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<p>Ugh, I've always thought that little girls with their ears pierced look adorable! But ever since DD was born, I've been struggling with the idea of actually getting hers pierced. Add to that the fact that my MIL bought her a pair of studs for whenever (if ever) we <em>do</em> get them pierced, and the decision is even harder. My hang-up is this: how can I truly justify forcing DD to do something that is obviously going to hurt (even if only for a minute)?? What if she doesn't end up <em>wanting</em> pierced ears in the future? My DH (and others) keep saying "she won't remember it anyway, and it only hurts for a second," and I know that for a fact because I had my ears pierced when I was young (but not THAT young... I was 5 I think). I don't know, what do you think? All opinions are welcome. :)</p>
 

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<p>I would want to wait until A) she asked for the piercing and B) she could take care of them with little assistance (twisting them daily, maybe applying the solution that you've put on a cotton ball, etc).</p>
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<p>It is important to me that kids get to consent to that kind of stuff.</p>
 
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<p>I don't do ear-piercing on little ones just for the fact of cleaning if I can't get her to hold her head still to wipe her face, how would she doe for cleaning her piercings?), plus I know DD would play with them (she plays with her ears all the time) so they would end up coming out and getting lost</p>
 

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<p>I say definitely wait until she is a bit older and asks for it herself.  Cleaning them isn't a big deal (to me), since it's just swabbing them a couple times a day - certainly less complicated than tooth brushing - but I think it's important for children to actually ask for and know what piercing entails before going through with it. </p>
 

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<p>We don't do any permanent (and I consider ear piercing permanent even if the holes CAN close up) body modification on our children without their fully informed consent.</p>
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<p>With ear piercing, when I still had holes, I remember how my hair would wrap around and hurt sometimes, I also couldn't sleep with even studs in because it would press on me and hurt.  I'd be concerned about the same thing happening to a small child - sleep discomfort or interfering hair when it is long enough (my 20 month old's hair would definitely be a mess on ear piercings.)</p>
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<p>When I'm not sure, I always default to the person who would be affected the most.  in your case, your kiddo might want her ears pierced when she is 3 or 4 and also be able to understand the consequences of a piercing and being able to handle them (pain, taking care of the piercing, etc)</p>
 

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<p>My thought is that I'd wait until she is old enough to communicate if there is pain.</p>
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<p>I didn't have a problem with my ears, but my stepmom had major issues when she had her ears pierced. She said they hurt but they didn't look infected and she just kept cleaning them, until they looked infected and had to go to the doctor to have them removed.  She never tried again, but that makes me not want to try it on a child who might not be able to communicate pain.</p>
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<p>My stepmom was actually very hesitant to have me even try after that...</p>
 

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<p>I would never ever pierce a baby's ears.  Or a toddler, or a bigger small child.  I wait until my daughters are old enough to ask, and understand what caring for pierced ears entails.  I was in 4th grade when I got mine pierced and really think that is a good age for most girls.  I do, however, distinctly remember it hurting like heck for way more than a couple of minutes.  Mine stung very badly for at least 30 minutes.  Really, you cannot predict your child's tolerance for pain.</p>
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<p>My oldest dd's bio mom pierced dd's ears when she was in 1st grade.  Way too young, not to mention said dd has Aspergers and is more immature anyway.  They of course got infected, in part because bio mom decided to change her earrings way too soon, but also because dd just wasn't mature enough to care for them properly.  I let her get them pierced again when she was about 4th grade age and had no problems.</p>
 

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<p>We're waiting until DD is old enough to request having her ears pierced. Before doing something so permanent, we'd rather it be her decision.</p>
 

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<p>I realize I'm hardcore on this one, but I wouldn't pierce anything, or allow my child to pierce anything, until they didn't need parental consent. </p>
 

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<p>well, my parents wouldn't let me get my ears pierced (or get contacts, or go get my hair done, or a lot of other "beauty"stuff) until I was 16 and didn't need consent. I thought they were ridiculous then and I still think it now.</p>
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<p>Dd's ears are pierced. We got them done when she was 2 months old and we would have had them done sooner if it was allowed. Her dad didn't really want it done at the time but he went along with it because I wanted to, and now of course he thinks she looks adorable with them. I really don't think ear piercing is the big deal people make it out to be. My ears are prone to closing up so I have had to repierce them myself, at home, plenty of times. I also pierced them for the first time myself, at home, when I was 12ish. I never had any problems with them. much to my father's dismay I now have two holes in each ear and wear huge hoop earrings any time i'm not sleeping. Dd has tiny hoops that match mine. lol.</p>
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<p>When she got her ears pierced she cried for just a second, after the first one, and barely cried at all for the second one. By the time the lady had put the cleaning solution & receipt in the bag,  dd was smiling again. It really was not traumatic at all. And she pulls on her ears and hair and whatnot all the time and has never pulled any of her earrings out.</p>
 

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<p>I got mine done when I was 10.  I had begged and begged.  Within in a year, I was constantly fighting infections.  Not long after the 1 year mark I chose to let them close.  I really hate that I can still feel the scar tissue in my earlobes (I had used them to self sooth more when I was younger).  They also still look pierced, which is probably why I often still get earrings from people as gifts- ugg.  </p>
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<p>I let my girls get theirs done after they had asked and I felt they could understand why I regretted my decision.  They were 7 and 10.  Its been about a year and so far so good.</p>
 

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<p>My dd was 7 when she asked if she could.  I told her what was involved, how to clean them, and how important it was to keep them cleaned because of the potential for infection.  She said she could handle it, so we did it, and she has taken really good care of them for the past year or year and a half or so since we did it, and it's been fine.  I wouldn't do it to a child who couldn't understand all that.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>liberal_chick</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281600/ear-piercing#post_16071293"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I would want to wait until A) she asked for the piercing and B) she could take care of them with little assistance (twisting them daily, maybe applying the solution that you've put on a cotton ball, etc).</p>
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<p>It is important to me that kids get to consent to that kind of stuff.</p>
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That's us too.  If my daughter decides to have her ears pierced I plan to make a day of it and celebrate it as a right of passage.  </p>
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<p>1.  Early exposure to metals in earrings can cause lifelong reactions to said metal.</p>
<p>2.  Ears can and do change size as children grow so what looks even now can become crooked later on.</p>
<p>3.  To do a piercing correctly you should go to a trained professional body piercer.  A professional body piercer will not do a piercing on a child that young.  Your only option in an ill-trained retail worker using not as sterile facilities at the mall.</p>
 
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<p>In our house, you can get your ears pierced when you turn 12.  I consider it a rite of passage as well.  IMO makeup, heels, pierced ears are all things that signify getting older, growing up.  My dd1 was the LAST girl in her class to get her ears pierced.  She is a very responsible girl; we kept them in the allotted time - and still she had problems with them.  Many tears were shed when she couldn't get an earring in and the bus was coming.  One grew over and had to be repierced at the pediatrician's office.  She once told her younger sister "be glad Mom won't let you get your ears pierced yet!  It is a lot of work!"<br><br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Lucy Alden</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281600/ear-piercing#post_16071615"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>liberal_chick</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281600/ear-piercing#post_16071293"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I would want to wait until A) she asked for the piercing and B) she could take care of them </p>
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That's us too.  If my daughter decides to have her ears pierced I plan to make a day of it and celebrate it as a right of passage.  </p>
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<p>I use to be very against ear piercing for young kids/babies. I still don't think I personally could deal with a baby getting hteir ears pierced, but I don't judge other parents. My daughter wanted earrings at 3. I said yes, but I explained that it would hurt, kind of like when she got her shots. She changed her mind. I told her that was fine, and to let me know when she was ready. A few days before her 5th birthday, she said she was ready. So, we got 'er done. She did cry, but not for long. Altho she didn't do the cleaning herself, she would ask me to do it, every day. So I didn't have to worry about it at all. She has had no problems.</p>
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<p>If you aren't sure, and are ok with waiting til she wants to get it done, then wait. If you really want her to have pierced ears as a toddler, I'd say do it soon. I would have liked my daughter to have earrings at 3. i think it's cute. but, I respected that she said no, because it would hurt. I was quite happy she was ready at 5. i didn't push her though. I think it needs to either be done by about 2 to 2-1/2, or wait til they are ready, which could be awhile.</p>
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<p>And, no matter what you do, someone will disagree or judge. My niece is 13, and really wants pierced ears. My s-i-l won't let her. I think she should be allowed. Now, I don't tell them how I feel., or think my s-il is a bad mom or anything. OTOH, my aunt thinks ear piercing is barbaric and is horrified I "did that" to my kid.</p>
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<p>I had both of my daughters ears pierced. One was 3 and the other 8mo. My 3yo winced while her baby sister cried for a few seconds. She cries more when being laid down at the doctors office to be measured or any number of things. I've never thought it was a huge bother to clean their ear lobes or any other part of their bodies.</p>
 

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<p>Well it's not for me (or DD, for now!) but I don't think its that big of a deal either way.  I think for some, it's a cultural thing. Mine were done when I was 7 (1989), as a present, at my request, and I like that.  I suspect DD will be the same way.</p>
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<p><strong>PSA:</strong> I think it is important to remember that metals (especially cheap ones, like i wore as a teenager) can stain the body (just like tattooing) so be mindful of this and use high-quality metals.  I'm putting a photo of my earing-stained (aka tattooed) ear here (if i can figure out how), so that everyone knows how real this is.  I've had this discoloration for 14 years, and the only way to remove it would be with a laser tattoo removal. I wear earings there to cover the stains, but... </p>
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<p>I don't believe in ear piercing for babies. I can't stop other people from doing it, but I don't agree with it. I also think it looks ridiculous. I'm not really crazy about jewelry on babies at all.</p>
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<p>I'm sure it's not a big deal to some (maybe most) babies, but there's no way to know if my baby will be the one who has a rough time with it, and I just don't see the point in potentially putting them through a lot of grief for someting that's purely cosmetic (and they may not even want when they're older).</p>
 

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Personally, I am not a fan of piercing babies ears, I won't do it to mine. My husband feels the same way. I was talked into having my ears pierced at a young age by my mother, and wore earrings on and off through my teen years. But now I never wear them, and I too receive them as presents, which annoys me to no end. If DD wants to have her ears pierced when she gets older, fine, but I am not going to do it without her consent or desire.
 

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<p>I will allow my daughter to get her ears pierced when she is old enough to ask.  I am more than willing, however, to take the responsibility for keeping them cleaned and cared for.  But I am not comfortable with getting them pierced until I know it is something she wants and she understands it will hurt (if only a little and for a short period of time).</p>
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<p>FWIW, I have 3 holes in each ear, but have only worn earrings in the first hole for the last 6-7 years or so.  The last two holes were done when I was 13-ish at a mall without my parent's consent (obviously not legal), and the other was done when I was 16 or 17 and my mother was with me, but I paid.</p>
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<p>The first holes were done when I was 5.  A few weeks after I had had eardrum reconstruction surgery.  My ENT had promised me he would do it as a reward for "being brave".  He pierced both of my ears in his office with a sterilized straight pin and they put in earrings my mother had purchased that had been sterilized.  Those are the holes I still wear earrings in.</p>
 
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