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I posted in the partners forum 2 weeks ago, I was freaking out about my husband being asked when he could attend some kind of retreat for work. I hate being apart from him (and he does me, to be fair) and I get these crazy jealous thoughts just at the idea of him being away overnight. I was in a rotten place mentally and felt sooooo emotional about it all so much worse than I might usually. I got good advice about seeing a therapist but it made me think: "what is UP with me today?"<br><br>
As it turns out, I was pregnant. Not anymore. I miscarried, really early to be sure, I was likely about 3 weeks along. My 40th birthday is next month and I had not planned on having more kids... but I have been feeling depressed about this. I only had a few days to get used to the idea of a new baby and then it was gone. I am glad my psycho mood has been explained, but I am stunned at how sad I can be over losing a baby I wasn't planning on, cannot afford, at my age etc etc... So many reasons not to have a baby and here I am feeling wrung out and depressed over NOT having one. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I feel so sad that I won't get to meet that little someone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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I'm sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
My moods are always wacky with hormones- especially when pregnant- but even when not. There have been times when I thought I was surely pregnant because of this but turned out not to be. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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Hugs sweetie....it's so hard, even if you weren't planning on the baby and the thought of having another baby was shocking to you when you found out. I just had an early loss and knew about a week that I was pregnant. I was scared about being pregnant ( had a late loss in Feb) and wasn't even used to the idea and boom! it was gone. I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster of emotions, and frankly....I want to get off!!!<br><br>
Please be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to grieve the loss of this baby. You lost a child, and that is significant. You can't expect to bounce back right away just because the baby wasn't planned.<br><br>
HUGS sweetie!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Thanks to both of you for the kindness and support. I am really doing ok, considering. I have my 3 boys to keep me busy and if that wasn't enough, I just found out we're moving, hopefully in about 2 months! I have plenty to occupy me for a while and it definately helps to keep busy.<br><br>
I am still sad about the baby, but that is to be expected.<br><br>
Thanks so much.
 

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I am so sorry . <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
My pregnancy wasn't planned, either, but we sure were excited about having a new little person in the family. Planned or not planned, early or late loss, it all hurts. You have every right to mourn, and I hope you are getting lots of support at home.
 
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