Kama, unless something was posted today that I missed it wasn't that outlandish. Just people saying pm me for recommendations or posting titles of books and some links.
I have to say that given the very explicit article in the new issue of mothering about how sex is now better after kids, I would have thought that some of the "family friendly" rules might have changed. Given what they were, I'm surprised that got published. Although it was an awesome article and worthy topic.
Talking explictly about the how-to's of sex and/or erotica/porn and giving links to sites that offer those kinds of services is outside of the realm of what we consider family-friendly.
Talking about sex (as a larger, general issue) as it pertains to being a mom and partner is acceptable.
This thread was not related (at least not obviously related) to mothering or being a partner. It was specifically related to solicitation of erotic materials. There is no personal judgement on the topic--it simply isn't what Mothering chooses to host on its boards.
Actually, I thought it was more about reccomendations for partners to spice up their sex lives. Not trying to argumentative, just what I interpreted it as. Also, there was only one link that was used and could have been thought maybe a problem. The other reccomendations were only titles or names of stores. Don't we often refer others to good parenting books, breastfeeding books, relationship books, educational videos, and other such material? I, personaly, thought it was just one of those threads. Why is it that we can ask for marital advice but the minute we encourage any or all sexuality it becomes a question? Again, not being argumentative, just curious. I thought the advice that was given was very discrete and helpful.
Of course it is my opinion, that sexuality between partners is something that can be discussed in and out of the bedroom. Female friendly erotica is very hard to find, and I (as well as others) feel that it is a valid part of a healthy relationship. I can empathize with the aggrivation of being in a male dominated sexual world, and not being able to find anything sexual that women can relate to.
I also, as a side note, feel very discouraged about posting on threads such as these. Some are removed and some are left. I feel almost as if my long, well thought out post, will just be flushed in the sea of threads. I hesitate to post on any other threads such as this, for fear my well thought out post will be trashed and stiffled.