So I have a nine month old who I adore and who adores me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">! My question is, am I encouraging her to be too dependant on me? Obviously, an infant is naturally very dependant, and I have done everything in my power to encourage a healthy attachment between us, but it seems like she may be getting to the age where she could be a little more independant. Do any of you moms have older children? At what age did your little one start becoming more independant? Do you feel like there were ways that interacted with your child in such a way as to encourage a healthy independance in them? I guess I just want my child to grow up to have confidence in herself and not feel like she has to turn to her father and I for everything (of course, I want her to feel like she CAN always come to us if she needs to, but not that she always HAS to!) Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Thanks for your input mamas!