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Eharmony users...need your suggestions

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I finally saved the money to subscribe to match.com I figured it was much cheaper, and I liked being able to search for whatever qualities I wanted isntea of having them picked for me (like on eharmony). Well, I'm disappointed. Out of the millions of people on match.com, and the qualities I'm looking for in a guy, *maybe* 1 has had half of them (and believe me, most of my things are very open as far as what I'm looking for). However, I did a profile thing on eharmony, and there about 5 guys, in the first day, who look like they are promising, lol.

The thing is, though, that I absolutely cannot afford to pay $60 for a month of looking for my husband, LoL. I was on eharmony like a yr ago and during that time, I also couldn't afford it, but after I think a week, they gave me a free trial. Does anyone know if they still do this? Also, does anyone have any special coupon codes? I know I used to be aprt of their mailing list and would get copons that would have it for half the price (so it'd be the same price as match.com).

I dunno. I keepg oing back and forth as to whether I should ever pay for an "online dating service", but I know that right now, I'm just not *out there*. I'm not really out any place where if a guy noticed me, etc., that I'd be like, hey, yeah let's go out! First of all, I'm not like that (not that I think those who are, are doing something wrong, I'm just not the type to give out numbers to, or call strangers). I would love to meet someone at church, but I'm currently searching for a new church, so it makes it a little difficult to meet someone when you're at a new place just about every week.

Anyone have any tips/suggestions?

THANK YOU!
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Dang it, if you had asked a couple weeks ago there was a coupon code to get 3 months for the price of 1. I'm pretty sure it's expired though. Sorry.
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Most of those sites do free trials.
I usually wait until I see one, then I go looking and if there's some interesting prospects, I sign up for the free trial, contact everyone and see what happens.
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Originally Posted by StephandOwen
Dang it, if you had asked a couple weeks ago there was a coupon code to get 3 months for the price of 1. I'm pretty sure it's expired though. Sorry.
bleh...wouldnt be able to use it anyway. It's kind of like buying in bulk...in the long run, it saves you a bunch of money, but sometimes I just don't have the money "upfront" to invest in it! I just don't have a $60 chunk that I can take out for *me*. Whether it's buying depsserately needed clothes, shoes, glasses, etc., I just don't have it, and even saving up for it is hard for me to fathom because then once I have that chunk of money, I won't feel right spending it on eharmony.

Thanks though!
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I met my husband on match dot com! Both of us us tried eharmony, but didn't like it. Maybe think of giving it a second chance!
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I played around with eharmony and they never did give me a free trial. I ended up joining match.com and met my bf. Match also seems to be connected with the new chemistry.com which seems really neat.

BTW, try widening your search a tad. Sometimes people just click the wrong thing or maybe some other trivial issue and they won't come up in your search. My bf said until just recently he had his search set for women w/o kids and when he met me, he had just added "kids" and as he says it, "was wonderfully rewarded".
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Originally Posted by cheyennemama
I played around with eharmony and they never did give me a free trial. I ended up joining match.com and met my bf. Match also seems to be connected with the new chemistry.com which seems really neat.

BTW, try widening your search a tad. Sometimes people just click the wrong thing or maybe some other trivial issue and they won't come up in your search. My bf said until just recently he had his search set for women w/o kids and when he met me, he had just added "kids" and as he says it, "was wonderfully rewarded".

I did the thing from chemistry.com I don't know what kind of system they have for people, but the guys they're matching me with aren't people I'd even REMOTELY consider. Glad I didn't actually pay for that one. I've gone over my search "criteria" over and over again, and realy there isn't anything on there that isn't absolutely a "MUST have". If someone emails me that doesn't realy match my criteria, depending on his profile and email, I will still takl with him. I feel tat I'm pretty openminded about that. There are just certain things that I absolutely won't bend on, and that's o.k. I think I may have better "luck" on eharmony, but just can't pay that amt. Although I did just see an expired coupon that was $44 for 3 months. Bleh. Oh well, something else will come up!
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I've heard there's a new one called plentyoffish.com it's apparently free. You could check it out.
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I had no luck with eharmony, or match.com, but tried craigslist and am really enjoying seeing someone now! It was nice for me to actually get AWAY from all the categories, which are sometimes too restrictive, and instead to have the ability to put just a straitforward message.

I'd definitely do a one week trial before I invested in it...by then you'd know if any of those prospects were any good, and for me, in that one week, they matched me with 20 guys and not one was ANYTHING like I'd be interested in, because they just didn't understand me well (like I kept being connected to conservatives, which for my peace-protest self just didn't fly, and there was no way to change the profile once eharmony decided it knew who I was).
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Yeah, I have to say that those matchups are a real waste of time. I can't tell you how many they'd say were a perfect match and when I'd look at their profile it would say how they don't want kids and don't want someone with kids. Um.....like that's not a negotiable kind of thing.
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But then again, my bf's profile said he had "some college" meanwhile he has his bachelors (clicked the wrong thing apparently) and that he wanted someone who was never married and no kids. But he'd changed his mind and never informed match. lol. You just never know. Everyone looks good or BAD on paper/computer depending.

I'd try a week trial. Set up an e-mail acct that you'll never use again for anything and pass this onto the guys. E-mail everyone remotely interesting and see the response.
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