants to go to school. I think it is just for the social part of it. I really want to hs him. I have wanted to hs him since he was 2yo. I don't want to smoother him though or make him resentful of me. Should I just send him to school? This has been the hardest decision for me. I keep going back and forth on what to do with him. It is really pulling at my heart strings.</div>
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I think you should do what you want to.
 

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My nearly 5 year old was absolutely adamant that she was going to kindergarten this fall. So much so that I was seriously considering it, even though it's so not what I want for her.<br><br>
I'd seen a lot of posts here talking about finding out what the child wants from school, but she couldn't tell me. Weeks later it's come out - she wants time away from being the big sister. This only came up because she's doing a 2 hour a week summer program and will do a 1/2 day gymnastics class while we're visiting my parents (we live rurally) and she's SO excited.<br><br>
As much as I want to hear her and respect her opinions, it just felt really wrong for our family when I was looking at schools. So, my DH and I made the final decision. I'm sure that come September we'll hear about it again, but I just can't do it. There's a lot that she'd love to do that we just can't won't allow, and this is one of those things.<br><br>
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My dd just wanted the experience that everyone else was talking about. About getting ready for school, packing a lunch, taking a bus, etc. Also, at barely 5, it still confused her when people asked her about school. But taking a class, satisfied all of that for her. Then when strangers asked her about school, she immediately started talking about her art class. Her little lunch sack had her snack for the walk home. Oh, we didn't get to do the whole school bus thing, but she wouldn't have been on a school bus for school anyway.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is kind of how our family works too. I will not let my 5 year old decide a major decision like this, because she doesn't really know what's best for her. She doesn't understand the ramifications of her going to our local school. We homeschool, it's what our family does. There was never any talk of school and there was never any asking if she wanted to go to school. It's definitely an advantage of us making this decision very early on.</div>
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Yup.
 

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I'm considering this too. DD wants to go to school, and part of it is to make friends (we live in a rural area, so she only plays with her sister). I'm also considering it because I also have a newborn and a 3.5 yr old, and honestly, dd1 and I don't always get along very well (she was diagnosed with ODD, though I'm not sure I agree with the dx, we certainly have problems.<br><br>
We have decided we will do a two week hs trial at the end of August and then decide. She's also going to go to the one week transition program in July.
 
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