[momatheart23]

Well I have been in a kind of naive fog and ignoring alot of warning signs in my marriage, trying to "save" it, only to the point of having my husband hurt me in front of our kids which led to a huge wake up. I had him arrested, got a restraining order. Now I am piecing together all the crap he had been telling me and waking up. I got an emai from an online dating group addressed to my husband, anyone know about edatingsolutions? So it led me to open up the cookies on our computer and find a ton of porn all accessed during the middle of the night. There is one called adultrevenueservice.com , does anyone know of that one. I am trying to figure out if he was simply looking at porn or actually meeting up with women, either one bothers me but one is way worse obviously. I don't know about porn really at all, I am sheltered when it comes to that. But I know that he has been taking advantage of that. So I want to educate myself. Thanks so much for any help. Also when I look at the list of cookies is there anyway to click on it and go to the actual site he was on. I can't figure out if I can copy and paste or click on it. I want to know exactly what he was looking at but can't figure out how to do that. Not fun research but I am realizing my naivete is being used against me. edited to add he was also looking at adultfriendfinder.com which does look like a sex matching service. Where do I find info to know how to use this. He denies everything, he won't even admit he looks at porn, now I know why, he isn't just looking at porn. I am so livid and feel so foolish.

 

[Threefold]

I'm sorry mama, I don't have any of the answers you're looking for, but someone will.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s<br>
You sound very strong, I wish you all the support you need to get through this.

 

[AngelBee]

<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am so sorry he hurt you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying">

 

[MamaWindmill]

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Just a guess, but has he been paying to access porn sites? That URL sounds like a payment processing site or something. Do you have a debit/credit card? Can you access your statement online? I don't care if my husband looks at porn (he's not an obsessed creep and he certainly doesn't lie about it), but I'd be hella pissed if he wasted money on it and didn't tell me.<br><br>
One more thing - cookies can be from pop-ups too, not just sites purposely accessed, so some of the URLs you're finding may be from ads.<br><br>
ETA: I just noticed you said you had him arrested - what's the point of having him around anyway? Lying about porn seems to be the least of your worries if he's violent! I wish you luck. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">

 

[momatheart23]

He isn't around, I guess I need to be clearer. He has been out of the house since May 9th when he hurt me. I just want to know for my own sake all the lies he was telling. I don't like it if he was looking at porn but what I really want to know is if he was using the internet to make connections and then going and actually meeting women. That is what bothered me about adultfriendfinder.com it that is looks like it is to meet people IRL

 

[plantmommy]

Have you checked the browser history? If the history has been cleared, or set to expire within a short period of time, check the cache. The browser remembers sites that have been visited , according to your settings. Just type in letters in the url bar and it'll autofill the rest. It's a better way to see what actual sites have been accessed.<br><br>
Just start with a, then b, then c, etc. and see what urls come up.