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My marriage has had serious issues from the start...10 years on Thursday. I have separated from DH before, but when he appologized and started doing things to address the problems I returned. It has been two years now and things are moving in a bad direction again. I am no longer willing to live with the problems and pray for change. I've heard people say that you should not make this sort of decision while pregnant or in your 1st year pp. I really don't think my sanity could wait another 15+ months to start my divorce. I need out now.<br><br>
Any opinions, thoughts, thought provoking questions, flames?<br><br>
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I think that in your case were you have been through all this before and it got better but now it is going the same way again then odds are good that your decision is being based on that and not hormons.<br><br>
I am sorry you are going through this <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> and hope that you can have the answers you need to be happy.
 

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I did - my ex-husband was abusive and actually physically attacked me when I was pregnant, but the worst was the emotional abuse and game-playing. You'd think a restraining order would be reason enough for family/friends to support me leaving him, but all I heard at the time was "but you're<br>
PREGNANT! How can you leave him now?" Well, I did and it was the best decision I ever made. Several years later, we're just fine and my baby grew up in a stable and peaceful home.<br><br>
I don't now what your situation is but if it is causing you undue stress and misery it is better for your unborn child to change it, I think. Good luck!
 

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In my experience, when you've reached the end of the line and know you are done, you are done and nothing is going to change that.<br><br>
You have to follow your heart and do what is best for you and your family.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><br><br>
I made my husband move out when I was 8 months pg with dd. I was afraid I wouldn't go into labor.<br><br>
She was born in October. I didn't file until after the holidays and then it was finalized in May.<br><br>
I believe that you know when you know.<br><br>
Take care mama - oh - I feel for you.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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