[OriginalGirlGamer]

DS will be 20 months in 4 more days. He doesn't talk, but understands a little bit (take it to dada, put that back, bring me your sippy).
He has a horrid temper though. He bites, pinches, pulls hair and yells. Today he was playing quietly, then all of a sudden, he jumped up and started screaming and throwing things. He threw his toys, my couch pillow, the remote, whatever he could get his little hands on, yelling and screaming the whole time. Then just as quick as it started, it stopped. He sat back down and started playing with his toys again.
If you tell him no, he throws things, if you tell him he can't throw things, he throw more, or he'll go for your hair, or bite.

Is this normal, soon to become terrible two's behaviour? Or is this something I should bring up to his doctor this week when we go?

 

[slightly crunchy]

Are you or your doctor concerned that he is not talking yet?

I think it could be normal, but it could be that he is frustrated and doesn't know how else to communicate what is bothering him.

So, I would try saying something like "you seem ANGRY". And make some guesses as to what might be upsetting him. Toy not doing what he wanted? Couldn't fit the puzzle piece? I would move any unsafe-for-throwing toys away. Give him words for what he is feeling "upset" "frustrated" "mad" etc.

 

[justamom2]

welcome to the terrible two's

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especially boys ... i find boys to be harder when they are younger and easier as they get older... and girls easy when they are young and harder as they get older

Your son is fine. I would suggest however when he does pinch and bite to get down to his level and say look at him an say "no biting mommy" ..
My son used to be just sitting on the floor playing quietly.. then all of a sudden he would get so frustrated and he would throw the toy he was playing with and scream and cry. I think he was exactly that frustrated.. maybe he was trying to do something that wasent working out... maybe he pinched his finger and he got mad..

I wouldnt worry to much about it

 

[OriginalGirlGamer]

We are worried about his speech, and so it the doctor. We have a follow up appointment on Wednesday.

We have told him no biting mommy or daddy, for the most part he doesn't listen. Guess he gets that from me. If DH tells him no biting, he starts shrieking and crying. DH has a deep,barrel-chested voice.lol

I was thinking that it was because he was frustrated, but I can never catch what set him off, it seems to come out of nowhere. He does get upset if he's pointing to the cabinet and we don't know what he wants out of it. Then we have to go one by one to things he might want, and if we don't guess quickly enough, hello meltdown. He used to bang his head into the floor, or the wall, but someone told us not to react to it and it would stop. What ended up happening was him throwing his head into the corner of my desk before i could
stop him and he got a nice bruise on his forehead. He hasn't banged his head since.

Well, if its just his terrible two's and nothing I should be worried about, that makes me feel a bit better. I'll bring it up to his doctor when we go in just in case though.

 

[Tonia80]

I would not worry too much about speech. My bosy alwasy have been slow to start speaking. My two oldest only had a few words at age 2 and didnt start really trying to communicate verbally till about age 3 1/2. My eldest is 5 now and hsi vocabulary is ridiculous, he speaks like a adult. And my 3 1/2 year old is suddenly spurting out full sentences this past two months. My 15 month old only says da da, ma ma and ta ta (for breastmilk)
That being said, I have had to deal with alot of anger and fruasturation due to thier lack of communication skills.I can so relate to what you are dealing with! Have you tried teaching him some signs to help him tell you what he is feeling? Also, when he gets really upset like that try talking softly to him and putting his feelings into words for him, pick him up or come down to his level. Acknowledge his feelings and let him hear you use words to describe it so he can learn to also.
And it is hard to be two! That line is so fine between needing mama for everything and wanting to be independent. Learning so many new skills, making new discoveries, etc... It can be very overwhelming. Make sure he naps, eats regularly and gets plently of downtime with books or quiet toys. Lots of TLC too.

 

[Proudly AP]

good for you for looking into his speech. he could well be frustrated. have you tried some simple sign language for words/ideas that HE would want to express (drink, eat, play, bath... ... i.e. NOT please, more, sorry etc). the more functional the vocabulary you use, the more useful it can be for your kiddo. yes, many children do 'come out of' apparent language and/or speech delays, but early intervention is crucial. see a speech-language pathologist.

it is great that your doctor is actually clued in, so many say, 'oh, let's wait until he's {insert age here}'

your little guy is lucky that you are following your instincts-way to go, mama!

i hope all turns out well. i know this can be very stressful.

 

[Marsupialmom]

My child that did this the worse had hearing issues. So a good hearing test, in a booth, by a pedatric audiologist (one that works with a pedatric ENT) wouldn't hurt your child. This will be a start for the speach issue. The ENT will look at many factors.

If there is a delay in one of these areas frustration and anger is worse. Your child could be completely normal but the test the ENT is going to do is easy. Just make sure you go to a pedatric ENT, that can make a world of difference.

 

[Proudly AP]

yes, MM is right on. hearing is a crucial first step, and will be very helpful to have done before or during the course of the speech and language eval.

good luck, mama!