and I am feeling sort of guilty about grounding him . . . his dad did it . . . it seems sort of hypocritical, since df had a drug problem, no secret there. As for me, I dont see it as a HUGE deal. The kid is 15, not a pothead by any means. His dad took him to a NA meeting so he could see what abuse leads to. That seems sufficient to me. I dont know. He was caught once before, and his dad had a talk with him about making good choices and staying away from trouble. He wasn't punished at that point, but told to be responsible for staying away from it his self. Now he hasn't done that and isnt allowed to leav e the house unsupervised . . . is it me, or is that a bit excessive? He wouldn't hhave gotten in near the tropuble for drinking . . . I'm usually the strict one too. What do you all think?