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Don't worry, it was *only* in a dream.<br><br>
Weirdest part? I cheated <i>on</i> dp <i>with</i> dp.<br><br>
Anyone have any dream like this before? Or any idea what it means potentially?<br><br>
More details: the dp I cheated with was happy, smiling and attentive whereas the dp I cheated on was cold and distant. Hrm...
 

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I have regular nightmares about having cheated on my husband with someone else. One thing that makes them suck so bad is that I generally don't get to experience the cheating in the dream--only the guilt afterward. I have been with this person IRL for 12 years, I haven't cheated and I haven't been tempted to cheat.<br><br>
I think the dreams are meant to tell us something, but I'm not sure exactly what.
 

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Yes, I've dreamed that, too, recently. I don't know what it means other than we aren't having enough s*x.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">One thing that makes them suck so bad is that I generally don't get to experience the cheating in the dream--only the guilt afterward.</div>
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I've had that too. It does suck. If I'm gonna have the guilt, can I least knock some booties, please?
 

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Yeah - or I dream something with a lot of tension and just as things are about to get hot and heavy I wake up. Dang. Couldn't I at least have a fun fling in the dream before waking up feeling guilty? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"><br><br>
To me it's a signal to try to increase intimacy with dh, even if it's non-sexual....and try to make our connection and relationship more of a priority.
 

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I had a dream I cheated on DP with Daniel Craig, it was wonderful.
 

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I haven't had that kind of dream, but I have had cheating dreams. It's usually when we haven't had sex for a while.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Don't worry, it was *only* in a dream.<br><br>
Weirdest part? I cheated <i>on</i> dp <i>with</i> dp.<br><br>
Anyone have any dream like this before? Or any idea what it means potentially?<br><br>
More details: the dp I cheated with was happy, smiling and attentive whereas the dp I cheated on was cold and distant. Hrm...</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">:<br><br>
I've totally done this! It may just be a brain fart, may mean something in context (ex. you cheated with the twin, a younger version, the bad twin whatever). I just take it as fun and don't worry over it much. My dreams typically dissapper from memory pretty quick!<br><br>
You should tell dp. He'd be flattered.
 

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Yep, I'll admit it...I've been with the younger, thinner, more fun and attentive DH in dreams...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I have dreams that I'm having sex with other men about once a week. The only thing is, they aren't nightmares. I'm always enjoying myself in the dream. Sometimes I'm a little sad to wake up from these dreams.<br><br>
I regularly dream that I'm having sex with my old boyfriend from college. (I don't have <i>any</i> feelings in real life of wishing that this boyfriend and I were still together, or that he was "the one" for me....) I've also had sex with my (male) therapist in my dreams, and that would be a disaster in real life. Another sex partner when I'm sleeping is my boss at work.
 

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I've been dreaming about having a 3some with DH and DH recently- it's weird...
 

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I had dreams like that when I was preg. It is kinda nice, lol.
 

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I periodically have dreams of sleeping with a man that looks exactly like DH from the neck down. His face is always fuzzy or obscured in the dreams so I call him "faceless man". DH cracks up when I tell him about my dream escapades with this mystery man.
 

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I have done crazy things to my dh in a dream. Some of the very disturbing. I ussually have affairs with other men in my dream. I have told my dh about a few of them because they are funny.<br><br>
I personally would take that having an affair with my dh meaning I need to stop and spend time with him and spice up the relationship.
 

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I was a little scared to open this thread as I feared much flaming going on!<br><br>
That's a pretty funny dream. I'm curious if in your dream he found out about your cheating and what he thought of it? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I think it means simply that there are times when you love and desire your DH and there are times when you want to kick him to the curb. Seems pretty normal to me!!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yes, I've dreamed that, too, recently. I don't know what it means other than we aren't having enough s*x.</div>
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Yeah, that's a likely culprit...it's been awhile (for us anyway) and we're pretty distant lately, A LOT of stressors going on.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">That's a pretty funny dream. I'm curious if in your dream he found out about your cheating and what he thought of it? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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Actually yeah...dream dp and I were hanging out, real dp walked in to say something to me, said it, without even noticing dream dp and walked out. Huh.<br><br>
Glad I'm not the only one.
 

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I have an ex-DH, and occasionally I have a dream that I'm back with him. Usually now-DH is there in the background still... sometimes ex has moved in with us, sometimes I'm just, in the dream, remembering my years with now-DH and wondering why I had been with him at all, why I had left ex in the first place... Usually there's no BOOTIE-KNOCKING, it's just cuddling or talking or romancing...<br><br>
It's VERY disorienting when I wake up and find that I'm "back" with now-DH again.<br><br>
It's PROBABLY just a by-product of the mixed emotions that come with broken marriages. Of course I loved my ex and in some ways always will, and every day you ask yourself "could things have turned out differently?". I had to cold-start the whole process all over again with now-DH, so it stands to reason that my imagination wonders what it would be like to re-cold-start with the ex after rejecting the now-DH, instead of the other way around...
 

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I actually have had that exact same dream (cheating on DH with DH). I am one to pay very close attention to my dreams. I remember them vivadely, and they have often told me things I wouldn't have otherwise known in my waking life. When I had that dream, DH was in Iraq. I dreampt I was with DH, and suddenly realized that I was married, and what was I doing?? The real DH was (in the dream) still in Iraq. To me that dream was very obviously representative of the lack of physical intamacy between us. Even though we were connected emotional, we werent physically, and I was looking for that. I also think it represented the different sides to DH, and the loneliness I felt without him there. I think you should look at your situation and see how the dream would apply to your waking life. A lot of times our dreams present themselvs in less obvious ways. Pay attention to the feeling more than what happend. So in other words, you were feeling guilty. Is there something your feeling guilty about in real life that needs to be adressed? Thats what I would go by. Hope that could help some. Then again, there are allways those dreams that could possibly mean nothing at all.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have an ex-DH, and occasionally I have a dream that I'm back with him. Usually now-DH is there in the background still... sometimes ex has moved in with us, sometimes I'm just, in the dream, remembering my years with now-DH and wondering why I had been with him at all, why I had left ex in the first place... Usually there's no BOOTIE-KNOCKING, it's just cuddling or talking or romancing...<br><br>
It's VERY disorienting when I wake up and find that I'm "back" with now-DH again.<br><br>
It's PROBABLY just a by-product of the mixed emotions that come with broken marriages. Of course I loved my ex and in some ways always will, and every day you ask yourself "could things have turned out differently?". I had to cold-start the whole process all over again with now-DH, so it stands to reason that my imagination wonders what it would be like to re-cold-start with the ex after rejecting the now-DH, instead of the other way around...</div>
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Oooooh. Me too! This is SO disturbing for me. I dream of the old relationship and even having s-x with that person and thinking "I don't like this. I don't want this. I wish I could get out of this relationship. How am I going to go on?" ANd then I wake up disoriented but feelign like I won the lotto to be with dh.<br><br>
I'd LIKE to tell him about it but anything pertaining to any of my ex's makes him upset so I never discuss it.
 
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