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Not sure if this has been discussed somewhere else in the forums but I thought I would ask here.<br><br>
I really want to have an eco-friendly baby shower. To me that means that all my gifts are natural, organic and/or wood AND are gently used (recycled). I work at a children's resale shop and I know how much GREAT stuff there is that you can get at resale and thrift shops. Everything one needs for a baby can be bought there (except a car seat! And making sure all items are checked for recalls).<br><br>
I just went to a baby shower and the amount of packaging that she will have to throw away from all the brand new stuff she got is SICKINING!!! Also I have been reading about all the chemicals and VOC's that 'offgases' off for years. It is in almost everything that is produced now days - from plasic toys to clothes to food containers to carpets to 99% of the stuff we own! When you buy at a resale shop the item is generally a few years old so most of the 'offgasing' of the chemicals has been done. I just read in a book from 1999 that (at that time) 75,000 chemical compounds have been created since WWII!!! And less than half have been tested for their affects on humans. UGH!!! That is what is in all the new bright colored plastic items that our little one chew on, sleep on, play on, breath in 24/7.<br><br>
So back to my original thought - I want to have my friends and family buy my baby shower gifts from resales and second hand stores but I know many of my family members will not want to do that. Do you have any suggestions of how I can convince them that this is what is best for the enviornment, our family and our baby (and will save them lots of money!) And how do I go about letting people know my wishes?<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Not sure if this has been discussed somewhere else in the forums but I thought I would ask here.<br><br>
I really want to have an eco-friendly baby shower. To me that means that all my gifts are natural, organic and/or wood AND are gently used (recycled). I work at a children's resale shop and I know how much GREAT stuff there is that you can get at resale and thrift shops. Everything one needs for a baby can be bought there (except a car seat! And making sure all items are checked for recalls).<br><br>
I just went to a baby shower and the amount of packaging that she will have to throw away from all the brand new stuff she got is SICKINING!!! Also I have been reading about all the chemicals and VOC's that 'offgases' off for years. It is in almost everything that is produced now days - from plasic toys to clothes to food containers to carpets to 99% of the stuff we own! When you buy at a resale shop the item is generally a few years old so most of the 'offgasing' of the chemicals has been done. I just read in a book from 1999 that (at that time) 75,000 chemical compounds have been created since WWII!!! And less than half have been tested for their affects on humans. UGH!!! That is what is in all the new bright colored plastic items that our little one chew on, sleep on, play on, breath in 24/7.<br><br>
So back to my original thought - I want to have my friends and family buy my baby shower gifts from resales and second hand stores but I know many of my family members will not want to do that. Do you have any suggestions of how I can convince them that this is what is best for the enviornment, our family and our baby (and will save them lots of money!) And how do I go about letting people know my wishes?<br><br>
Thanks for your help. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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I LOVE LOVE LOVE this idea. We use only organic and/or wooden toys and I always buy used clothes b/c we can't afford organic clothes and the used ones have been washed so much that the pesticides have come out quite a bit. I never thought of the idea of actually calling it an Eco-Shower and then mentioning what that means so that people don't just say "oh, she's just frugal for wanting used clothes...I'll get her the new ones" or whatever. So many people, esp family, don't understand me and the used clothes buying, but this would help explain it! I thought you DID convince just by your first paragraph. That really sums it up...couldn't you just write that? Or find an article online and take a short paragraph out and quote it in your invite?<br><br>
Great, great idea! I don't think people realize sometimes that some of us would rather not have any gifts if the other option is the chemical-filled plastic toys.<br><br>
Aside from a carseat, I also would make an exception and buy a new mattress (organic). Used mattresses have less of the off-gassing, that is very true, but they also usually have mold, especially baby mattresses (usually peed on). I think organic mattresses (new) are the best bet, and if not, I'd go for a non-organic mattress with a Babesafe mattress wrap (google it for more info).
 

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there is a lady in my knitting group that is having a used or handmade baby shower. Instead of including registry information int he shower invite, the person sending out invitations would just write 'please bring soandso a used or handmade baby gift'
 

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This is a great idea! I would make a wish list, along with resale store suggestions and suggestions on where to buy homemade, organic, and wooden toys for those who just CAN'T buy used (a wish list on etsy.com might appease those people).
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is a great idea! I would make a wish list, along with resale store suggestions and suggestions on where to buy homemade, organic, and wooden toys for those just CAN'T buy used (a wish list on etsy.com might appease those people).</div>
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That's a great idea, too. Etsy is so great! Also, if you are open to natural toys that are new and shipped you could put some pretty great stores on the invites like <a href="http://www.jilliansdrawers.com" target="_blank">Jillian's Drawers</a>, <a href="http://www.oompa.com" target="_blank">Oompa Toys</a>, etc.
 

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I am trying so hard to get people to understand my desire to have more ecofriendly baby and all that goes with that. I am really encouraging people towards organics (too bad so much available at the mainstream stores is made in China), but really want Handmade items. My family is talented and have so many skills I would much prefer their pieces then stuff from a store.<br><br>
I am doing my best to try and get things we really want for this LO and will probably return some of the things we just can't get in line with. But I have to say in one big way I am spoiled I am getting a huge amount of hand me downs from a dear friend so I will have a lot available to me that is very ecofriendly and allows me to be pickier in some ways since everyone knows about all the hand me downs!
 

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I actually just finished my registry with myregistry.com. On that site, I was able to link to different products that I like from anywhere on the internet but before my guests can see any of the products I like they see a welcome page. So on that page I wrote that I wanted these gifts to be considered a "jumping off point". I stated that my husband and I appreciate homemade, recycled gifts and that since we would never pay full price for most of these items, we certainly don't expect anyone else to!<br><br>
Maybe you could try something like that? That site gives you a chance to explain your situation first and then add info to each product as you ad it. If you wanted to, I think you could even just find pictures on the internet and not link to any retailers at all. I *think*.<br><br>
Good luck, hth!
 

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Thanks for all of your ideas!!! I love the idea of a wish list on Etsy and the wish list on myregistry.com for the people that *must* buy new items.<br><br>
I was kind of thinking about writing a letter from the baby saying that he wants eco-friendly products as the invite for the shower. I was also thinking of listing the good resale and second hand stores in the area for my guests that don't know where they are.<br><br>
P.S. I just scored a beautiful dark wood Eddie Bauer High Chair for only $34 at a resale shop!!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">P.S. I just scored a beautiful dark wood Eddie Bauer High Chair for only $34 at a resale shop!!!</div>
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Oooo that is a great find!!!
 

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You have totally just inspired me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I am totally going to have an eco-shower as well. What a great idea!!
 

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I have seen invites (on recycled paper) that say handmade or recycled gifts only. I also went to a shower where everyone had to bring the baby a copy of their favorite book and then tell why it was their favorite. Some people did bring second hand copies of books or well loved ones.<br><br>
I love this type of thing! Lots of people say where they are registered, so I do not think telling people you would like to lessen your carbon footprint and have second hand or handmade gifts is lovely!<br><br>
Congrats and enjoy!<br><br>
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I have seen invites (on recycled paper) that say handmade or recycled gifts only. I also went to a shower where everyone had to bring the baby a copy of their favorite book and then tell why it was their favorite. Some people did bring second hand copies of books or well loved ones.<br><br>
I love this type of thing! Lots of people say where they are registered, so I do not think telling people you would like to lessen your carbon footprint and have second hand items is a bad idea.<br><br>
Congrats and enjoy!<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have seen invites (on recycled paper) that say handmade or recycled gifts only. I also went to a shower where everyone had to bring the baby a copy of their favorite book and then tell why it was their favorite. Some people did bring second hand copies of books or well loved ones.</div>
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At the shower I was just at, the invite said "In lieu of a card, please purchase and sign a children's book to help build our baby's library." What a great idea!!! Store bought cards are so darn expensive - you can get a great children's book for the same price. She got tons and tons of books because lots of people gave her 2 or 3 books. It was wonderful.
 

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there was a mothering article earlier this year w/ suggestions on this.<br><br>
We're going to use alternativegiftregitry.org this time. It's really cool, you can specify second hand in the description and it also provides a way to register for post-partum meals etc. look at the example. one friend of mine registered to borrow some items (like a co-sleeper and a changing table).
 

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These are such great ideas! I don't see us having a shower this time around, but I'm definately taking notes for when people ask us what we need!
 

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My advice would be polite with your wishes, and not be too dissapointed when people don't come through with the crunchiness.<br><br>
Below are the guidelines I'll be implying for our celebration:<br><i>"Only your presence is neccesary, but if you choose to bring a gift please keep in mind our son will be cloth diapered and breastfed; Disposables, pacifiers, and supplements are not needed."</i><br><br>
Any unwanted items/toys will simply be donated or gifted away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
For decor, we'll be doing the same as last time and using (already owned) baby books & stuffed animals along with mine and Hubby's baby photos. It's a nice change from the typical shower paraphenelia and the photos are a great personal touch. We like balloons so there will be lots of those around the house as well.
 

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This is a great idea!!!<br><br>
Amazon.com also has the same program as myregistry.com. I used it for my registry and it works great! Check it out <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fwishlist%2F137AHB0EDO2DY" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/wishlist/137AHB0EDO2DY</a> (I accidentally created this list along with my regular list, so...ignore the obviously-not-for-baby items at the bottom <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)<br><br>
Also, for natural toys, you can't beat <a href="http://www.magiccabin.com/" target="_blank">http://www.magiccabin.com/</a>
 

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In keeping with the DDC Guidelines, I'm going to move this to Green Living
 

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we also do an online registry service at Organic Grace<br><br>
i think designing your shower invitations to educate people as well as be sure to get what you want is a good idea. something along the lines of " we want a healthy world for our child to live in so...." the green movement grows as we pass our passion along to those we love. also stating that you welcome used cotton clothing can be fun then other thrift store shoppers can look for nice things.<br>
having a blessingway instead of a baby shower can also shift the energy away from the wasteful plastic consumerism....and is a lovely soul boosting ritual for women as well!
 
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