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I was talking to a co-worker tonight who told me a story that she heard from her friend. She'd gone to a party and there was a couple there with their EC'd baby. Apparently the couple would whip out the tupperware in the middle of the party, on the counter, and pee/poop their baby. So turns out that they forgot their container of pee and left it behind. The folks who threw the party found it in the fridge and couldn't figure out what it was (is that a drink? etc). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
This story cracked me up, especially b/c my co-worker was nervous that it would offend me. I don't pee/poop my baby on the kitchen counter at parties but thought it was great that the parents were so out there with EC.<br><br>
Have any stories to relate?
 

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We were at a relatives cottage and in our room was a garbage container which was actually a large plastic ice cream container with fabric glued to the outside. In the early morning hours, my ds woke to pee and there was already someone in the bathroom so I peed him in there. Later that morning my aunt came in to get something, I remembered the pee and worried she would inadvertently spill it I dashed in to take it to the bathroom. She was totally offended and grossed out (this coming from someone who says "you don't use <i>any</i> diapers!?" because she doesn't consider cloth to be a diaper) but I felt a little bad- but that garbage had probably never seen a hand wash in its life and was left cleaner than when I came.
 

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My DH and I used to potty DD like this, in a tupperware at others' houses. MOst people are totally interested where we live. A lot of people here don't even have indoor bathrooms, so bodily functions aren't as taboo here as in other places.<br><br>
Last Christmas, however, we left our potty accidentally at a party, and it got cleaned up with all the dirty dishes. The hosts wondered what exactly was that ammonia smelling stuff in this odd tupperware? FOrtunately, they were good sports about it, and wanted to know more about what we were doing with DD. This event did cause us to LABEL the potty on the lid "Ella's Potty" so that people would know what it was incase we forgot it elsewhere!
 

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LOL. Nothing like that has happened to us. Althgouh when we go to public restrooms I get weird looks for pottying DS in the sink.
 

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Great thread! I'm still trying to transition to EC'ing outside the house and was wondering how I should do it.<br><br>
We'll be at relative's this weekend and they all know that I EC. My babe gets distracted easily, so I'm thinking I'll probably take him in a different room to potty him with his babywunder potty.<br><br>
I'm still not sure how to handle the public restrooms. I know that some people would be freaked out to see us use the sink. It's a pita to try to aim him in a toilet, though. I'm still working on how to deal with that kind of situation in general.
 

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Maybe other people don't want to wash their hands in a sink where your baby has been going to the bathroom. It's not a question of being freaked out, it's basic hygiene.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Maybe other people don't want to wash their hands in a sink where your baby has been going to the bathroom. It's not a question of being freaked out, it's basic hygiene.</div>
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This. Totally.<br><br>
I don't care if it's sterile. Also, it's rather rude, IMO. I don't want to pick up my toddler and lean her against the sink (I'm not tall enough nor strong enough to avoid that) and have her clothes or arms or anything touch the sink after it is used as a toilet.<br><br>
Good for you for being able to EC, but please, but polite about it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I ALWaYS make sure to clean the sink.</div>
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How?
 

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With water and antibacteria soap and a paper towel. Never had to take him to the restroom when he had to poop. But for now on I'll start taking him to the toilet for both. It never occurred to me that people would consider it rude. Many of my EC friends do it as well so the thought didn't cross my mind. Thanks for enlightening it and please no more on the subject. I heard it the first time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Maybe other people don't want to wash their hands in a sink where your baby has been going to the bathroom. It's not a question of being freaked out, it's basic hygiene.</div>
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I don't potty my baby at the sink, but I do wash my hands there after changing poopy diapers (haven't caught a poop away from home yet), so the bits of poop are washed into the sink. That's what a sink is for. Do people rub their hands on the inside of the sink while washing? Seems like a bit of pee would be the same.
 

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Peeing in the sink is one thing. I agree, anyway, little bits of bacteria from your hands are getting in there. Plus, I hate to break it to you all, but the splash from the toilet has a radius of 15 feet or something, so unless all the guests are closing the lid before flushing, the whole bathroom is basically going to be contaminated.<br><br>
But leaving dirty tupperware in the dining room on the table is, for me, revolting. If you have a washing machine, that's great, the water will be hot enough to sterilize the dishes. But if you wash them by hand, then it will not be (they need to be in almost boiling water for five to ten minutes). Baby pee is pretty clean, but with girls, the pee does kind of trickle over the anus sometimes. So absolutely not, I would be really put out if someone did that.<br><br>
I think the only polite thing to do is to bring the baby to another room, preferably the bathroom, and let him or her do the business there, either in a special pot that you yourself will wash out (ideally in the bathroom sink), or over the toilet.<br><br>
Where I live EC is the norm and people usually take the baby over the toilet. It is unheard of to potty a baby in someone's living room, though accidents are not uncommon. Still, the idea is, if you know the kid is going to do it, then you should take them to the toilet. If the child is frightened by the toilet, they will take them in the little trash can that is beside the toilet.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't potty my baby at the sink, but I do wash my hands there after changing poopy diapers (haven't caught a poop away from home yet), so the bits of poop are washed into the sink. That's what a sink is for. Do people rub their hands on the inside of the sink while washing? Seems like a bit of pee would be the same.</div>
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I have never been into the peeing the baby in the sink position. We started when she was able to sit up a little bit better and we automatically started her on the bblp or on the toilet from the get go. In my thinking, I should teach her where the pee/poo goes from the very beginning rather than do the sink, tub, tubaware, ect. I'm fine if that's what others want to do, it just wasn't something I wanted to do.<br><br>
However, my dd does tend to splash and try to touch the inside of the sink when I take her to wash her hands after going to the bathroom. It's disgusting either way, but I would hate to think that it was used as a toilet shortly before my dc put her hands in the sink.<br><br>
I agree with the pp on excersizing some etiquette when ecing. I do potty her in people's living rooms/dining rooms with her bblp, but only where we know the people well enough to do so. Otherwise I take her to the bathroom and put her on the toilet.
 

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I still have my 7 mo/ old DS stay in CDs. When out & about, I take him to pee in the bathroom and if it is not available, I give him an opportunity to pee over his diaper, usually in a room away from other guests. If it is nice out, I'll take DS outside to pee on the ground, or in the bucket I bring in the car.<br><br>
When I use the toilet I wipe down the seat and any surfaces he may touch with a wipe - that's my main use for wipes - I use TP on DS' bum.<br><br>
It seems to me it would appear pretty rude to others to just whip out the tupperware and pee him in front of everyone. And I don't think it respects DS' privacy either (whether or not he cares). A short time ago I didn't know a thing about EC and I think I would have found it kind of weird to see a tupperware bowl with a baby held over it on the coffee table. I've brought the potty into a friend's cottage where we were staying before and he was cool with the baby peeing in the potty, in the livingroom - but I asked him first. (And then there's the situation of toddlers in the house: do you want another guest's toddler to find that bowl of pee on the coffee table? )<br><br>
In our livingroom: the BBLP is in full view and yep, I do pee him there when he has to go - but we don't generally have guests over that don't know about the potty thing now. And we always put it out of reach when children come over.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Maybe other people don't want to wash their hands in a sink where your baby has been going to the bathroom. It's not a question of being freaked out, it's basic hygiene.</div>
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I wouldn't want anyone changing their baby on my counter or kitchen or dining room table, so I wouldn't want them to sit their potty there either.<br><br>
And I'm another one who's toddler touches the sink. I know it's not always clean, but that is NO excuse for knowingly adding to it.
 

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i feel bad enough when dd sprays pee all over relatives bathrooms <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
i can't imagine whippin out the pee container during a party, but it wouldn't offend me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I think this is an important issue because in one of the recent articles online about ec, the person interviewed mentioned peeing the baby in the sink in a public restroom. There were over 30 comments about this article and a great many people only focused on THIS issue. They were very turned off to ec and those ec'ing because they thought we were unhygenic, rude, unsanitary, etc. It was sad to get some coverage and then have THIS be the focus...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think this is an important issue because in one of the recent articles online about ec, the person interviewed mentioned peeing the baby in the sink in a public restroom. There were over 30 comments about this article and a great many people only focused on THIS issue. They were very turned off to ec and those ec'ing because they thought we were unhygenic, rude, unsanitary, etc. It was sad to get some coverage and then have THIS be the focus...</div>
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Yes, yes, yes. If this is going to be a viable choice for mainstream parents, it has got to be perceived as sanitary, nevermind the toilet flush spray.
 

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I think that pee and poop are not yucky by themselves at all, but I would never help my baby pee or poop in front of anyone. That is just so private.<br><br>
We have two children, and my first practiced EC exclusively (really no diapers at all). I took him to the bathroom, just as I would an older child, and we just never discussed it with people, and I cannot fathom doing it at a party in front of people.<br><br>
If there's no toilet available, we normally just go outside, which is actually most of the time. I don't know whether that is just as easy for girls (I have two boys).<br><br>
I agree completely that mainstream people will just be turned off by public displays.
 

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I have used public sinks, though I usually use toilets in public, but maybe I will stop for the sake of not giving EC a bad name. I used my sisters sink while visiting her but we cleaned it out and she even peed DS for me. We are transitioning to the BBLP(DS has been giving me a hard time about it) so we use that at our friends house in front of them. I dont think I have asked if it offends them but I dont think it does. They change very smelly poopy diapers in front of us and we really dont mind. I do need to be more careful about keeping the potty away from their toddler, but I thought it better to just keep telling her not to play with it and explaining what it is for because they are working on gradually potty training her. I think I will ask what they prefer. This is a good thread. I tthink some of us are trying so hard not to let others opinions and conventions get in the way of doing what we think is right for our babies that we forget to consider that we affect the publics view and acceptance of EC sometimes negatively. I suppose we do need to consider etiquette.
 
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