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<p>This is kind of silly, but I always second guess myself on things like this.  I have a friend who has started quilting as a home-based business.  She has quilted quite a few small quilts (ex: baby and child sized) and has planned an open house for early December.  I'm invited of course.</p>
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<p>The thing is, before I even knew she was going to start quilting, I had become interested in it myself and am working at a verrry slow pace quilting a blanket for my daughter.  Also, her quilts are on the high-end of the price range.  But she's very excited and has invited me and told me to bring friends.  (a) I literally don't know anyone who would come.  I only have a few close friends, and none of the others will be interested in this type of thing.  So I feel bad that I can't bring anyone.  (b) I was going to go and support her, but do you think that means I should be buying a quilt?   I feel extra confused about it because I helped her with something recently that took a lot of time, and she said she is making me a quilt.  So now, I just have no idea.  I don't really want to buy a quilt (since I'm already making one myself) and it doesn't really fit into my budget.</p>
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<p>But if you go to someone's open house that they are having specifically to sell their handmade items, isn't it rude not to buy something?  :|</p>
 

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<p>I always feel awkward about stuff like that too. I flat-out refuse to go to those parties where people sell stuff like candles, kitchen gadgets, etc., but this is different because it's your friend's art form and you want to support her. When I go to friends' art openings I usually do purchase something small, like a small-scale print (usually under $20), but I don't know if your friend will have stuff like that available. I'm sure she won't be expecting every attendee to drop a bunch of cash on a quilt, she probably just wants to get the word out and have a nice evening with her friends. I know my artist friends are touched when friends just show up at their openings, and as far as I can tell they never expect their friends to buy stuff, so I think you're fine to just go and be excited for her and not buy anything. But I can understand feeling awkward. </p>
 

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<p>I would go. Just because you attend, it doesn't mean you have to buy anything. She may have the intention of giving you the quilt while your there, I can't see it as being something you would have to pay for though. If she said she is making it for you then that generally means it's being done as a gift.</p>
 

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<p>As an artist/craftsperson: a big part of having an open house like this isn't just to get people to buy your work, but to get to share it/see it/show it off/get input since so much of your time working is done alone.  Going and giving her compliments/critique or asking advice for your own project is going to be just as exciting for her whether or not you buy anything.  It's just nice to have anyone else be excited that you make things, besides yourself.  </p>
<p>And having other people see her work and be able to say (when it comes up) "oh hey, I have this friend who makes the best quilts - you should give her a call, it's just what you're looking for. . . " - it's important just to have people know you make something and know what it looks like and all that.  That's more of the point (than selling things).</p>
 

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<p>Just because you don't think your friends would  be interested doesn't mean they won't be.  I mean, everyone knows people having babies, and just b/c the person looking might not like it, they may like it for a potential baby.  Quilting can be done all cutesy country, it can also be done punk rock, all-american, mod, etc.  So, why not just invite your friends and support your friend?</p>
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<p>I make & sell things at local shows and my farmers market stand.  I like it when my friends buy things, but I don't think they are obligated to.  But, they know if they need a baby hat or some fingerless gloves that they can come to me and I'll give them a good price.  I have lots of friends that make similar things and are waaaaay more talented than me (see: higher priced) and when I want something special for me or someone, sometimes I spring for it and they give me a good price. </p>
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<p>As far as feeling like you need to buy something, that's you not her.  If she said she's making you a quilt, I doubt she expects you to buy one.  I also sell barefoot books and I've hosted a few parties.  It's more about getting the kids together to play, no one's obligated to buy anything.  But if they want to, they can.  I don't see what the big deal is, really.  Be a good friend, I'm sure she'll reward you with a beautiful quilt for your darling daughter.  And perhaps one day in the future, you'll need a gift for a friend who's having a baby and you won't have the time, energy, patience, etc to make it yourself, and then you'll be able to support your friend's business.  :)</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>MissMommyNiceNice</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1279189/etiquette-question-for-friend-s-open-house#post_16043428"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a>So, why not just invite your friends and support your friend?</div>
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LOL, well, this issue is that I'm quiet, shy, in a new town and only have a couple of close friends (and she's one of them).  My other friends don't live around here.  So I can't really invite anyone.  I guess I'll invite my other 2 friends, but I already know neither of them will come.  But I'll try anyway.</p>
 

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<p>When I am invited to something like this (most recently a jewlry party, and I don't wear jewlry, the invitee knows this), I usually go, just to show my support.  But, they should know I will not buy.  And I have never had them mind.  I also add an extra person to the mix.  It can put other people that come at ease, where more people around makes less pressure on individuals.</p>
 

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<p>I would go, and ask if there was anything I could bring or if I could stay and help clean up. This way, she would know that I supported her and there would be no weirdness about me not buying anything.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Adaline'sMama</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1279189/etiquette-question-for-friend-s-open-house#post_16045982"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I would go, and ask if there was anything I could bring or if I could stay and help clean up. This way, she would know that I supported her and there would be no weirdness about me not buying anything.</p>
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This exactly!</p>
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<p>I am also a quilter, and they are incredibly expensive and time consuming to make, so a high price is usually very justified.  However, I'm sure she knows that a quilt is not something you just buy on a whim, or should feel obligated to buy just to show support.  I mean, we're not taking about a 10 or 20 dollar necklace here!</p>
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<p>I'd go and offer support and help in setting up and cleaning, so that she can concentrate on the quilts and not if the appetizers are running out.</p>
 
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