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I could really use some advise here from anyone who has experience with a live-in nanny situation. DH and I have ZERO experience with nannies, so I don't know if this a reasonable scenario.... or if it's even legal, for that matter.<br><br>
Sorry if this is long winded, but I want to paint an accurate picture of what I'm proposing .... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> We have a family friend who's living with us now, but we're looking for something more long-term and we're not sure if this is reasonable to ask of an "employee".<br><br>
Essentially, we'd like to hire a live-in nanny to work 2-3 days a week and be compensated entirely with full room and board (ie: no actual money changing hands). We have a finished daylight basement that is about 600 sqft with a lot of light, cable/internet & paid utilities, plenty of storage. This person would also have a private bathroom upstairs on the main floor of the house. There is only a small fridge and a microwave downstairs, but she would, of course, have free access to the kitchen.<br>
In exchange, we would just ask that she look after DS2 (5yo) 2-3 days a week from about 8am-3pm. These days would be on a set schedule, so she could theoretically work another PT job or go to school on the other days. There may be 1-2 days when DS1 (12yo) was also here for a few hours before DH or I came home. Other than childcare, there may be some very light housework, but that would be limited to emptying out the dishwasher or rotating laundry - nothing too involved at all. Also, there would be "vacation" time when I take off time from work (probably 3 full weeks/year, plus some weeks where there was only one day of childcare needed)<br><br>
So, is this type of scenario realistic? One bedroom apartments in our area go for about $650-800 a month (plus utilities) and 3 days/week of childcare in a good preschool is about the same, so I think the living situation would be roughly equal to the value of the childcare.<br><br>
I don't know if DH and I are being realistic. Also, I'm wondering what the legal (tax) implications are if we did find someone who was interested. How do you report a bartering agreement like this one?<br><br>
Any comments or ideas would be welcome. Like I said, DH and I have no nanny experiences to draw from and we've never had any "domestic" help of any kind, so I don't know if we're asking too much here.<br><br>
TIA!
 

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dunno much about it, but my sister did something similar with free room and board (private bath in the basement), kitchen access in exchange for 20-hours of week childcare. Sis said it was a deal for her and the provider figured that out after a year or so. Provider was a student so I think it worked out of for a year or so.
 

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I don't have any experience or knowledge to offer but that sounds like a great arrangement and definitely worth pursuing to see if you can make it work out.<br><br>
Once you figure out the tax implications and whether or not the deal is fair, the biggest challenge might be finding the right person. I tried to find a local nanny and even though I live in a nice house in a very desirable area with lots of support and things to do, I had very few applicants despite tons of advertising in all the right places. Two of the applicants were fabulous but still both fell through for various reasons. Throwing in variables like the p/t and no actual paycheque might make it even harder to find someone who also has all the characteristics and values of a good nanny. Not saying it's not possible, but start spreading the word well in advance of the start date just in case.
 

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I did something similar in college. Live-in help for a mother with a 12-year old girl. I got her up M-F, packed her lunch, made sure she ate breakfast, and took her to school. I watched her one weekend night while Mom went out. I also picked up some of the girl scout activities and any movies Mom didn't want to see (or see again).<br><br>
I had a room of my own, shared bathroom. Paid for my own phone line and my own food, but had space in the kitchen/fridge for my things. When I had a car, I paid for my own parking permit, otherwise bus tokens were provided for getting kiddo to school<br><br>
I was otherwise free to come and go as I pleased. I was a senior in college with a full courseload and another part-time job.
 

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Well... I'd be sure to write a contract and establish very good boundries. I'd also say that what rent is worth is not a huge factor in this, as much as finding someone who is a good fit. A college student may workout. I would say that in this area live-in folks also get paid, as most people need income for things aside from rent (like - food, transportation, and clothing).
 
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