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<p>Sooo DH was driving home from work and the engine caught fire. We don't have collision & comprehensive so I'm guessing it's not covered by insurance. We're not sure yet whether it will be considered 'totaled' or if they can fix it (it's sitting in some shop a 1/2 hour away). So we may need to buy a new car. I'm so annoyed because we went through $$$$ of repairs in August just to get it to pass inspection. We even took it to a dealership for full diagnostics & repair since the local mechanic couldn't pinpoint the issue. A month later, the check engine light went on AGAIN, and the last few times I drove it, it was rattling. I told DH multiple times to bring it to get checked out again but he didn't. This is not the first time he's basically run a perfectly good car into the ground because he slacked off on general maintenance & repairs. I'm soooo annoyed but trying hard not to take it out on him. He's not home yet. Now I'm going to be stuck home (for me a fate worse than death, & nothing's in walking distance) because he'll need to take my car to work.</p>
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<p>What do I do????? I don't really know what I'm asking, I'm just annoyed -- ok angry -- at DH and worried we'll have to spend the weekend finding a new car which we were not at all prepared for and just feeling emotionally shaken I guess....... and mad that we paid so much money to 'fix' the car when obviously it was still quite broken.</p>
 

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<p>That sucks.  So here are my answers:</p>
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<p>Is is repairable?  Maybe, but knowing that your DH did not maintain it, do you want to fix it?</p>
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<p>Is it covered by insurance?  Not w/o comprehensive coverage, and even then not if you failed to perform the schedule maintenance.</p>
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<p>What should you do?  I would take all the responsibility for the scheduled maintenance in the future.  If you knew that the car needed to be checked out, you are equally at fault for not getting it done (probably not what you wanted to hear).</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>anj_rn</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1284389/engine-fire-now-what#post_16103269"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>If you knew that the car needed to be checked out, you are equally at fault for not getting it done (probably not what you wanted to hear).</p>
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Yes I know. But I took DS out multiple times so DH could take care of things. I reminded him over & over. I called him & said Hey stop at the autoshop on your way home tonight. He has the car all day every day and we couldn't swap cars because his doesn't fit a child car seat. Excuses, I know, but I really feel like this was his responsibility. There's more to this but I won't get into it. Anyway. Whatever. I guess I'm car shopping now... my least favorite thing in the world.</p>
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<p>I just want to cry.</p>
 

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I'm very sorry for all that you're going through as well as all the accompanying stress.<br><br>
Car shopping is my favorite thing so if you have any questions, fell free to shoot me a PM or post away! As a former full-time mechanic and lifelong car enthusiast, I'm addicted to the car posts.<br><br>
As far as fixing it ... if you can afford to replace it, now is the time. Next time consider buying a car that fits the car seat so that you can swap and, like anj_rn suggested, take all responsibility for car stuff in the future.<br><br>
Good luck, lady!
 
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<p>OOOHH good tell me what car to buy!!! lol!! I spend all day doing auto-related stuff for work but I acutally know almost nothing about  cars.</p>
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<p>This last car was bought several years before we had kids so the replacement will obviously need to be something that fits carseats, preferrably 3 across in case we actually succeed in our TTC efforts (though I'm so emotional right now that I'm regretting trying lol). And good mileage is important to me, as is good price (under $10K). And safe & likely to last a long time. I don't even know where to begin. Our other car is an Aveo which I like but it seems way too narrow if we have more than 2 kids.</p>
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<p>I don't feel at all confident car-shopping & that is my biggest problem. Being rushed makes it even worse. I don't know how anyone buys a car if they don't know about cars.</p>
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<p>Yes I will have to take over all maintenance. That stinks because I seriously have way too much on my plate already -- taking care of DS full time while working 20+ hours a week (from home) plus handling all our finances and all the details of our lives and dealing with a poorly-controlled chronic illness. I don't know if I can take one more responsibility (especially in an area I know so little about) but I guess I have no choice now.</p>
 

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My first recommendation:<br><br>
2006 Honda Accord<br><br><a class="bbcode_url" href="http://www.autotrader.com/fyc/vdp.jsp?ct=u&car_id=291065292&dealer_id=54537981&car_year=2006&doors=&systime=&model=ACCORD&search_lang=en&start_year=2006&keywordsrep=&keywordsfyc=&highlightFirstMakeModel=&search_type=both&distance=25&min_price=&drive=&rdm=1291940314102&marketZipError=false&advanced=&fuel=&keywords_display=&sownerid=66620&lastBeginningStartYear=1981&end_year=2006&showZipError=y&make2=&certified=&engine=&page_location=findacar%3A%3Aispsearchform&body_code=0&transmission=&default_sort=newsortbyprice_DESC&max_mileage=&address=33602&color=&sort_type=priceDESC&max_price=&awsp=false&make=HONDA&seller_type=b&num_records=25&cardist=3&standard=false" target="_blank">2006 Honda Accord for sale - Example</a><br><br><a class="bbcode_url" href="http://www.kbb.com/used-cars/honda/accord/2006/private-party-value/pricing-report?id=737&pricetypepath=trade-in&condition=excellent" target="_blank">Kelly Blue Book - 2006 Honda Accord</a><br><br><a class="bbcode_url" href="http://autos.msn.com/research/vip/Reliability.aspx?year=2006&make=Honda&model=Accord&trimid=-1" target="_blank">2006 Honda Accord Reliability Report</a><br><br>
I have more used cars suggestions to come when I get a moment! Cars that I have personal experience with and have stood up well though the years as far as reliability (Subaru Legacy and Honda CRV, to name a few).<br><br>
Feel free to give a clearer picture of your specific needs and I'll be more than happy to offer suggestions.<br><br>
I know you aren't having fun with this but I do hope you have good luck!
 
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