My circ was botched and I hated it for years but, amazingly enough, I STILL accepted it as the way things had to be. The amount of cultural brainwashing and pressure to keep your mouth shut is incredible. I think it's much easier for men who's circ's go "right" to keep promoting it, but they don't really know any different. Even when they have sons who get botched circ's, it's astounding how many parents still continue to do it to future sons and downplay the damages. I guess it's easier than admitting they did something wrong.