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I'm sure there's been a thread on this before but I'm not willing to dig too deeply this morning.<br><br>
Anyway, do ya'll plug EC to your pregnant friends? I have a high school friend who is pregnant with her second. She lives far away and I haven't even seen her since I had my munchkin, so she has no idea about my parenting style. I made her a sling and sent along a letter mentioning that we do EC, gave her a couple websites to look at, and offered to answer any questions she had.<br><br>
Do you think this is proper, or does it fall under the dreaded category of unsolicited parenting advice?<br><br>
One reason I mentioned it is because she had been telling me on the phone about her older kid (2.5 now I think?) who makes poo messes everywhere and pees every time his diaper is off. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
What do you guys think? Do you have any EC evangelism success stories? Or horror stories? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> (The letter is already sent so I guess I just kind of intend this to be a general discussion.)
 

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Well, my friends mostly know what we do. However, I have mentioned it to my cousin since she got pregnant, but I can tell she's not interested. Not that that's stopped me from suggesting that maybe she could get the nekkie blankie for leaky diapers and, you know, if she wanted to give the baby some naked time. I figure any little bit could go a long way. And I've talked it up to my sister (who is trying to get pregnant), but I get the idea that she thinks that it's too much work when she sees me do it, and I know her mother in law (who is very involved in their lives) thinks its hooey...so I don't expect much there.<br><br>
I don't think sending a letter and mentioning it is a problem, I wouldn't have known about a lot of the things I do with DS without the internet, and I wish someone had talked to me about non-mainstream parenting before DS was born! This way if she's interested, then she'll talk to you, and if not she'll just brush it off. No harm done. I think it's good to let people know all the options that are out there, irregardless of what they decide to do.<br><br>
I have friends who have told me that when they have babies they want to potty them, so that's something. Whether they will or not, well that's a different story, but at least they're interested and they know about it.<br><br>
My biggest EC convert? My mother. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> A lot of good that's doing for future babies. <i>She's</i> an EC evangelist though, she brings it up to everyone all the time. Which kind of irks me, but that's a topic for a different thread!
 

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I try not to give any parenting advice beyond answers to specific questions or suggesting books. I would also be afraid of being seen as snotty or an evangelist.
 

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i tell anyone who is willing to listen!! tho my friends think i'm nuts even when they can clearly see that its working<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">: my niece is 18 and pregnant, she wants to try EC tho i think at that age she'll become overwhelmed too quicly to keep it up, but who knows she just might.<br>
when i was still working nights when pregnant with Eva i would tell every customer who was pregnant or who was pregnant.
 

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I'd preface such letters with "Have you heard about EC? I don't want to seem like I'm giving unsolicited advice or anything, but I've heard too many mums say they wished they'd heard about these things sooner. So I thought I'd pass on some information about what has worked for us and you can do what you want with it!"<br><br>
Then include lots of websites and a brief description about how great it has worked for you.<br><br>
Alternatively, you could just say "Have you heard about EC? It's been amazing for us, and so many people haven't heard about it or have only heard the myths... if you're at all interested, let me know and I'd be glad to pass you some links!"<br><br>
I evangelize all the time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Just yesterday at DS's gymnastics, there were a few other mums with little ones watching their older kids... DD walks up to them and lifts her skirt, 'flashing' them lol... they said "oh, what cute little leggings!" (babylegs) then "oh... underwear! Wow, is she... she isn't potty-trained, is she??"<br><br>
I said we did EC, and one of the mums even said she'd heard about it before. They were very interested, not necessarily about to try it themselves but they found it fascinating. They asked questions like, do I put her in a diaper at night, etc. It was a great conversation!<br><br>
The worst I've ever encountered is broad skepticism, which I totally understand because I used to think it was hooey too. So I usually use that -- "I first heard about it a few years ago, and thought it was just ridiculous! When my daughter was born, I started thinking about it again, and read some things that made a lot of sense. I figured it wouldn't hurt anything to TRY it, and once we did, we were convinced!"<br><br>
I even carry a bag from the EC store that says "I (heart) EC", and have a "Born Potty-Trained" bumper sticker! I've only ever had one person ask me about the bag, but I've had a couple acquaintances ask about the bumper sticker, including a neighbour who'd been thinking about trying it herself and thought she could ask me about it!<br><br>
You never know, folks might be interested but if they don't know you do it, they'll never be able to get your help!
 

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I totally agree with this. It's low key, and especially in places like the US where people really HAVEN'T heard about the fact that this is possible in a world of carpets, I like to spread the word that it IS possible. I don't push, I just offer information and let them ask me more questions or let it go. My pregnant sister in law is interested (and is borrowing one of my books now), one of my friends started with her newborn 7 months ago and has had great success (she's totally excited 'cause her 5 year old ds is still peeing the bed and she feels bad for him), and another friend of mine is trying it with her newborn now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> It's pretty cool how excited my friends have been to know about this (and now I know some people in real life that I can talk with about it too!)
 

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same here!<br><br>
I don't like to give unsolicited advice either, but I also wish I had heard about EC sooner. Like 8 years ago! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> I'm doing EC with my third baby after using diapers with my first two. However, I try to be open minded and if I think there is a better way to do things, I'm willing to try. I wish more moms were like that. I think as long as you are just giving information and not criticizing it is ok. I also tell people that this is what works for us and that every family/baby is different. I agree with pp that wishes she had more info about alternative parenting when she was pg.
 

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I'm a convert! I went from very part time ECing to full time from an EC evangelist. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> She even posts here now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ANyways, I try not to evangelise too much lol. BUt I can't help it. It makes life SO much easier!
 

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Anyway, do ya'll plug EC to your pregnant friends?<br><br><br>
ABSOLUTLEY! If someone didn't tell me about EC, I never would have known about it!! You've gotta get this information out there!<br><br>
Everyone I tell has never heard of it before. I usually say something to the tune of "don't know if you've heard about EC, but we do it and love it. It's not like you're demanding them to decide whether or not they are going to EC, you're just saying "hey! This is cool and it works!"
 
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