[mexicomommy]

Tomorow is my due date and the day after will have been 8 weeks since our baby girl was stillborn at 32 weeks. Since Friday I have had trouble sleeping. Has anyone else experienced this? I am at a loss as for what to do. I would prefer to not take any sleeping medication but would really like to get some good rest. Any advice.
I had been doing really well till Fri. and since then have felt so emotional. I really appreciate this board and all the support you have offered. Thank you.
Charlsie

 

[MamaFern]

im so sorry for you loss...

have you tried any herbal remedies or homeopathics? ignatia is really good for heartbreak..which losing a child definitly is..its really good for depression and sadness and all of that and i really highly recomend it.. also sleeping/calming/healing remedies like chamomilla are great..hops..valarian..skullcap..lemonbalm..kava are all good sleep remedies.. but since you just gave birth id be careful of some of them..i guess just lok into them before taking anything..

i personally wouldnt take sleeping pills.. but maybe i would with a loss like yours..really you should do whatever you need to do for yourself to heal..sleep is important for your body and mind and insomnia is terrible..

again im so sorry for your loss and i hope you find healing and sleep soon..

 

[cowboysgirl]

I want to start by saying, I'm so sorry for your loss. I miscarried at 8 weeks and find it unbearable sometimes. I couldn't imagine getting so far in your pregnancy and losing your baby. I, on occasion, tell myself to be grateful that I lost the baby before I got any more attached than I did. Then other times, I wish I had gotten a little more time with my baby. I had my m/c 2 weeks ago now, and still have trouble sleeping. Try Benadryl. My dr advised 3-4 25 mg tablets about 30 minutes before bed. I laid down and couldn't HELP but fall asleep. And Benadryl is one of the safest medications available. It is also non-habitforming which is also a plus! He also told me to start taking melatonin before bed. Just one of the 3 mg pills. (However, I wouldn't advise taking it when you are ready to ttc. It hasn't been proved harmful, but hasn't been proved safe either.) Between the 2, I fall asleep every time.I wish you luck. I know that my due date will also be one of the hardest times to get through. I am just glad that I have plenty of time to prepare for it. My prayers are with you.

 

[tatgurl]

Although I'm not having the insomnia problem, I can totally relate to the due date issue. I also lost my child at 32wks, and my due date was on the 1st. I was doing okay up untill aug. rolled around and now I'm not doing too well. I just sucks knowing that we should have a baby in our arms and instead they are empty...

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[dziejen]

Our daughter was stillborn at 33 weeks -- I am so sorry that you are going through this sadness and heartbreak. It will be 10 months for me on Sunday but I can still remember how I felt at 8 weeks. I can tell you that I feel better and more alive now but I still miss our baby so much. Are you able to rest at all during the daytime? For me I stayed up late and was unable to sleep because the pain and memories and everything came flooding back in the darkness but if I was able to rest or nap during the day I felt better. After awhile, I started exercising again and that helped me get more tired which led to better rest. Not only that, kickboxing was a good stress reliever -- lots of kicking and hitting. Another thing I did to help my mind rest before I went to sleep was write in a journal -- I got out everything racing through my mind and then I was able to lay down and relax more.

I am so sorry for the loss of your baby girl. I hope you are able to find some peace.