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My DS is 20. He has battled depression since he was a toddler. He has been on and off meds his entire life, and always states that he doesn't notice a difference when he's been on the meds the doctors prescribe and therefore he stops taking them.
The last medication the doctor put him on gave him visual and audio hallucinations and we stopped the drug. Those went away quite quickly and he was doing ok, after a month of being off the drug, the doctor put him back on it. He said he needs to be on something and it's the only drug he can afford, he works part time in a sandwich shop and lives on his own. Please keep in mind that he lives 1500 miles away from me. He doesn't like to talk to people or seek help for anything. I've tried to get him on food stamps and completed the application for him and set him up for an appt. for heating assistance, which is scheduled for 12/9. He needs his birth certificate for both and can't find it and won't spend the time to search for it, although he knows he has it someplace in his apartment.
He had a roommate when he moved in back in February, the roommate moved out and then my son's female friend moved in in October, that lasted all of 2 weeks and she moved out.. it saved everyone's sanity since he loved her and she didn't have feelings for him and well it was a bad scenario when she consistently brought home different guys.
So, I'm at a point where he's said over the past 2 months that he thinks he should move back to FL to live with me and find a job here and go to school. A little background- he moved from FL back to where we were from last year because he hated it here and didn't want to be here, and spent a year living in his room- literally never leaving it except to use the bathroom and get food to eat.
I talked to him today after trying to get him on the phone since last week, he doesn't want to live there, he doesn't want to live here, he doesn't want to live so he doesn't know what he wants to say. If he is to move here I have one week to notify my apartment complex so that I can be moved into a 2 bedroom instead of the 1 bedroom I'm currently in.
I don't know how to help him anymore, I told him I thought he belonged in the hospital and doesn't want to go because then he knows he will be out of work and can't pay the bills. He can't get in to see the doctor until the 17th of December because of his work schedule and the doctor's days off. This is his family doctor. He WILL NOT see a therapist or a psychiatrist. He has not and will not ever talk to a counselor. I feel like he's at the end of his rope and don't know how to help him anymore. As horrible as it sounds, I don't want him to move here for many reasons, most of them having to do with his depression issues and his desire to do nothing about it and fear that his moving here-where he HATED it isn't going to help the situation. He doesn't need to become dependent on me again like he was until he moved away last year, and I don't know that I could handle it. It is not an option for me to move back there.
I'd really like some suggestions and support if you guys can offer any.
I wanted to add that he has only one friend left there and doesn't see or talk hardly ever because this friend made a pass at the girl that my son loved that he lived with for the short time in October. There is no support system for him there although my daughter lives there, they are not on speaking terms. I know he must feel that he's totally alone and that's added to his not wanting to be there anymore although it was where he really wanted to be all the time he had been here when I moved to FL from there 2 years ago.
The last medication the doctor put him on gave him visual and audio hallucinations and we stopped the drug. Those went away quite quickly and he was doing ok, after a month of being off the drug, the doctor put him back on it. He said he needs to be on something and it's the only drug he can afford, he works part time in a sandwich shop and lives on his own. Please keep in mind that he lives 1500 miles away from me. He doesn't like to talk to people or seek help for anything. I've tried to get him on food stamps and completed the application for him and set him up for an appt. for heating assistance, which is scheduled for 12/9. He needs his birth certificate for both and can't find it and won't spend the time to search for it, although he knows he has it someplace in his apartment.
He had a roommate when he moved in back in February, the roommate moved out and then my son's female friend moved in in October, that lasted all of 2 weeks and she moved out.. it saved everyone's sanity since he loved her and she didn't have feelings for him and well it was a bad scenario when she consistently brought home different guys.
So, I'm at a point where he's said over the past 2 months that he thinks he should move back to FL to live with me and find a job here and go to school. A little background- he moved from FL back to where we were from last year because he hated it here and didn't want to be here, and spent a year living in his room- literally never leaving it except to use the bathroom and get food to eat.
I talked to him today after trying to get him on the phone since last week, he doesn't want to live there, he doesn't want to live here, he doesn't want to live so he doesn't know what he wants to say. If he is to move here I have one week to notify my apartment complex so that I can be moved into a 2 bedroom instead of the 1 bedroom I'm currently in.
I don't know how to help him anymore, I told him I thought he belonged in the hospital and doesn't want to go because then he knows he will be out of work and can't pay the bills. He can't get in to see the doctor until the 17th of December because of his work schedule and the doctor's days off. This is his family doctor. He WILL NOT see a therapist or a psychiatrist. He has not and will not ever talk to a counselor. I feel like he's at the end of his rope and don't know how to help him anymore. As horrible as it sounds, I don't want him to move here for many reasons, most of them having to do with his depression issues and his desire to do nothing about it and fear that his moving here-where he HATED it isn't going to help the situation. He doesn't need to become dependent on me again like he was until he moved away last year, and I don't know that I could handle it. It is not an option for me to move back there.
I'd really like some suggestions and support if you guys can offer any.
I wanted to add that he has only one friend left there and doesn't see or talk hardly ever because this friend made a pass at the girl that my son loved that he lived with for the short time in October. There is no support system for him there although my daughter lives there, they are not on speaking terms. I know he must feel that he's totally alone and that's added to his not wanting to be there anymore although it was where he really wanted to be all the time he had been here when I moved to FL from there 2 years ago.
