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This thread was helpful when I had my first m/c but I wasn't in a place where I could record exactly what happened. Unfortunately, I've just experienced my second & I think I can better record it--I hope it's helpful to someone. I'm sorry for all who have posted here or need to read this thread.

This is my second missed miscarriage. I found out at 11w2d that baby stopped growing at just over 7w. We had heard a heartbeat at 7w1d but baby passed shortly afterward. I started spotting very, very lightly at 10w6d. I was immediately concerned because that was exactly how my first mmc started at about the same time in that pregnancy. But the spotting was so slight that I still had some hope. I wasn't cramping so I tried to stay positive. When my midwife couldn't find the heartbeat on her strongest Doppler, she made an appointment for me to get another ultrasound. I was still hopeful because the spotting was still light (though more prevalent) & we had already heard a heartbeat, which we hadn't heard with the last pregnancy. Well, the ultrasound revealed that baby had died.

Time to wait as I wanted to miscarry naturally at home again. Nothing came & I even went back to work after waiting for things to start. For about 4-5 days I had what I'd classify as a light flow. It was sometimes brown, sometimes bright red. I had a session of acupuncture. I was taking TCM herbs, drinking herbal teas (red raspberry leaf & dong quai), taking evening primrose oil, and homeopathic remedies (sabina & sepia). I took all this for a couple days religiously.

At what would have been 12w1d my flow was all bright red. I had some diarrhea & thought maybe I was clearing out in preparation for the m/c. The next morning I was sitting with my feet up on the couch when I felt a gush. It was bloody & watery & I think it was the water breaking. I caught what I think was my mucous plug.

I spent the next 30 minutes or so in the bathroom. I was alone & DH was on his way home. I got into the shower & squatted, which felt very comfortable. I was a bit crampy but did not have strong contractions. I took a shower & felt very peaceful. I was bleeding a lot but not that many clots. At one point I was feeling labor-like contractions & back pain. I let the water fall onto my back & found relief. I turned off the water & squatted again. I felt something coming & caught the sac, intact. It was gray-ish & translucent, with a vein-like pattern. I think I saw the fetus inside but I didn't want to disturbe the sac so I did not open it to confirm. DH got me a ziplock for it & we will bury it, in the same spot as our other lost baby. I felt relief & I felt my spirit uplifted.

I bled a lot after this for about 3 hours or more with lots of big clots. We considered going to the hospital for a bit--it was a constant drip & always a gush anytime I moved. Each time got up from the chair I had to got to the bathroom to change my cloth pad (mind you, cloth doesn't absorb blood as quickly as disposable). But I did not feel at all dizzy or shaky so we decided to wait to see if it would slow down. At one point I passed something quite large & I believe that it was the placenta. I was hopeful that the bleeding would slow after that. (To anyone reading this--if you're at all concerned withy how much you are bleeding, call your midwife or doctor!)

I decided it was time to lie down. I was feeling tired & my uterus was feeling worn out. Eventually the bleeding did slow & I stopped passing clots. I feel as though I have passed everything, though I am still feeling some cramping. I hope that I have passed everything& I expect I will bleed for another week or so if that is the case. After that I will do another pregnancy test to make sure my HCG has dropped all the way. I also plan to do follow-up testing with a fertility specialist this time. I will edit this post with more if appropriate. Good luck to all.

Follow-up:
Day 2: I was tired & sat with my feet up most of the day. Bleeding was manageable. Cramps were minimal--I felt like I had done too many sit-ups & had stronger than usual period cramps.
Day 3: I felt good & got out of the house, moving slowly of course.
Day 4: Lots of cramps again, somewhat like labor contractions but very close together. Bleeding was somewhat more. I believe I passed some small tissue (it was slightly grayish & not just a clot but it was quite small). May have also overdone it the day before.
Day 5: Less crampy & bleeding seems to be tapering off again but still an alarmingly bright red. Some small clots. Son cramps also now seem to be more related to my bowels & bladder--it seems any pressure is causing cramping, which I remember also experiencing with my first m/c.

Dat 12: Still bleeding, medium to light flow but always bright red. Woke up to some cramping & in the morning passed a small amount of tissue that was definitely remains of the pregnancy (& probably part of the placenta). I'm still hoping to avoid d&c but this is taking a long time.
 

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I will share my story since it is fresh in my mind.

I found out very early i was pregnant. I was 10 dpo and i took a test and had a faint line. It was surprise baby but dp and i were so excited! I waited about a week and then called to make my first prenatal appointment. It was set for about 9.5 weeks, about a month from when i called.

Everything was fine, i was really 'feeling' pregnant, then around week 6.5 on a monday I woke up and just didn't feel the same, my appetite was gone, i thought maybe morning sickness was about to set in. I went to bed and the next morning i noticed a bit of brownish discharge. No biggie at first but then i had red blood, so i decided to call md wife office. By late afternoon I got a call back and they said i didn't need to be seen that day but they moved my appointment to friday (it was tuesday) i had to see another midwife i didn't know but just wanted to get in asap for my peace of mind. Tuesday was horrid. I had bad cramps, just spotting though. My breast became less tender. Wednesday and thursday were more like period days, though thursday i had what i would call mild labor like cramps, likely my cervix was dilating. I remember lying on the couch and murmuring, I think i need to push. I then went to the bathroom and out plopped a mass the size of a golf ball. I know it was the baby and tissue. I called for dp and we looked at it, is was bloody but we saw fleshy like tissue. We didn't take it out of the toilet. I broke down. I didn't know what to do. I finally had dp flush it because i just couldn't do it. I felt okay physically. I had appt the next day. I had slight after labor cramping. At my appt i was checked for hcg, progesterone and thyroid. I waited the weekend and found out my progesterone was low and hcg was only 185, i went in again on monday and the following morning i was told my hcg was 28. By tuesday bleeding had stopped. So about 1 week in all from beginning to end. I have a hard time being unpregnant, in just 3 weeks we had made so many plans and were already trying to decide on baby names. We will likely try later, but this baby was loved so much already, it is hard to let it go just yet.
 
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