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I have previously been in this specific forum looking for support from other mamas who find themselves up every 1-2 hours at night. Our dd has BF since she was born, and we have always coslept (it was just easier). But she had always woken up at least 5 times a night, sometimes closer to 7 or 8. We had a lot of friends tell us to just do cry-it-out, and we'd get her sleeping through the night soon. We were not comfortable with that, and kept on with what we were doing.<br><br>
When 9 months hit, I was exhausted, angry, and resented the fact that we breastfed. I kept at it because I knew it was best for both of us, but my husband started giving me nights where I slept on the couch for most of the night while he soothed her to sleep if she woke.<br><br>
Having those breaks really helped me, but I was still struggling with extended BFing, especially considering by 13 months we were still nursing around 15-18 times in a 24 hour period. About a month ago I went to a conference to train to become a birthing instructor, and she had to stay with daddy for 4 1/2 days. The time apart gave me rest, but also made me realize how precious and amazing our BF relationship was.<br><br>
When I came home the resentment was gone. I was so excited to nurse her whenever she needed.<br><br>
Almost as if she knew that it was good again, she started sleeping longer stretches at night, and occasionally laying back down when I prompted her to without nursing. She is now only waking 1 or 2 times at night. I'm the one that still wakes up every couple hours out of habit!!<br><br>
I do want to encourage moms that are getting resentful to find solutions for that. If that means daddy can take baby for stretches of time while you sleep on the couch or guest bed, do it as often as is right for your family. Maybe it means night-weaning. But I know that I'm SO glad I was able to step away long enough to realize how precious it was to me again.<br>
As my favorite doctor, Dr Bill Sears, says, if you resent it, change it! It needs to work for your family...<br><br><br>
I just want to encourage those mamas out there who have "older" kids who are still waking often at night. Keep doing what you know is right and natural, being there for your child during the night! If that means breastfeeding, cosleeping, bedsharing, keep at it if you are able. I'm proof that we don't HAVE to do CIO to get our babies to sleep through the night. It just sometimes may take 15+ months <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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What a wonderful reminder! It is hard at times to remember that it is a relationship and the needs of both involved need to be met.<br><br>
So glad things are better for you and your family! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Thank you so much for posting this -- a very good reminder, indeed! And it gives me hope... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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What a beautiful post! And thank you for the encouragement, I'll take it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 
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