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My ds will be 3 and 8 months when my babe is born. He is still nursing 1-3 times a day, some days not at all. It seems most of the tandum nursing situations I read about the older nursing is closer to 2 or even younger. I imagine his nursing sessions will go up immediately following the birth but I really don't want him nursing more than 1-2 times a day after a while. I just don't think I will be able to handle it. What are others experiences with the older nursling?<br><br>
Also what have you done to prepare your older nursing for sharing the breasts? I have talked to ds about it and he says the baby can have this one (the opposite one he is nursing on) or says he will share but I'm wondering if there is more that I should be doing to get him prepared.<br><br>
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I've only tandem nursed a 19 month old and newborn so far, but I am due in March and my current nurser will be close to 5 and his brother who weaned about a year ago keeps telling me he is going to try after the baby is born too.<br><br><br>
But I thought I'd give you my thoughts anyway!<br><br>
Yes I think they will nurse more at first. I even think that probably it is important to give them a month or 6 weeks when you will almost always let them nurse and give them a chance to get used to the new baby. This is a time when your older child is going to be a lot more needy too, and nursing is an easy way to meet those needs. You don't have to play a game, or make a snack right now and they aren't writing on walls or making huge messes in the other room, they are sitting with you or laying down with you. one thing that has helped me deal with the nursing is if I have some special things for me to do when they nurse. Get a stack of magazines you love, a novel, or a CD and only use them when the oldest is nursing- then you look forward to the time too.<br><br>
If you have help, just getting the older child out can help. Once things warm up (I realize febuary in MN is going to be cold), just being outside for hours every day will keep your oldest too busy to nurse.<br><br>
I have heard other moms say that if they carry the baby in a sling most of the time, then often they can sneak in some of the baby's nursing sessions with out the older child really noticing.<br><br>
I don't know how much more you need to do to prepare. Maybe talking about how much babies nurse, and that the baby might need to use both sides sometimes.
 

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I'm due in December, and my nursling will be a month shy of 3 when the baby is born. He is VERY verbal, though, I'd say about 3.5 yr. old level. We have been talking about the baby for the past 7 months and he knows that the baby will nurse, and that babies can't eat anything but mommy milk (he said "that's sad") so they have to nurse a lot, and on both boobs. He still nurses a LOT (15+ times a day) so I expect him to nurse whenever the baby does, but am not really looking forward to that. Since your son nurses less, I'd talk about all the things he can do while the baby nurses- you can read a book together, he can eat a snack, play with toys, bring you water or food, etc. so that he won't be at a loss for stuff to do when you're stuck on the couch. Also, I second the sling idea.<br>
I'll let you know how it goes in December. I never really imagined nursing a 3 yr. old and a newborn at the same time!
 

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my oldest was close to 4 when his little sis was born. being that i was going to have 3 nursing (and a major chance all would want to nurse at the same time which would be impossible <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/upsidedown.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="upsidedown"> ) i started preparing the older ones that the baby gets top billing.<br>
You are already doing that with your child and since he's "assigning" breasts, i'd say he's got a good understanding.<br><br>
They love that new mama milk and be prepared he might want to nurse as much as the baby (maybe), but that's good! He'll certainly benefit from you milk in so many ways.<br><br>
My first 2 are 16 mos apart so i would spend many hours nursing them together. It was actually a good "me" time as i knew i could put my feet up and relax!<br><br>
Make sure you drink plenty of water!!! Whenever i got dehydrated (and it can happen rather quickly tandeming) it was bothersome to nurse. Whenever i got/get the icky feeling i just go drink a large glass of water. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/upsidedown.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="upsidedown"><br><br>
After a few months, your older nursling will probably nurse less frequently. Both my boys settled back into a routine of 3 a day.<br><br>
After the baby til present...anytime my boys complain that "sissy" is getting to much milk, i gently remind them that they nursed as frequent when they were her age. They really like to hear that. Just pointing out things your new baby is doing and telling your oldest that's what he did really seems to make them enjoy the experience more <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat">
 
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